Our whole life is full of meetings and partings. With relatives, friends, cities and countries, occupations and professions. Disappointment in the person we trusted can be a good lesson for us. Or destroy life by inflicting a non-healing wound. Is it possible to simultaneously maintain immediacy of perception and sincerity and protect yourself from pain? Or should we act according to the principle "do not betray the one who does not trust anyone"?
But it's almost impossible to live like this.
Disappointment in a person can be caused not so much by his betrayal or low deed. After all, much can be understood and forgiven. What worries us more is the need to change our idea of it. Disappointment in a person is always associated with emotions and feelings - it is most often associated with the fact that we did not know his real, that we created a fictional image. The discrepancy between this image and our expectations is what causes so much resentment and bitterness.
Quotes about disappointment in people teach us to be wise and calm about human weaknesses. For example, one of themsays: "Faith helps to live. Disappointment teaches to think." But W. Churchill formulated the idea a little differently: "If you are still capable of being disappointed, then you are still young." Let us ponder these words: they are truthful and witty. Skepticism and cynicism, the belief that the whole world is not trustworthy - this is a kind of old age of the soul.
Disappointment in a person is possible only when we trust our neighbors. Can you prepare for it? Put on a protective shell? You can only develop tolerance and the ability to forgive. Disappointment in a loved one is akin to the destruction of an idol, a deity. If we look at the one who is dear to us, not as the embodiment of an ideal, but as a mere mortal with all his virtues and weaknesses, it will be much easier for us to accept his sins.
How can you survive disappointment in a person? How not to get angry and hate him? Sometimes it seems that this is impossible. Betrayal and meanness hurt. But it is worth trying to separate the emotions that this or that act causes, your idea of \u200b\u200bthe person, from the real needs and situation. Are you angry or suffering because someone close did not do what you expected? What has said a lot of bad things about you or is dating someone else? Try to analyze the situation from a different angle. Why, in fact, did this person have to live up to your expectations and imagination, and not do what he thinks is right? After all, it would be much easier for you to forgive your sins andlimitations. Because you can understand yourself.
So try to understand the other one too. What drove them? What were his goals? He probably didn't mean to disappoint or hurt you on purpose.
We constantly raise the bar, demanding everything from life and at once. When we are young, we are full of hopes and dreams. But we cannot even perceive ourselves objectively. Mental maturity is manifested in not living with illusions. To accept reality as it is. Between cynicism, total skepticism and rosy optimism, there is a truly adult position. Live here and now, with those around you, accepting the world, yourself and other people.
