Technological progress is evident in our time, but it does not allow people to cope with the sense of the meaninglessness of their existence. Existence seems gray and empty to many, and it is quite difficult to cope with this feeling. A person who suffers from such a problem would do well to ask himself the question: if someone decided to write a book about his life, what would it be called? An "empty and sad life" dedicated to a monotonous existence? Or would it be a publication called "Adventures and adventures of a desperate daredevil"? It is in our power to turn your life from monotonous and boring to interesting and meaningful. How can this be done?
Ask yourself some helpful questions to clear things up
An empty life is one in which we lose the opportunities that reality provides every day. For example, we want to do what we love, but we come up with hundreds of excuses not to do it. The guy wants to approach the girl, but he does not dare. old woman wantsgo to interesting courses, but it seems stupid to her. As a result, each of them lives an empty life. To understand yourself, it is useful to answer a few questions:
- When was the last time you genuinely laughed? What brought you joy?
- Do you have friends? If not, where can you meet new people?
- Where have you been the furthest from home? How long have you been traveling?
- What was your last long walk like?
- When was the last time you had a good sweat? Have you exercised your body during the past month?
After answering these questions, you can understand the current conditions of your being. And perhaps these answers will give the necessary motivation to turn an empty life into a conscious and meaningful existence.
Forget about fear
Many of those who suffer from the monotony of their existence experience many fears. Some of them are conscious, while others are visible only from the outside. However, in any case, fear slows down our existence, makes it uninteresting. It is impossible to make a whole and meaningful life out of an empty life if only fears live in the soul. Many are afraid to be embarrassed, to be rejected, to look stupid. But what happens otherwise, if we don't go along with our phobias? In reality, nothing special - the world will not collapse, and everything will continue to go on as usual.
Our decisions are in our hands
The empty life of empty people -it is, in fact, their own choice. If such individuals do not want to overcome their own fears, then by doing so they limit their own capabilities, make themselves dependent on the situation. They should remember that our existence is not always only joys and happiness. No one will try to organize ideal conditions for us, as if we are greenhouse plants created for measured and well-fed conditions. Everyday life is full of challenges that we accept or not.
The empty life of empty people leads them to the fact that they sometimes do not want to lift a finger for their own happiness. "I won't be able to open my own sports school, because there are so many problems with it," the young man tells himself. However, what is behind this phrase? The usual fear of failure. In such cases, we forget that doing nothing is much worse than even trying to take steps towards a dream.
Communicate
One of the questions above was about whether you have friends. “Life has become empty,” we often say to ourselves when, for some reason, we have to close ourselves within four walls, or if existence goes along the beaten track “home - work - home”. Lack of interaction with new people or with old friends can actually create a sense of the meaninglessness of being. Man is a social being, and this cannot be taken away from his nature.
Our disadvantage is often that we goagainst those natural things that are laid in us by the creator (or evolution, whatever you like). You don't need to shut yourself up. If you wish, you can find communication anywhere - attend courses or classes, meet someone on the Internet, go to relatives, after all.
Try new things
"I'm living an empty life," says a person who has consciously refused to allow novelty into his daily existence. You can't beat the monotony by doing the same thing every day. Look at the picture of some exotic dish. Looking at it, the thought may arise: how can people eat this? Most likely, for them it's just very tasty. And those who haven't tried unusual food are just showing the courage to do so.
How about trying new things in your life? Maybe you would be interested in skateboarding? Or ice skating? You can't figure it out until you try it. So the next time you see someone on horseback, ask if they could give you five minutes to ride.
Define your values
Often life seems empty when a person himself does not know what he would like to strive for. For most of our existence, we turn to others to answer the question of what is important. As children, our plans and goals are guided by our parents. As we grow up, friends, partners, and colleagues influence us. Not to mention the media, which constantlyimpose on us the ideal of a happy life. But how many of us actually think about our own dreams?
Ask yourself some questions:
- What are the biggest problems I see in the world around me? What are their reasons?
- Who is the most important person in my life?
