The question "why does everyone hate me" is quite a difficult one. A considerable number of people believe that they are not loved, underestimated and not respected. Therefore, hatred is the only feeling they can get from their environment. How true such a belief is, how it arises and what to do with it, we will consider in the article.
Why does everyone hate me?
Initially, the question is most likely formulated incorrectly. Since it is not normal for people to hate each other.
If, for example, you take several dozen or hundreds of different photographs of people and analyze the reaction that occurs when looking at them, then there is hardly any of the subjects who will feel hatred.
There are people who scare, annoy or seem incredibly stupid. But hatred is a serious emotion. And for its occurrence, weighty reasons are needed.
What is this?
Often on the net you can see the question: "Why does everyone hate me?" Hatredrefers to strong and energy-intensive feelings. It is very easy to get tired of it, as it requires serious dedication. Hatred is very similar to obsession with a particular person.
In the team, for example, contempt can occur. When there is a “white crow” or “scapegoat” in him, the people around him try to assert themselves at his expense. But this state of affairs does not cause feelings of hatred. This is just contempt, they break down on a person, feeling subconsciously that he is mentally weaker.
Of course, there is a category of people who annoy most colleagues. And maybe only one person can really hate you. But such a feeling arises only after a conflict situation between you. It is possible that a person did some bad deed towards another completely unconsciously, which caused a wave of hatred.
Pay attention to the fact that famous rulers who killed millions of people are hated by only a part of the population, while others are ready to applaud them. Therefore, any actions and actions are perceived by people in different ways.
Reasons
Sometimes the reason for the feeling of hostility from other people lies in the person himself. And if this is true, then you will have to do a lot of work on yourself. Sometimes hostility from others is useful. It is when analyzing the situation and thanks to criticism that one can change for the better.
Usually, the hostility of the team is associated with the following reasons.
- A person with low self-esteem. Most likely he was a victimbullying from peers in childhood. Over time, a person grows up, such moments are forgotten. But fears remain in the subconscious, which lead to the fact that he begins to think that no one wants to communicate with him. Often, such people expect a dirty trick from their environment, and also quite often catch themselves thinking that someone hates them. Although these fears are unfounded.
- Victim status. A person believes that everything in his life is worse than the rest. Communication and advice from people around the "victim" tend to take hostility.
- A person with high demands on others. If he doesn't get enough attention and compliments from people, he tends to jump to the conclusion that he's not liked or respected for his personal opinion.
- An obsessive person. People of this kind tend to make acquaintances. They do not hesitate to ask an unfamiliar interlocutor about his personal life, hobbies and problems. They also like to tell a lot of personal things about themselves, even when the interlocutor was not interested in this information. Such an obsessive person likes to give advice, even if it is not asked for. And when kindness, sociability and openness are left unanswered, then he gets the feeling that no one appreciates his wonderful qualities of character.
- Reluctance to take care of yourself. Despite the good character of the interlocutor, very often his slovenliness can repel. And in this case, even a rich inner world and high intelligence do not save. But people of this type are often convinced thatthose who are worthy will definitely consider beautiful qualities behind their appearance.
Signs of hate
Can you tell if colleagues are negative towards you? Experts have compiled a list of signs, on the basis of which it can be concluded that you are not liked in the team.
- Most of the people in your team communicate with you only when necessary.
- Coworkers try to take credit for your success.
- They do not notice your presence in the team.
- Coworkers are constantly trying to argue with you or create a conflict situation.
- No one on the team is interested in your personal life.
- You never participate in employee conversations.
Hatred in schools
Children tend to feel hatred for another person if he is significantly different from a group of people. Most often, there is one student in an institute or school who becomes the center of ridicule. In the classroom and groups, it is accepted that society should be a single whole, and students strive to be as similar as possible to each other.
If a "white crow" appears in the team, then the surrounding people begin to experience anger towards him. It's easier to laugh than to try to understand a person. In addition, at a young age it is very difficult to discuss the situation, since it is still unusual for children to properly interact with others, because most often emotions take over.
In such a situation, the faithful can savefriends who will support and share your worldview. Not the best way out of the situation would be to plan revenge or build retaliatory intrigues, since in this case you will only waste your nerves.
Work team
Often, people visiting a psychologist ask the question: "Why does everyone hate me at work?" In addition to the "white crow syndrome", hatred can be caused by a feeling of envy. Let's say a new employee comes to the organization. He has excellent experience, he does an excellent job and often receives praise from management. And then colleagues, dissatisfied with this state of affairs, begin to whisper for him back and throw sidelong glances.
In this case, this behavior is caused by envy, so don't be surprised if soon the team will gossip about you and even try to "set you up". How to deal with this situation is up to you. Do not react to what is happening, continuing to work, or change your place of work to one where the team will be less envious.
Hatred in your own home
Teenagers often complain to their friends: "Everyone hates me at home." What to do in this case? Unfortunately, money is a common cause of negativity and conflict in the home. Often there are quarrels between spouses about the fact that one of them spends a lot of money for nothing, which makes the child feel unnecessary and guilty. Some parents tend to reproach their children for providing for them, and they do not want to study welletc.
Even with the separation of the spouses, the sharing of material values and even the child begins. You can always find a way out in such situations. But often the solution to such problems depends on the people themselves. It is important for a teenager to understand that his parents love him, and parents need to realize that their child needs attention. Speaking frankly is the best way to solve the problem.
Maybe you really are doing something wrong
Pay attention to yourself from the outside. Maybe you are a rather nervous person and cause reluctance to communicate with you. It is unusual for us to notice our shortcomings. But it is worth analyzing your behavior and attitude towards people around you. You may be the type of person who often complains or likes to give advice unnecessarily. Such qualities can irritate most.
Therefore, if you want to change something in life, then first of all take care of yourself. Analyze the qualities that annoy you in others, then consider whether they are inherent in you. And start working on yourself. And remember, you can't be hated by everyone, there are plenty of people who would love to hang out with you.
