A conversation between a woman and a man… What could be more natural than this process? We were born in order to find happiness with our soulmate, to create a strong and friendly family. In the process of relentless search for a betrothed young lady, they use the entire military arsenal, among which the main weapon is communication. It is with extraordinary thoughts and knowledge that the fair sex can interest the chosen one and win his heart forever.
Basic first date rules
Let's start with it, as people who see each other for the first time often have nothing to say. They are shy, lost, afraid to seem boring and cannot find common topics. To prevent this from happening to you, cut down on your nose: the most important rule for communicating with a stranger is sincerity. Remember children: how easily they find common ground with complete strangers. The whole secret is in their spontaneity, openness and honesty. If you manage to cultivate these qualities of character in yourself, the interlocutor will immediately fall for the bait.
First conversation witha man should take place in a quiet place where no one will disturb you. Loud music and a crowd of bustling passers-by should not distract you and your gentleman from an important sacrament - acquaintance, verbal knowledge of each other. Speak in a pleasant voice, slowly, use the game of facial expressions, smile - these simple tricks bribe men. But inappropriate laughter and even hysterical laughter, a lot of questions and an absent look, on the contrary, can play a cruel joke with a lady who aims to please her chosen one and interest him through conversation.
Topics for communication
If you do not know what to say to a man at the first meeting, let him choose the subject of conversation. By answering clearly posed questions, you, without noticing it, join the conversation, become an active participant in it. The most harmless and popular topics are entertainment and leisure. Ask the chosen one about how he spends his free time, what kind of sport he does, where he relaxes in the summer. Discussing pleasant moments in life is always easy and fun, especially if you discover a lot in common during the conversation.
Music, literature, favorite films - another vast layer for communication, the labyrinths of which you can wander almost forever. Even if you suddenly categorically disagree in tastes, do not dispute your innocence. Delicately tell your opponent that you have your own point of view, although, of course, you can be wrong, so you will be happy to listen to his opinion. The representatives of the stronger sex love girls who compromise. This category of women is that for themthe golden mean between the hated self-confident ladies and submissive soft-bodied ladies.
The right questions
Don't be afraid to ask them. The main thing is to do it right - with feeling, sense, arrangement. Do not overwhelm the interlocutor with a whole bunch of questions - this is not an interrogation, but a date. Pause and talk about yourself in between. Just do not share your plans for a house by the sea and three children - from such pressure, the gentleman immediately self-destructs and is unlikely to call you again. Everything has its time. The first date does not tolerate questions about the past and thoughts about the future, especially if they relate to personal life.
Focus on the present. Don't know what to talk about? Then inquire where the gentleman works, what his duties are, whether he likes his chosen profession. Why did he decide to become a doctor (teacher, firefighter, postman), did he dream about it since childhood, or did someone inspire him to take this path? You can also ask how the day of the gentleman usually goes, what events his schedule is filled with. Even if some financial points are very curious, for example, the amount of income, the presence of housing or a car, it is better to omit this for now. Be patient.
When the relationship has already begun
Let's say you've been together for several years. All issues related to art, work, recreation and other things have been discussed more than a dozen times. You even know his mom's favorite dish, and how he affectionately names his pet. How to be further? What to say to a man if he is for you - in factopen book? In such a situation, it is important to maintain those warm feelings that have already arisen between you. First, compliment your partner. Do not forget to remind him how courageous, handsome, fit, smart he is. Make it clear that you are in seventh heaven with happiness that you have met such a prince. Talk about the virtues of the chosen one can be inexhaustible.
Secondly, at this stage it is already possible, and even necessary, to think about the future. Talk about how you will go to the mountains together next summer, what present you will buy for his dad's anniversary. If a man is not stressed by such reasoning, you can take the risk of going further: dreaming about a wedding, asking if he wants twins. Try not to criticize too much. We are all human and mistakes are part of everyone's life. You can find out about the past of the gentleman, at this stage he already completely trusts you and can share heartbreaking stories about the trials he experienced.
A little about love
Some ladies make a lot of mistakes when it comes to open confession. Some scream about eternal love already on the first dates, while others, on the contrary, keep their mouths shut until the very wedding. The main thing here is to correctly determine the moment when the disclosure of feelings will be most appropriate. If the relationship is already as close as possible, you are familiar with all his relatives and best friends, you feel reciprocal tenderness and affection - make up your mind. Do not worry if the chosen one did not do this first. Guys in love affairs often turn out to be real cowards and are very afraidget into a ridiculous position.
