Probably almost everyone has experienced disappointment in their lives. In people, in animals, in oneself … In such periods of life, one wants to withdraw into oneself, not to talk to anyone and not to trust anyone. However, it is strictly forbidden to do this, otherwise the usual disappointment in a person can result in a real depression. What to do and how to live on is discussed in the article.
Become wiser
Whenever a person is disappointed in people, it brings him a certain experience. It is thanks to the latter that wisdom accumulates. If the disappointment was more or less justified, and not far-fetched, then in the future the person most likely will not allow such situations, will not make the same mistakes. The main thing in this case is that the disappointment does not become clinical. Otherwise, a person will never be able to trust people again, and this is bad. Then it will be useless to talk about wisdom and life experience, but you can only refer the disappointed to a psychologist. Truth,a case can be called truly clinical if the feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction with others lasts for a long time, and not a couple of days or weeks.
Why is this happening
Disappointment in people can come for many reasons. The most common are listed below:
- Betrayal. When a person betrays, it hurts. And this leads to disappointment. And it’s good if only that same traitor becomes the “object of dislike”, otherwise the thought that all people are bastards and can’t be trusted can also creep in. It all depends on the scale of human meanness.
- Change. This is the same betrayal, but due to the fact that it is committed not just by an acquaintance, but by a loved one, people react to betrayal more violently. Most often, they are disappointed in potential "second halves" and then they are already afraid to start a relationship.
- Lie. Lies, especially large ones, are perceived, again, as a betrayal. Of course, there is a difference, but the meaning is the same: we understand that we have been deceived for a long time, we become disappointed in a particular person, and then, perhaps, we stop believing people altogether.
- Unjustified expectations. This is the most basic reason; all of the above and many others come from it. Any disappointment comes from the fact that a person hopes too much for something. He builds (in his head) illusions that have arisen not from the real state of affairs, but from his own fantasy, so it is not surprising that they fall apart like a house of cards, leaving the dreamer with a broken trough.
How to deal with disappointment
After another denunciation of human vices, committing unseemly acts and other unpleasant situations, a completely understandable question comes to mind: how to survive disappointment in people? It seems that everyone around is just like the person who did not live up to your expectations. In fact, this, of course, is not so. The only way to survive disappointment - any, including in people - is to understand, forgive and come to terms with the idea that no one / nothing is perfect on Earth. Nothing without this. Only awareness of the futility of trying to find a person without a single flaw can help get rid of disappointment now and prevent similar situations from happening in the future. However, the latter is discussed in more detail below.
How not to be disappointed in people in the future
The tips below will help you learn how to avoid feeling dissatisfied with unfulfilled expectations from people.
- First, you should stop idealizing others. The perfect person is impossible to find, so don't even try.
- Secondly, you need to become tolerant of other people's opinions and thoughts. To be disappointed in a person just because of his musical, political or other preferences is stupid.
- Thirdly, you must try to forget about the person who disappointed you and not judge other people by him. If only because absolutely identical people simply do not exist.
- Fourthly, you can not see all the surrounding enemies. After disappointment, it seems like everyone around is bad, but this is notso.
- Fifth, you need to listen to other people. Then in the future there will be no disagreements and cries from the “rival” in the style: “I already told you about what your claims are ?!” etc.
- Sixth, don't put high hopes on people. The less you expect something from a person, the less likely you will be disappointed in the future. Treat others the way they deserve and expect nothing from them.
Statuses and sayings about disappointment in people
Everyone wants to show their pain sometimes. Then the statuses about disappointment in people can be very useful, so that, without complaining to everyone you meet, you still tell others about what is happening in your soul. Another reason for using them is to turn a situation into a joke or look at it from a new angle. This is mainly helped not by ordinary statuses, but by wise statements about disappointment in a person. They will not only help to cope with the pain, but also to think about the future, in which such mistakes can be avoided.
- A dog is man's best friend. Will not betray, will not let you down, will support in difficult times and will never disappoint.
- Ah, the wedding. Women marry out of curiosity, and men marry out of boredom. The result is that both sides are severely disappointed.
- The more disappointments you experience in life, the less you believe in the existence of worthy people.
- The main thing is to never expect anything from others. And then you won't have to be disappointed inpeople.
- It's not loneliness that attracts me. I just don't want to get to know someone again so as not to experience another disappointment.
- There is a beauty in not loving anyone. Feel no disappointment.
So now that you know a little more about this feeling, you can avoid it in the future. Treat people easier - and life will become easier.
