How to recognize a person's lies and not become a victim of a liar? Yes, it's not easy, but it's possible. The facial expressions and gestures of the interlocutor can easily betray him as a deceiver.
Lie has long been an integral part of human life. Everyone resorts to this method, but each for their own personal reasons: to save relationships, to humiliate the interlocutor, to achieve some goal. The article will not talk about the causes of deception, but about its signs. It will help you figure out how to recognize the lie of the interlocutor by facial expressions and gestures.
Detecting the cheater
All people lie - this is a fact, a harsh truth of life that should be accepted. In pursuit of their goals, those around them either hide the truth (at best), or deceive each other (at worst). How to recognize a lie and calculate a liar?
In this harsh world it is very difficult to figure out who is telling you the truth and who is lying. But there are psychological clues that can help expose.
A person usually does not notice how he behaves during a dialogue. However, according to psychologists, gestures and facial expressions are a subconscious demonstration of true feelings. You just need to learn to recognize them. And then it will be easy to expose the liar.
Howrecognize lies by human facial expressions
Psychologists say that people who lie try their best to pass the lie off as the truth. Their efforts are accompanied by certain gestures, intonation of speech, involuntary movements of the body.
But all people are different, and they also deceive in different ways, in which case how to recognize a lie? In psychology, several types of deception and a whole range of signs of a liar have been identified.
Here are some of them:
- If the sides of a person's face do not act the same. For example, the interlocutor squints his left eye a little, he has one eyebrow raised, the corner of his mouth is lowered. It is the asymmetry that testifies to the lie.
- Person rubs lower or upper lip, coughs, covers mouth with hand.
- His complexion has changed, his eyelids twitch, his blinking frequency increases. This is because a lie tires a person, he subconsciously suffers from it.
- The interlocutor keeps looking into his eyes, as if he is checking whether they believe him or not.
Asymmetry as a sign of deception
A person, when he tells a lie, tenses up. And despite the fact that he does his best to hide it, he does not always succeed. The deceiver temporarily loses self-control. His tension becomes noticeable, you just need to watch the left side of his body. It is this side that is an indicator of deception, because in our right hemisphere of the brain is responsible for emotions and imagination, and the left hemisphere is responsible for speech and mind, therefore, the left side is controlled a little weaker. And thenwhat we want to show other people is reflected on the right side, and true feelings and emotions will be seen on the left side.
How to recognize lies by gestures
Almost every person in everyday life pretends and tries on various masks. Some people are more sincere, while others are used to lying regularly. But do not think that no one will ever find a lie. Her non-verbal body language betrays her.
In addition, there are people who intuitively feel when they are being deceived. But, of course, such a gift is not given to everyone. How can you guess what a person really thinks? And how to recognize a lie and calculate a liar?
The book “Body Language. How to read the minds of others by their gestures Allan Pease.
Here are the characteristic types of body movements that indicate that a person is lying:
- Rubbing gestures. Psychologists say that rubbing the neck and pulling back the collar completely betray the deceiver.
- A person cannot find a comfortable position during a conversation;
- The interlocutor's speech speed changes, some begin to speak more slowly, while others, on the contrary, faster than under normal circumstances. In addition, the intonation and volume of the voice changes. This suggests that the person feels “out of his element.”
- The interlocutor touches his face. Such a gesture is typical for children who deceived and immediately covered their mouths with their hands. But, not all touches on the face speak ofmendacity. For example, coughing, yawning, sneezing, we also touch it.
- Too lively emotions on the face, which speaks of artificiality, pretense and unnaturalness.
How to avoid making a mistake in your conclusions?
In order not to make mistakes in human behavior and not to make wrong conclusions, one should study body language. You need to know what body movements a person makes when he experiences fear, self-doubt, boredom, and so on.
Don't jump to conclusions based on the above gestures until the whole person's behavior has been studied.
Excessive pickiness to the interlocutor to whom one feels antipathy is often very subjective. And therefore, all his gestures will be interpreted negatively.
Besides, it is easier to analyze the behavior of a person you know, because if something has changed in his manner of behaving, it immediately catches the eye. But sometimes there are such skillful deceivers, with high self-control, that it is very, very difficult to figure them out.
