Unreciprocated love – an unpleasant feeling from which no one is immune. It is not for nothing that the saying “you won’t be forced to be nice” has appeared in our everyday life since ancient times. No one wants to be in the role of a person whose love was rejected. But still, this situation occurs quite often in life. How to survive this tragedy with minimal losses for yourself, how to stop worrying and getting upset - read in this article.
Love or addiction
Is there non-reciprocal love? The answer to this question is unequivocal: of course! And there are plenty of examples of that. Most of the poems, songs, novels and movies are devoted to the theme of unrequited love. It is interesting for us to observe how the heroes of popular works cope with the problem. But what to do if you find yourself in a similar situation?
Mutual love heals the most terrible spiritual wounds, inspires and gives a person a complete sense of happiness. However, love is often not reciprocated. Sad statistictestifies that almost every second person faces a situation in his life when feelings do not coincide.
Some people know how to switch, they easily endure this tragedy. Others may be stuck in a state of suffering for a long time.
Psychologists divide the feeling of love into: love and love addiction. True love is a free feeling. A loving person is able to calmly accept refusal, because he accepts the object of his adoration as he is, without expecting anything in return. Too bad this kind of love is very rare.
In most cases, non-reciprocal love causes very contradictory and unpleasant sensations. Suffering in case of refusal of a loved one means that a person becomes morally dependent on the object of his adoration. In this case, you need to take certain actions in order to feel the joy of life again, open up to new feelings and avoid the problems associated with constantly being in a state of depression.
First of all, it is important to figure out what you have: a real feeling or a love addiction? If your feeling gives you only pleasant emotions, you are lucky, you are able to love with unrequited love. Feeling uncomfortable means that you are dependent on the person you have feelings for.
Psychologists have been sounding the alarm for a long time: non-reciprocal love entails depressive disorders that do not have the most favorable effect on human he alth.
What not to do
How to get rid of non-reciprocal love? First of allyou need to try to avoid common mistakes that can only aggravate the situation.
Try to pull yourself together. Tears and self-pity won't change anything. You will only get a swollen face, red eyes and a tired overall look. In addition, such a reaction to the situation will not bring anything but negativity, you will not be able to tune in and make the right decision.
Loneliness during this period is not for you! Try to be among friends: chat, walk together, take up all your free time with common activities.
Don't eat your depression. In addition to extra pounds and food addiction, gluttony will not bring any more results.
Where to start healing
The very first thing to do is to understand that only you can help yourself. No one else but yourself can overcome the sadness, pain and frustration associated with being rejected.
Psychologists recommend: start living a full life. Make every effort to ensure that every moment of life is not wasted. Try to "switch" from your bitter thoughts to something new and unknown to you before. For example, join a fitness club, start painting, learn languages, go dancing…
Make a rule: every day before going to bed, sum up your new achievements. Over time, you will learn to enjoy your successes, and this significantly increases self-esteem. Be sure that your changes for the better will not go unnoticed, and soonyour environment will have a person with whom you will have mutual feelings.
Burn the bridges
How to survive non-reciprocal love? The best way to defeat her is to forget the person who rejected your feelings. This is easy to do if you follow certain rules.
- Remove from your sight the gifts, photographs, trinkets you have received while interacting with this person.
- Forbid people from your environment to feel sorry for you. Stop discussing and resenting unaccepted feelings. Stop telling anyone you know about the person you're trying to forget.
- If any music makes you painfully associated with an unrequited feeling, delete it and do not listen.
- Avoid places that can bring back memories and bitter thoughts related to this situation.
Unrequited love will quickly fade into the background if you take these tips responsibly and protect yourself from everything that may remind you of what happened.
Pamper yourself
A person who gets rid of the disappointment associated with unrequited love needs bright, positive emotions. Do not be afraid to pamper yourself, give yourself what you like, what can bring a smile to your face, give joy.
Take some time for yourself. Visit a beauty salon, get a trendy manicure, a new hairstyle. You can limit yourself to a bubble bath and a face mask at home. The main thing is to enjoy the process, to become better andmore confident.
Go shopping and give yourself a gift, buy what you have long dreamed of.
Such actions greatly increase self-esteem. If you want to be loved, love yourself first. Treat yourself as the most precious and beloved person. This approach works wonders: radiating joy and self-confidence, you will attract many positive emotions into your life.
Wedge kicked out with a wedge
Remember: non-reciprocal love is a temporary nuisance. Take a closer look - you are surrounded by many people who want to communicate with you. Let new people into your life, show interest in them, because who knows, maybe your destiny is among them.
Try to avoid getting psychologically addicted to unrequited love.
If you see that the person you have feelings for does not reciprocate, do not pull, immediately begin to act. The sooner you take control of your destiny, the sooner you will "recover" and begin to enjoy life again.
