Hellinger's method is unique in its kind. It helps to solve various life problems. A person watching from the side of what is happening may be surprised. In fact, without understanding what is happening, it is difficult to understand the actions of people. What is the Hellinger constellation method? It is worth considering this topic in more detail.
Bert Hellinger
Bert Hellinger - German psychotherapist, philosopher, scientist. He became known worldwide for his unique constellation method.
Bert Hellinger was born in 1925 in Germany. He grew up in a Catholic family. When Bert was ten years old, he was sent to be raised in a monastery, where the local Hitler Youth organization tried unsuccessfully to recruit him. In 1942, Bert Hellinger was called to the front. He fought on the Western Front and was taken prisoner in 1945. Hellinger was in the camp for some time, but he managed to escape. Returning to his homeland, the young man entered intoThe Catholic Order began to study philosophy and theology at the University of Würzburg. A few years later, in 1952, Hellinger took the priesthood and left for South Africa on a missionary mission. The priest continued his education in Africa. Here he received a Bachelor of Arts degree, and with it the right to teach at a local school. Bert Hellinger lived here for 16 years. He built his career from the position of a simple teacher to the head of the school, and later the supervisor of all schools, of which there were more than 150. Bert spoke the Zulu language with ease, took part in various rituals and adopted the worldview of the local people.
In 1960, Bert Hellinger left the Catholic Order, and his interest in the study of phenomenology forced him to lay down his priesthood. The former priest returned to his homeland again. Here he met his future wife Hertha. In the 1970s, Hellinger moved to Vienna with his wife, where he continued his studies in psychoanalysis. Later there was a new move, this time in the United States. Here the scientist studied with Arthur Yanov in the state of California. The study of transactional analysis had a huge impact on the psychoanalyst.
Based on Bert Hellinger's methods, a book was written by the German psychiatrist Gunthard Weber. The book was a huge success, and psychiatrists around the world snapped up the edition with gusto.
For a long time, Bert Hellinger and his wife have been traveling the world giving seminars.
Hellinger constellation method
As mentioned above, Bert Hellinger created a unique techniqueconstellations. This system helps people solve problems not only in family life, but also in business, in the work team.
Many people were able to clarify their lives and get rid of troubles and troubles in life with the help of the Hellinger constellation method.
"Arrangement" refers to the position of a person in space. The Hellinger constellation method itself is similar to a chess game in which each individual has his own place that reflects his image.
Many psychologists of the world use this system. Moreover, the method is applicable not only to groups of people, but also to individuals.
The essence of constellations
Description of the Hellinger method is quite simple. The essence of constellations is that the client can solve his problem by referring to his pedigree. It is believed that all problems are related to the family, the human race. To solve problems, it is worth turning to the ancestors, getting in touch with them and finding out at what point in history something went wrong. Having solved the problem of his ancestor, a person will save himself from life's troubles and troubles.
Bert Hellinger has come up with several definitions that help the client. Orders of Love is a system of laws, the violation of which in any period of time leads to certain phenomena, which are a problem for a person.
Bert Hellinger constellations help to follow these laws and restore order in the system. This provides a solution to the problems voiced by the person.
Workingarrangement according to the method of Bert Hellinger and with "family weaves". Family weaving is the process of revealing the unfinished business of a person's race, which causes problems in real life. Such interweavings involve a member of the genus living in reality in various troubles. Hence, another law appeared - the law of balancing the system. In order to achieve balance, it is necessary to complete the unfinished business of your ancestors, then life's troubles will disappear. The fact is that, being in the intertwining of destinies, a person lives someone else's life, acquires someone else's troubles and troubles. Solving cases of a kind, completing the unfinished allows you to unravel the interweaving of fate. After the family weaves are unraveled, the life of a real person is getting better before our eyes, he has a taste for life, and along with this, a huge powerful potential of forces and opportunities that was previously inaccessible. A description of the Hellinger method can be found in the public domain, but this arrangement should be carried out by a specialist.
How to recognize the presence of "family entanglement"
Description of the Hellinger arrangement method makes it easy to recognize the presence of "family weaving". One has only to pay attention to their problems, think about their essence, and most importantly, figure out whether the troubles have a real basis. A person can experience strong baseless fear, ardent jealousy, feelings of intense melancholy and despondency, while not having real reasons for such a state. This means that these experiences were once real, just not inthe life of the person himself, but in the life of someone from his family. Bert Hellinger's method of system constellations makes it clear that circumstances are not random. You should not dump various unpleasant situations on a coincidence, because everything is natural.
