About who phlegmatic introverts are, what extroverts are, that is, categories of personalities, divided according to one criterion or another, people have been thinking for a long time. From the point of view of specialists, temperament is a natural and stable property of a person that determines the dynamics of his mental activity in various situations. According to physiological characteristics, they distinguish four main behavioral types of people. The townsfolk are accustomed to dividing everyone around them into groups, starting from other features. What kind of personality types are hidden behind the concept of psychologists? Let's try to consider in more detail.
Phlegmatic: who is it?
When a person is said to be a phlegmatic introvert, this often arouses interest among others. Let's turn to modern typologies to understand how to correctly decipher these words. For example,phlegmatic people are called rather slow personalities who are unperturbed in almost any situation. They tend to keep silent rather than say too much. Such persons prefer to hide emotions from others. The response rate of such a person to many, especially choleric people, seems unreasonably slow, so phlegmatic people are called lethargic, tired. From the outside, it seems that they are not eager and are not even going to fulfill someone's requests at all, even if it was an instruction from their superiors. It seems to others that such a person is not subject to fear, does not worry, does not rejoice, and generally does not experience emotions. This judgment is erroneous. Psychologists assure that violent emotions are inherent in phlegmatic people, but such people experience them deep inside, not showing them through facial expressions, behavioral reactions.
A phlegmatic introvert is such an unshakable person who has amazing calmness. It is very difficult to piss off such a person, and only an extreme situation can provoke him to show aggression. Such a subject makes all decisions in a balanced way, does not obey the feelings, finally acts, having considered all the options and consequences. He will never say that he makes decisions intuitively, because he is convinced that intuition is the last thing you can trust. The phlegmatic is usually serious, focused on business, responsible. If he takes on a task, he completes it without much difficulty.
Phlegmatic introverts tend to avoid conflict conversations, quarrels. They find it hardest to leave their comfort zone. The person gets used to the usual course of everyday life,satisfied with it, so changes are perceived as something negative. Change is a big test for the typical phlegmatic.
Can I identify?
Usually people easily notice phlegmatic people in their circle of friends. The main feature of such a person is the tendency to show emotions as restrained as possible. This person does not cry and does not seem to get upset at all. It is not often that one sees obvious manifestations of joy. The temperament is such that the steadfastness of the person is equally great both mental and emotional. The biggest problem in the life of such a person is too rapid a change in the situation, the transience of what is happening.
If you watch him from the side, you can see that he needs time to assess the changes around him. If the changes are very abrupt, the person is lost. After analyzing the situation, he develops a plan and methodically achieves a specific goal. A balanced and calm person is hardworking, which often surprises less stable people around him. For a long time, without much effort, he assimilates large information blocks by analyzing data. This is a diligent person who works effectively, succeeds primarily in areas that oblige the applicant to collect, own, use data.
About emotions and not only
Modern psychologists know a lot about extra-, introverts, melancholic, phlegmatic and other personality types. As observations have shown, the latter - people who are faithful enough, cansupport loved ones. Reasonable, calm by nature, they allow the sufferer to see what is happening from a different angle, and also consider and offer a rational way out. Personal experiences for a phlegmatic person are a strictly individual and closed zone. They rarely share their emotions with others, do not show what is happening in the soul. More often such persons are realists who do not regard dreams as something positive. Illusions are alien to them, their place is taken by detailed thought-out plans.
If you compare a melancholic introvert and a phlegmatic introvert, you will notice that it is usually easier for the latter to realize himself in a career field. Phlegmatic people grow quite quickly within the company. This is due to perseverance, a tendency to work with maximum efficiency, calmness. The managerial staff is ready to trust such an employee, since each of his decisions is considered as detailed as possible, nothing is done because of the emotional context. At the same time, not every phlegmatic person successfully achieves the position of chief, since this type is slow, closed.
About career and communication
Like many melancholy extroverts, phlegmatic introverts often realize themselves in the creative field. It is noted that among such people there are especially many writers and artists. They are able to see the world from a unique angle, from an amazing vantage point, inaccessible to most. Many psychologists believe that the peculiarity of phlegmatic people is the ability to see their environment especially beautiful, as well as the ability to show it in bright colors.other people.
For some, unexpressed emotionality becomes a problem in working and communicating with others. From the outside, it is almost impossible to understand what a person is going through, what he is thinking about. The face is usually as calm as possible, emotions are not read on it. For impulsive subjects, especially choleric ones, this sometimes becomes unbearable, infuriating. Visual calmness is due to the person's tendency to analyze what is happening and react slowly. But if the phlegmatic "reaches the edge", gets very upset and even shows it, it will certainly be extremely difficult to calm him down.
