Human life is made up of big and small decisions. Every day we make choices about what time to get up, what to eat for breakfast, and what route to take to work. Even little things like this sometimes cause serious anxiety, not to mention something bigger: which university to go to, what job to get, who to marry - or maybe get a divorce, quit and go in search of something better? The answer to such questions is often depression, a desire to trust chance or just leave everything as it is and go with the flow. After all, having done something, so often you have to repent of it later. But to repent of inaction is not less common. How to learn to make the right choice?
Insufficient information
One of the main hindrances that appears when you need to make a choice is the incompleteness of the information available. It is impossible to foresee all difficulties, prevent all problems, calculate all the details - simply because, alas, we are not given to see the future. On the other hand, each of the available options is at least a little bit, but a pig in a poke.
Fatalism and knowledge
The consequences of our actions are difficult to predict, but this is not a reason not to make a choice at all and surrender to mercyfate. To start, find out as much as you can about the choices. True, it is still impossible to find out absolutely everything about them and exclude chance from the most thoughtful plan. It remains only to come to terms with this and believe in yourself: no matter what you do, no matter what happens, you will cope with possible problems and take advantage of the benefits. This thought relieves inner tension: you no longer require yourself to make a choice with perfect accuracy.
Decision-making methods
1. You can sit, lie down, walk down the street (whatever you think better) and mentally weigh all the options. You can do the same on a piece of paper: describe each option, its advantages and disadvantages. For greater clarity, you can even draw a table, in the columns of which you list all the pros and cons of each option, and then calculate them - and, perhaps, with peace of mind, choose the option that has the most advantages. Just do not forget that their quantity does not always match the quality.
2. There is also a less rational way. Dry calculations of income and expenditure are meaningless if what is more important to you is what you will feel in a given situation. Then it is better to imagine each possible option in turn and experience it in your imagination. So you will know what your emotional reaction will be in this or that case, and whether you will like it.
3. Trust your intuition. To make a choice with its help is an invaluable talent: if it is possible to foresee accidents, then only with the help of such an irrational instinct. Is notmeans that you need to choose at random, but if you feel like, contrary to all logic, something tells you a completely different decision, do not rush to put it out of your mind.
Some of these techniques are more natural for you, some less: it depends on the mindset. It is more convenient and easier to use your own, native, but it is worth trying others and applying them in parallel: this way you can look at your problem from different angles and get a more complete picture.