The following life moments can serve as simple examples of family interweaving:
- A person who takes care of his he alth in the most thorough way, is fond of a he althy lifestyle, gets sick, despite all his efforts.
- Smart, charismatic, handsome, interesting, with a good character, can't find his soul mate, is always alone.
- A person who understands with his mind the danger to he alth from eating junk food, alcohol, smoking, uses junk food with great pleasure, subconsciously striving to approach his own death
According to Bert Hellinger's method of system constellations, all problems are on the subconscious level of a person, they arise spontaneously.
What is a placement request
A request for a system placement according to the Bert Hellinger method is a client voicing his problem. Typically, a placement request is expressed in two or three sentences. A person must describe not only the current life situation, but also the desire to change something. The therapist helps his client to find out his real desires. Many people are free to voice the things they don't want, but can't voice their real desires. For the method of constellations according to B. Hellinger, it is very important to achieve the manifestationtrue desires of the client.
The constellator helps a person to realize the real essence of his problem and correctly formulate his request for constellation. It is very important that a person really wants to solve the problem, to find its root. It is the systemic arrangement according to the method of Bert Hellinger that allows the client to realize what exactly needs to be decided or changed. Further actions depend on the person himself. Some are on the right path, others are resisting. It is worth noting that failure to properly solve problems is the responsibility of the customer.
Another important point of Bert Hellinger's method of systemic constellation is the presence of a serious and justified motivation. In any case, the host will refuse a person who has no problems or tries on other people's hardships. The curious also have no place in the Hellinger system.
The constellation method can be applied to a variety of life situations, of which the following can be distinguished:
- various severe diseases, congenital pathologies;
- severe psychosomatic conditions;
- childlessness and infertility in women and men;
- accidents;
- problems with children;
- problems with parents;
- psychological trauma;
- children's psychological trauma;
- fear of intimacy, maintaining distance with strangers;
- loneliness, inability to arrange a personal life;
- family troubles,disagreement;
- the presence in the family of people whose fate was tragic (suicides, abortions, who died early, etc.);
- groundless phobias and fears;
- depression, falling into a state of pessimism, occurring without obvious real reasons.
When the family constellation method is suitable
Bert Hellinger's family constellation method is suitable in the following situations:
- Family conflicts that are repeated at regular intervals.
- The difficult relationship of parents with their children and the inability to solve them.
- Treason, the presence of third parties in a relationship.
- Difficulties in family life caused by disability, disability, serious illness, drug addiction, alcoholism, child or parental abuse, criminal convictions, incest.
- Violation of the correct hierarchy in the family.
- Dealing with anger, guilt, resentment, fear and anxiety that are accepted from other people.
- The presence of tragic recurring fates in the family, evil fate.
- Early death of a family member.
- One of the family members has a serious intention to die.
Hellinger's family constellation method almost always helps to solve household troubles.
Types of participation
Participation in Hellinger's system constellation method can be expressed in two forms. A client can become a "client", or maybe a "deputy".
Participation as a substitute may be enoughimportant action for a person. Having participated in someone else's constellation, many understand their own problems, receive spiritual healing and make a decision about the need for their own constellation or rejection of it.
Participation as a "client" helps a person not only to identify their own problems and troubles, but also to solve them.
Arrangement process
In the process of constellation, a person voices his request to the constellator. The client is obliged to name their problems out loud, as well as the desired result of getting rid of troubles. After voicing a specific problem, the client is offered to choose people who will become his deputies. Also, the client independently assigns roles to his deputies, that is, determines what role the person will play. The problem person himself also arranges deputies. He sets it up the way he sees fit. It is worth noting that deputies should be chosen not with the mind, but with the heart.
Some time after the start of the constellation, the deputies begin to experience feelings similar to the feelings of the client. This is the spectrum of feelings that the client once experienced. The same emotions begin to appear in the deputies, even facial expressions are often repeated. Such actions are called "substitutive perception". This information comes to the deputy through the information field. This phenomenon is not fully understood, because often the client and the deputy see each other for the first time in their lives. These feelings can manifest themselves in a quick change in the mood of the deputy, which appeared out of the blue.apathy, repetition of the client's desires, etc.
The therapist advises to listen to his words at this moment, and if the substitute has an irresistible desire to say something to the client, then this must be voiced.
The main condition of the Hellinger constellation method is listening to all participants to their own inner feelings and thoughts.
As a result, the arrangement shows what feelings and problems are in the soul of a person. In the case when everything goes well, the constellator, client and deputies understand the real state of the person’s soul. After that, the constellator offers one or another way to restore the system. In the case when the client follows the proposed path, all members of the constellation begin to notice the positive dynamics and become aware of it.