Therefore, the first step is often for the ladies. They can say about love to a man in three ways.
- Looking into the eyes. Wait for the first romantic opportunity and, holding your loved one by the hand, without looking away, say: “I love you. You are the most precious thing in my life." No grandiloquent book phrases that sound unnatural.
- On the phone. A beautiful message with the right words will make your task much easier.
- With the help of a letter. The most romantic way Rustling paper, swirling handwriting and a lip print at the end… Romantic.
If your confession is not reciprocated, don't be discouraged. Show restraint, affection and care you will achieve reciprocal recognition.
Marriage Communication
Gradually we understand that we have nothing to talk about with a person. All topics seem hackneyed and revolve around the upbringing of offspring and the income and expenditure item of the family budget. This is a normal process: having passed numerous trials in the form of undershirts, focusing on the issues of “eating and dressing”, people gradually lose their spiritual intimacy - it is replaced by material ones. Discussing the financial side is important. But it's even more important not to forget the moments that made you happy.
What to say to a man if he has been like your husband for ten years? Throw away household topics and just remember those wonderful times when you just met. Describe your feelings and sensations with a smilethat rainbow period. In addition, in order to have common topics for conversation, you need to share the interests of a partner. Watch football with him, go fishing, join the same gym that your spouse visits. He, in turn, let him take an active part in your life. Then common topics will appear, and it will be possible to discuss all the events experienced together during the day.
Specific and lack of emotion
Perhaps these two qualities will make you an ideal companion. If you don't know what to talk about, it's better to be silent. Talk in the style of "what I see is what I sing" with your friends. Only women can talk for hours about nothing. Representatives of the stronger sex like to initially stick to one topic, so immediately strictly outline its boundaries. For example, you can discuss the latest interesting invention of scientists, a new computer game, sports news. Of course, for this you need to constantly read to keep abreast of events. But no one canceled self-education, besides, men love advanced girls. Just don't be too clever, show the chosen one that he is much wiser than you.
And please, no tantrums or tears. Respond adequately to some of his rude words. Perhaps he came tired from work or just not in the mood. In this case, start a conversation about what a hard worker he is: without his efforts, the ship of your relationship would have long ago run aground or gone to the bottom. Praise your man, admire, sing praises - he will instantly thaw. And appreciate your endurance and calmness.
Notcompare and don't rate
It is clear that former relationships and all the vicissitudes associated with them are not the best topics for a conversation with a man. Representatives of the stronger sex are naturally males, they do not tolerate the presence of an opponent, even in your thoughts. In his heart, he understands that the woman has love adventures behind her, but prefers to ignore them. Be in solidarity - do not discuss the ex-boyfriend, and even more so do not compare him with the chosen one. It smacks of scandal and even breakup.
Don't rate your loved one's gifts. Even if he bought you ordinary daisies, portray sincere joy. Better yet, learn to really enjoy cute presents. The main thing is not the cost, but the attention shown towards you. Taboo for discussion should also be friends and relatives of the chosen one, his hobbies and hobbies. Even if the mere mention of the culinary talents of your mother-in-law makes you feel sick, control yourself and keep up the conversation: “Yes, honey, your mother is a real good fellow. She has a lot to learn. After that, change the subject, or rather quietly retire - out of harm's way.
Conclusions
One could write a whole book about what to say to a man. No matter how the representatives of the stronger sex position themselves as incomparable alpha males, in their hearts they remain the same little boys in need of care and guardianship. Give him this: speak kind words, praise his talents, emphasize his virtues. Discuss with him a variety of things that interest him: sports,the economic situation of the country, the debates of presidential candidates, the price of gasoline and the exchange rate. At the same time, be not only natural, but truly aware.
Never start a conversation with "We need to have a serious talk." This phrase causes panic in men and a desire to run wherever their eyes look. It is much better if you start communication with the words: "Darling, advise …", "What do you think …", "What would you do in my place …". These words once again emphasize that the spouse is your support and protection, the head of the family and the helmsman who steers the family ship. What's good to say to a man? Anything he wants to hear.