Work and life
When choosing a workplace, psychologists advise taking into account where it is easier and better to realize oneself as an introvert, extrovert, melancholic and phlegmatic, and start from this when applying for various vacancies. For phlegmatic people, work is almost always the path to success, a good career. Such a person achieves his goals more effectively than many. He is diligent, slow to react, able to work, so he turns into an excellent performer.
However, many of these people suffer from low self-esteem, and it is because of their lack of self-confidence that they do not achieve everything that they could. Often such persons refuse to attend events that could be useful for their career, avoid speaking, and reduce interaction with strangers to a minimum. They are categorically not suitable for places that force them to travel frequently on business trips, as this obliges them to leave their home and temporarily move to a completely foreign place.
Comparisons were made of the qualities inherent in extroverts, introverts, choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic. It was revealed that phlegmatic faces are those who perform routine tasks better than others. Such a person is excellent as a secretary, will surely have to go to the court of accountants, and will turn out to be a successful research worker. Such a personality warehouse is appropriate for a librarian, suitable for working in an archive. Phlegmatic people are also good at other similar positions, jobs that force them to do a large amount of similar tasks every day. At the same time, there is no doubt: the employee will always adequately assess his capabilities, will not take on a task beyond his strength, and will complete everything taken. Psychologists advise phlegmatic women to avoid business trips and social work if possible. Men tolerate such labor somewhat better even in the case of a phlegmatic character.
Family
Whatever the person, be it extra-, introvert, choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic, the person still wants to be with someone who is close in spirit, with someone who will help overcome loneliness. Phlegmatic personalities are secretive, closed, therefore they hardly make friends, slowly converge with new acquaintances. Any contact is difficult for them. If friendship does develop, such a person will be sincere, faithful all his life. Phlegmatic is perhaps the most reliable friend.
He is no worse as a family man. The person is not inclined to meet new people, most of her friends are people with whom she managed to get alongin childhood. Such a person is easier to trust. Phlegmatic people almost never meet new people and find it difficult to get along with them if they happen to get new contact. Often they find a life partner among old acquaintances. If it comes to the conclusion of a formal union in a relationship, the phlegmatic becomes even slower than usual, carefully weighing the pros and cons.
In the course of the study, when comparing different types of temperament (introverts, extroverts, melancholic, phlegmatic, sanguine), it was found that it is the inhibition inherent in the phlegmatic type of personality that is the main success factor, allowing a person to exclude a wrong decision. The spouse is the one with whom such a subject connects his entire future life. The family for such a person is the basis, support, and the house is a fortress. Accordingly, only a well-known person with whom the person has been familiar for a long time can be considered as the second half. These may be those with whom he studied together at school or university, relatives of his best friends. Most phlegmatic people marry in middle age, not earlier. Having come to such a decision and created a family, a person will not make loud quarrels and show his dissatisfaction with tantrums. If the chosen one offends with something, the phlegmatic will simply close in on himself and stop communicating with his spouse for a while.
Childhood
As you can see from the descriptions, people become phlegmatic, introverts, as well as representatives of other personality types not suddenly and not suddenly. To some extent, they are influenced by various factors in theirdevelopment. If already in childhood a child shows excessively balanced and calm character traits, then he is a phlegmatic person. When a child is calm, shy, withdrawn, this does not mean that it is urgently necessary to re-educate him with all his might. It makes sense to accept the child as he is. Character is something that is given by nature, and it will not work to change it. Inept and even aggressive attempts will not lead to anything good.
Parents may assume that a stable phlegmatic introvert is growing if the person strives for order and is slow enough. Such a baby is efficient from an early age, shows himself energetic, but hardly perceives new things. He has a hard time adjusting to change. The task of parents is to develop the mobility, quickness of their child with praise. It is necessary to harden the child, to accustom him to sports, not to let him sleep excessively, not to leave him alone. The task of the older generation is to involve the child in games, often bring other children to visit and encourage the development of creativity. Inactivity, lethargy - these are the features that are most harmful at an early stage of development.
Introverts: what kind of people?
Very often, both phlegmatic women and men are introverts. These two personality traits are in perfect harmony with each other. Opinions differ about who belongs to this type of temperament. If there are two main options for understanding - one is proposed by Eysenck, the other is formulated by Jung. Extroverts in the understanding of the majority - people focused more on the outside, while introverts are focused on the inside. Howa consequence, one can designate the last one for whom reasoning, fantasies are more important than events that actually happen in the world around. For an introvert, their own state is primary, and only then - what is happening around. The external is understood through the prism of the internal. As noted by Laney, extroverts like to experience as much as possible, while introverts are people who want to know as much as possible about what they are experiencing.