Result of constellations
Efficiency of arrangement can be different. Not all clients achieve the same results. The effect depends on the following factors: the willingness of the client to look at the cause of the problem from a real point of view, to open his soul and let someone else into it, the professionalism of the constellator, the readiness of all members of the system to solve problems.
Psychologists around the world, as well as various psychological programs, have recognized that the Hellinger method works in 70% of situations. The system helps to cope not only with family troubles, but also with serious illnesses, the causes of which are unresolved situations in the human race, as well as a violation of family history or family ties. Systemic familyBert Hellinger constellations have saved countless families.
Superstitions related to constellations
There are several superstitions associated with the Hellinger constellation method:
- Fear of participating in someone else's arrangement. Some people are afraid to take part in someone else's constellation, because they believe that other people's problems can "stick" to them. It is worth remembering that, taking part in someone else's arrangement, a person takes on the role of a deputy. Someone else's problem cannot be attracted to a person if it has nothing to do with him.
- Some people feel that deputies cannot be trusted. It is worth noting that those in the role of deputies cannot pass off their emotions as someone else's, this has been proven by repeated experiments. In such experiments, simultaneous group constellations were carried out and the substitutes showed the same emotions and feelings.
- The myth that constellations are like magic rituals. It is worth noting that the constellations according to the method of Bert Hellinger are not magical rites. Moreover, they are completely different things. Constellation problems are not solved at the snap of a finger. This happens during a time-consuming and responsible process.
- Having a positive result. Many people are mistaken, confusing a positive result with a good one. The fact is that the result that helped solve the client's problem is positive. The main thing is that the result should allow a person to start living his own life.
Constellations reviews
In the vastness of the world wide web you can meetvarious reviews of the Hellinger system. Many people who attended the scientist's seminars are simply delighted with his methods. Such a seemingly simple solution to the situation raises serious human problems hidden at the subconscious level. Constellations have helped many people around the world solve quite serious problems that could not be got rid of in other ways. Many clients who have used the Hellinger Method say that they were able to start a new life. They have a powerful life potential, strength, finally, people just love life.
Married couples also resolved their conflicts with the help of this system. According to their feedback, conflicts have ceased, harmony, love, understanding and respect have reigned in the family.
People who attended the training because of physical illness also leave positive feedback about the Hellinger method. Many of them were able to overcome their diseases by finding out the cause of their origin. Apathy, severe psychosomatic conditions have also been repeatedly managed to be solved using this technique. The patients are satisfied. This type of training is especially helpful for severe depression. A person simply pulls himself out of a difficult life situation, finding the cause of the disorder in his subconscious.
Of course, in addition to positive rave customer reviews, there are also negative ones. In fact, not everything is as smooth as it seems, because even psychologists do not approve of this technique one hundred percent. Most likely, people whose problems could not be solved did notwere able to fully open their soul and pull the problem out. It is also possible that it was not possible to clearly articulate their troubles and voice their own desires. As mentioned above, it is quite difficult for a person to admit to himself what he really wants. And confessing to others is much more difficult. Some people leave negative feedback about illiterate and unprofessional constellators who failed to properly conduct the constellation process. In fact, a lot really depends on the arranger. After all, this person is an outside observer, he regulates the whole process. If the constellator turned out to be inexperienced, then the process may go wrong, and all efforts will be empty.
People who did the arrangement according to the method of Bert Hellinger on their own, also remain dissatisfied. And it is not surprising, because an experienced psychotherapist must necessarily participate in the process of constellation. Who will refer the customer once the problem is identified? Who will point out the right path to follow to solve the problem? It probably won't work.
Some participants in the constellation complain about wasted time and money. In general, whatever causes a client to fail, a negative result is also a result.
Based on all of the above, we can conclude that Bert Hellinger's technique really works. It is based on the work of the human subconscious. By participating in the system constellation, a person establishes a connection with his family tree and solves the unresolved problems of his ancestors,finish their unfinished business. The system is not magic or hypnosis, it is psychology. The Hellinger method connects the client and the substitute at the level of information fields. Each of the deputies helps the client to realize what is happening and understand the cause of their troubles, and an experienced constellator offers one or another way to solve the problem. Psychologists around the world approve of this technique.
Of course, every system fails. Here Bert Hellinger's method is not ideal. It cannot solve absolutely all problems. And yet, many are satisfied. The percentage of people who remain dissatisfied with the method, although not high, still exists. In any case, before resorting to solving troubles using the Hellinger method, you should try to figure out yourself and your soul on your own. Perhaps this technique will also be effective.
