Very often people, especially responsible and conscientious people, spoil their lives with excessive guilt. In this article, we will tell you about the main varieties of this feeling and how to get rid of it.
1. In most cases, a person experiences feelings of guilt in the event that he is angry with other people. It is especially intensified if negative thoughts spread to close and dear people (friends, children, parents, spouse). This often happens between children and parents. The reason for the appearance of this feeling lies in the belief that one person cannot be both loved and angry at him at the same time. In real life, situations like this happen all the time. After all, the opposite of the feeling of love is not anger, but indifference.
2. Often a person begins to feel guilty because of any negative emotions, such as jealousy, envy, anger. All these feelings can be experienced in one way or another by any cultured person. But if they exceed a certain threshold, then problems can begin. Therefore, every person needs to know that there is nothing wrong with negative emotions as long as they are under control.3. Indifference is also a common causefeelings of guilt. In most cases, it occurs in love couples, when one partner still loves the other, while the feelings of the other gradually cool. How to get rid of guilt in this case? The first thing to understand is that our emotions are not governed by rules. After all, we can not force to love us, as well as stop loving. Consciously, a person can only control the manifestations of their emotions.
4. Sometimes a person begins to feel guilty for any act he has committed (treason, rudeness). You need to understand that your actions are not so bad. It is necessary to learn to be independent of the opinion of society.
5. A person may begin to experience an unpleasant feeling of guilt when he has suffered some kind of failure (did not go to college, could not study for one five). As a rule, such people set themselves very high standards for results. As a result, they fail and are tormented by guilt. In this case, a person needs to learn to enjoy not only the result of his work, but also the process.
6. Kind people often find themselves in the psychological trap "I did not do everything to make them (her, him) feel good." Often for this reason, feelings of guilt arise in loved ones. As soon as they see (or think) that a loved one is suffering, they begin to feel guilty. The reason lies in the belief that the happiness and well-being of loved ones and others depends solely on us. It is necessary to realize that one cannot take responsibility for the happiness of anotherhuman.7. Some people begin to experience constant guilt because they have not lived up to the expectations of others. In this case, you need to understand that a person lives and does something for himself, and not in order to constantly justify someone's expectations.
Guilt, like any other negative emotion, is not dangerous until it exceeds a certain threshold. Someone with a "normal" sense of guilt is a responsible person with a sense of duty. But if it exceeds a certain bar, a person begins to suffer from neurosis, depression, ceases to enjoy his work and life. Therefore, it is necessary to get rid of the hypertrophied feeling of guilt.
