Becoming more influential and being a strong person is a dream that many people have, but most simply give up, as it is difficult to find an answer to the question of what actions need to be taken to achieve what they want. It is extremely difficult to describe exactly who can be called a "strong person", because the definition can change depending on the person in question. However, there are several aspects that are usually mentioned in various definitions of this phenomenon. According to the ordinary idea, a strong personality is a bright and significant person who occupies the position of a leader, not a follower. In this article, we will talk about how to develop these qualities and learn how to prevent third-party influence.
How people around us influence us
Should a person claiming to be a “strong personality” first of all learn to be himself? Society, friends, relatives and loved ones require certain behavior from us, whichwould match their expectations. Under pressure from the public, many people become mediocre, instead of developing the qualities that a strong personality possesses. The examples clearly demonstrate how the influence of others manifests itself in our daily lives.
- The manner of dressing. The choice of clothes is dictated by fashion and other people's expectations.
- Behavior. As soon as you do something sudden or something that sets you apart from the crowd, people will question your act or judge you.
- Preferences. A recommendation or good review from your friend can make someone or something very attractive in your eyes. Thus, even our choice may be dictated by someone else's opinion.
- Other. Every day we hear a lot of phrases that can make us another “sheep in the shepherd's flock” - “do this”, “do this”, “you are crazy”, etc.
The future strong person takes the first step by separating from the "herd" and allowing himself to have his own thoughts, ideas, beliefs, behavior and character.
Get stronger by learning to be different
As soon as you try to stand out, many people who feel safe that things are happening according to their expectations will criticize you. There are several techniques that will help you calm anyone who tries to do this.
- "What's the problem?" Weak people back off or even change their behavior as soon as they receive a warning from someone who appears to be more confident. "Whatproblem?”, “I like to do it this way”, or “I'm interested in this” are possible phrases that make it clear that you are a strong person.
- Counterattack. Bright people can surprise others by going on the counter instead of defending. “Why do you take the time to blame me? Is everything too smooth in your life?”.
If you can't, but really want to, then you can. People with low self-esteem often apologize for their actions to flatter others. Strong personalities know that they can act in a certain way simply because they like it or think it's important. “I do it because I like it. Why should I do what you like?”
Of course, this is not all you need to know to become a strong person. However, this important step will allow you to learn to be a self-sufficient person and not depend on the opinions and expectations of other people, to become happier and more confident in yourself.