From the characteristics of introverts and phlegmatics presented by psychologists, the former are not inclined to spontaneous communication. They have a purpose, which is often hidden from others. Communicating with such a person, the other person feels tension, even if he likes the interlocutor and seems open. An introvert is someone who can do without society for a long time without any special problems. He maintains personal boundaries, often quick-tempered, touchy. If the interlocutor does something wrong, the introvert quickly increases the distance.
Such a person tends to think over every step, go through a negative experience for a long time, returning to the situation that traumatized him over and over again. Introverts are usually characterized by a developed imagination, a rich fantasy. These are observant people who tend to analyze information, are patient and control their emotionality, purposeful and focused on tasks defined for themselves.
Life and characteristics
When a representative of the fair sex, when communicating with others, creates an insurmountable line around herself, the so-called distance, then you have a woman in front of youphlegmatic introvert. Such a person is usually closed and at the same time feels good in such conditions. Meanwhile, many are ashamed of their belonging to introverts, strive to become extroverts, experience difficulties in explaining their position, and find it difficult to choose words suitable for the situation. According to some psychologists, someone who is not an introvert himself will never understand such a person.
As you can see from the characteristics describing different men and women, the phlegmatic introvert is the most stable type among all his kind. Such a person is strong, not too mobile. Visually, it cannot be distinguished from representatives of other types of temperament. This is a moderately sociable, polite person who can laugh in time, if necessary, start a conversation. Such a person is often attracted by subtle humor and the ability to say a relevant observation or conclusion in time.
What can be said about the representatives of the stronger sex, who are phlegmatic introverts. The characteristics of men include great endurance, fortitude and excessive silence in stressful situations. When a stable introvert finds himself in difficult circumstances, he withdraws into himself, trying to cope with problems on his own. The easiest way for a person to deal with stress is to be in a state of complete rest, but for loved ones it is often a difficult test to leave it.
Day after day: we all grow up
Sometimes it happens that psychologists are forced to work with someone who is infantile. Phlegmatic introverts (men and women) areinfantile not too often, due to the peculiarities of their personality, however, this also occurs. This is largely due to the peculiarities of upbringing and growing up. The most difficult thing is the formation of a child if both parents are extroverts, and by nature the children are introverts. Many strive to remake children to suit themselves and their criteria, and it seems as if any difference is an imperfection that needs to be corrected.
Improperly brought up introverts often get severe psychological trauma, which they then have to live with all their lives. They try to rebuild, pretend to be extroverts, feel like outcasts and even freaks. In fact, such a subject is a completely normal person, a person who can be successful in relationships, personal life, in the chosen profession. Phlegmatic introverts especially often achieve great success. But this is possible only if a person accepts himself and his characteristics and builds his life in accordance with them. In order for him to accept himself, he must be approved by his parents. Trying to break a child will not work, instead it is necessary to develop those qualities and traits that are naturally weaker in introverts than in extroverts.
Private life
According to some, the ideal family is in which the spouse is an extrovert and the wife is an introvert. The husband would be strong, authoritarian, while the woman would be soft and submissive. Conflicts, as some think, in this version would not exist in principle. However, whether it be a man or a woman, an introvert is always a faithful life partner for the one he is.chose as his partner. Equally, such a person will get along in marriage with an extrovert, and in an alliance with another introvert.
About career
For phlegmatic introverts, work is not a problem if it matches the character traits. Such people can work hard, long, productively, especially when their personal boundaries are not violated by other people. The main task is to choose the right position. Others find it difficult to work with introverts because they tend to be perfectionists. Many introverts are workaholics who expect similar behavior from others. Having taken a managerial position, they are strict and picky. It is not easy for an introvert in a team, mostly such people choose a small team if they cannot completely get rid of the collective format. In a small group, he feels relatively confident, and this affects the results of his activities.
Any introvert is a responsible worker. He is ready to monitor in detail the processes entrusted to him at all stages of execution. Especially deep introverts prefer to work at home. Unstable personalities are impeccably suited to creative direction. Such people are maximally involved in the chosen business, perform their duties responsibly, therefore they are highly valued and show outstanding results.
About positions
Many introverts find it difficult to accept the need to work in the office on a fixed schedule. They should consider working away from their superiors and colleagues. A good option -freelance. Such a person acts for himself both as manager and performer. Autonomy of work is an exceptional value for an introvert. True, promoting yourself to interest the customer is not easy, and it is this stage that can cause problems. If all goes well, in the future, the freelancer will be able to schedule his schedule so that he does not experience problems due to contact with other people.
Another good option is a software developer. This profession is highly paid, allows you to minimize contact with other people. Work in software development is appropriate when a person has difficulty adapting to a large team. It is not uncommon to formulate a conditional TOR with the subsequent provision of the contractor with maximum freedom to translate the desired from the project into reality.