- What are my dreams, plans, aspirations?
- What are my values? How does my current lifestyle fit these values?
These questions cannot be answered within one day. For some it takes a lifetime. Therefore, it is worth returning to them again and again.
Define your "zones of success"
When life is empty and meaningless, people usually don't even appreciate what they have. However, in fact, at this moment they can own a lot. For example, these are time reserves; the talents and skills they have; opportunities provided by life. If life is empty, it is useful to start by identifying the areas in which your talents could manifest. To achieve a conscious and meaningful existence, we must learn to look beyond our comfort zone and soberly evaluate our talents and abilities without underestimating (or overestimating) their significance.
Everyone has talent
We all have unique traits that can make us successful. Everyone can find a way to make the world around them better while also enriching their own lives. Don't let social values and judgment stop you from following your dreams. After all, it is talents and abilities that can leadyou to the meaning of life. Those who do not strive to realize their unique skills, ultimately find themselves forced to work for others, to follow values imposed from outside.
"Empty life, empty happiness," they say to themselves, buying another car or an expensive fur coat to meet the demands of society. However, the joy of consumption quickly fades; and after the perfect purchases, you need to return to an ordinary existence that does not bring a sense of satisfaction. Someone again has to go to a gray and dull office to spend long hours there until the happy moment when it will be possible to go home. Someone - to attend classes and lectures at the university in the speci alty that parents or friends have chosen for him. Such is the retribution for the inability to identify their abilities and find ways to implement them.
Empty life: what to do if there is stagnation around? Challenge as solution
Most adults have more than enough daily problems. But when a person thinks about what is the meaning of his existence and why it constantly seems to him boring and monotonous, in such cases, perhaps, just not enough "peppercorn". Sometimes fate itself provides such shake-ups. For example, a person suffering from depression and despondency suddenly learns that his he alth is not all right. And if he does not urgently change his lifestyle, the consequences will be the most unpleasant. Immediately, such a person has a goal: he begins to take care of himself, eat he althy food,exercise.
In some cases - which, however, can be called happy - higher powers (or God) have mercy on such people, and do not send them additional suffering that could sober them up and bring them out of a state of stagnation. However, no one says that in such cases a person cannot challenge himself on his own. Come up with a goal that could be a real test for you.
It can be not only the conquest of the mountain peak (although this option, perhaps, will be suitable for someone). Going to university, losing 20 kilos, paying off a loan to charitable causes - some of these ideas may seem like sheer madness, but they will quickly allow you to find the meaning of life and not fall into despondency due to an existential vacuum.
Stop reflecting too much
A lot of stress and anxiety can stem from a tendency to analyze and reflect on one's own destiny. We think too much and take too little action; we are trying to understand what awaits us in the future, but the feeling of hopelessness from such concentration on ourselves does not go away. In fact, at such moments, we are just wasting our time.
The reality is that no matter how smart we are, we cannot predict our future. Events can sometimes unfold in the most unpredictable way - in the event that a person stops talking too long and aimlessly and instead takes on concrete actions. Recognizingunpredictable nature of life, we can stop endlessly thinking and evaluating situations and start living in the present. It allows you to open your mind to the possibilities of today.
Believe in yourself
When a person begins to struggle with the meaninglessness of being, finding new hobbies and goals, he may face one problem: gigantic competition. Unconsciously, it is for this reason that many people lock themselves into their shell of everyday monotony, as this saves them from additional psychological trauma. For example, if someone wants to start his own business, he finds that there are thousands of organizations around doing the same thing. And in order to provide customers with a good product, you need to have a really significant competitive advantage.
Self-doubt knocked down many, again throwing them back to routine and monotony. However, when we stop believing our own or externally imposed negative beliefs about ourselves or about the things we want to do, this allows us to make life more vibrant and rich. It is impossible to achieve success in a few days or even months. In order for life to cease to be empty, it is necessary to take small steps and do it daily. Only then will it be possible to find the right direction, get rid of uncertainty, monotony, boredom.