What is written in pen…
Scientists have conducted a number of studies of non-verbal language of communication and concluded that most often people lie on the phone, then, according to statistics, face-to-face conversations follow, but least of all they lie in writing. And this is also connected with the psychological peculiarity of a person, because what is written is very difficult to refute later with the words: “I didn’t say that,” “I didn’t mean that,” and so on. No wonder there is a folkproverb: “What is written with a pen cannot be cut down with an ax.”
Main signs of deception
In psychology, there are 30 main signs by which you can say for sure that a person is lying:
- If you ask him the question "Did you do it?" and he answers - "no", most likely, this is true. But, if the answer is vague or something like: “How could you think that?”, “Do you think I can do that?”, - such options speak of a lie.
- If you ignore the direct question.
- If you emphasize your "honesty" all the time, saying the phrases: "I give my hand to cut off", "Have I ever lied to you?", "I swear to you" and so on.
- If he looks into the eyes very rarely and only to make sure that he is believed.
- If he clearly seeks to arouse sympathy and sympathy, that is, he often says phrases like: "I have a family", "I understand you", "I have so many worries" and so on.
- If he answers a question with a question. For example, they ask him: “Did you do it?”, And he asks a counter question: “Why do you ask?”.
- If he refuses to answer at all, he pretends to be offended and does not talk to you.
- If he has "inhibited" emotions. When a person is told some news, he reacts instantly. But, the liar knew in advance about what happened, and he does not have time to play plausible emotions.
- If emotions are artificial, they often last more than 5 seconds. In real life, natural human reactions change very quickly, and if someone pretends, thenand his emotion will be somewhat drawn out.
- If a person coughs or swallows frequently during a conversation. All liars have a severely dry throat and take a noticeable sip.
- If the interlocutor has one side of the face different from the other, most likely, his emotion is unnatural. In a normal person, facial expressions are always symmetrical.
- If the interlocutor repeats aloud the question or phrase asked to him.
- If the speed of speech, its volume or intonation has changed. For example, at first he spoke normally, and then he slowed down sharply.
- If the interlocutor answers rudely.
- If a person is very laconic in his answers, he obviously restrains himself so as not to say anything superfluous.
- If the interlocutor waits a few seconds before answering, most likely he is going to lie, but wants to do it as believably as possible.
- If a person has shifty eyes.
- If he often asks for clarification of a question, this is an attempt to buy time and think about the answer.
- If a person is asked about one thing, and he answers about another.
- If the interlocutor does not give detailed explanations and avoids details in every possible way.
- If a person answered questions, and then he lost the desire to speak, it means that he was tired of lying.
- The favorite way for liars in any awkward situation is to change the subject.
- Lies will in every way interfere with any attempt of the interlocutor to get to the bottom of the truth.
- If a person tells the truth, he subconsciously moves closer to the interlocutor, if he lies, then, on the contrary, he moves away, moves away.
- Ifthe interlocutor is trying to inflict a direct insult, which means that he is in a very nervous state, because of a lie.
- If a person steps from foot to foot.
- If he covers his forehead, neck, face with his hand.
- Constantly scratches earlobe or nose during conversation.
- A characteristic trembling or stuttering appears in the voice.
- If a slight smile appears on the face, which has 2 reasons:
- Making real emotions;
- A way to relieve nervous tension.
Of course, one of these signs is not enough to accuse a person of lying, you must find at least more than 5 evidence.
When they lie to you…
If a person is deceived, at this time his face also changes, and the interlocutor can notice such a feature. This should be taken into account when dealing with a liar.
For more information on how to learn to recognize a lie, you can get by watching a documentary that will tell you how to spot a liar and get to the bottom of the truth:
Each of us wants to be able to distinguish truth from lies. Indeed, very often we become victims of deception and it is very insulting, especially unpleasant when close and dear people do it. How to recognize the lies of a man who is a husband, fiancé, boyfriend or close friend? But their betrayal or deceit is very difficult to detect and even more difficult to survive.
Be that as it may, a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie, as the proverb says. Better to know the truththan to live in deceit all my life. Each of us has a choice. Lies can be recognized, and, most importantly, you need to do it.
