Why does not dream of the deceased beloved husband, brother, friend, relative? Loss is a terribly unfair thing. The mind does not understand: for what, for what? Everyone around repeats, it takes time, and everything will pass … But only time itself passes, and the pain transforms, takes other forms. It's like life after an amputation. Over time, the bleeding stops, it does not hurt so much. And you rush to do something: but no, you live without this taken away part of yourself, sorting through photos, things, memories. You ask to come at least in a dream. But no. Why does the dead husband not dream?
Empty without you
Everything was like a dream. Creepy, terrible. It was painful? It turns out not. That was a shock. The real pain comes now. Empty in the house, in the world, in the soul. It seems that now I will turn around, and the person will be, as always, nearby.
The death of loved ones is not easy to survive. There is always a lot left unsaid, not done. Feelings of guilt do not give rest even in a dream. But for some reason the deceased does not dreammale.
Sleep and dreams
Nature endowed man with a large reserve of protective physiological functions and processes. Sleep is one of those. During night dreams, the active activity of the body is inhibited, the person, as it were, "reboots". And rested, he is ready for a new day.
Dreams are images, events or processes born by the brain in a dream. These are short films. The presence of dreams indicates the normal activity of the psyche. Dreams can be triggered by source stimuli:
- subjective internal (creativity, feelings);
- subjective external (relationships in the family, team);
- internal physical (malaise, illness);
- external psychological (loss of loved ones).
It is difficult to answer the question why the husband died and does not dream. It is also difficult to explain why we see such dreams and not others.
A riddle without a clue
Talking about dreams is like talking about life on Mars. Science does not know this … Sleep has remained a mystery throughout human history. Its nature is studied by physicians, physiologists, psychologists, esotericists. There is an independent science, oneirology, which studies dreams. But even she cannot give an exact answer to the questions: why is she dreaming and why is her dead husband not dreaming.
In search of answers to these and endless other questions about night dreams, scientists areresearch and experiments. As a result, it has been proven that dreams save a person from emotional exhaustion and prevent mental breakdowns. The processes of interaction between the cortex and subcortex of the brain that occur during sleep unload the emotional state, normalizing it.
Help
Death always brings grief, misfortune, pain to the house. Experiences associated with the loss of loved ones last a long period. Even worse, if it happens suddenly, as a result of an accident, when everything can collapse in an instant. You live for yourself, make plans, dream. And suddenly, someone brought terrible news to the house, everything around became black, meaningless. You need to do a lot of things, but the body does not obey. You can't run, you can't hide! These people around … They say the wrong thing, they climb. What to do?
How and thanks to what, people in such situations cope with their experiences and continue to live. Nature has endowed our psyche with magical deep defense mechanisms:
- displacement;
- projection;
- denial;
- rationalization;
- sublimation;
- regression;
- jet formations.
Their action is aimed at maintaining the stability of the individual and the integrity of ideas about reality. During a strong shock, the psyche "applies" several defense mechanisms. This is why a dead husband does not dream of his wife.
At this stage, the psyche protects the personality from destruction in this way. Trying to experience less heartache, suffer.
Howcope with loss
Why doesn't my dead husband dream? Most likely, at this stage, the protective mechanisms of the psyche are turned on in this way. So that the pain of memories traumatizes the soul as little as possible.
How to deal with loss? Relatives, relatives, friends, in extreme cases, psychologists come to the rescue. And the most effective is work on yourself, on your thoughts. In any case, you have to live! After all, the deceased husband, most of all, wanted his loved ones not to suffer.
You need to get rid of guilt. Do not take on the authority of God: it is his job to decide who and how is destined to die. Look around, who's next? How hard it is for them to see your suffering, to feel their own helplessness. The departed cannot be returned, this is how the world was created. But the living are able to change everything.
