As soon as a child begins to realize himself and the surrounding reality, he also understands that everything is not so simple in the world. It is not always possible to get to eat what and when you want, if you fall, then your knee hurts, and mom and dad can scold you for wrongdoing. These are all problems that become more and more serious with age. Agree, what you were worried about in your teens seems frivolous by the age of twenty, and you would gladly exchange with your twenty-year-old self at forty.
Over time, however, it seems that it is possible to cope with any situation. It turns out that the problem to be solved is any? Yes, but sometimes, being face to face with a difficult situation, it is not easy to find a way out. In this post, we will tell you how to effectively deal with difficult life circumstances so that later you can proudly say: "This problem has been solved!"
What is the problem?
Any situation that makes us feel uncomfortable is called a problem. Not all problems are equal. If you break a nail or rip your tights before an important business meeting, this is one kind of trouble, deal withwhich is quite simple. If life deprives a person of work or a roof over his head, this is a difficulty of a completely different nature. Any problem to be solved, but in order to avoid confusion, it is customary to divide problems by type.
Types of problems
Problems can be divided into objective and subjective. Objective are those life circumstances that seriously interfere with the life of the individual. For example, a person loses loved ones, a source of income, falls ill.
Subjective problems are those situations that others may not see or understand, but for the life of an individual they pose a threat no less than objective ones. For example, these are quarrels with relatives or relatives, misunderstandings with colleagues, phobias, and complexes. Very often, subjective problems are associated with any fears of the individual. In some way, subjective problems are more dangerous for a person than objective ones. After all, you can wind yourself up without having real reasons for this.
Another classification of problems: external and internal.
External problems - those that a person associates with the outside world. “Dogs often bite me”, “The boss doesn’t like me, he always yells at me and loads me with tasks”, “I have problems communicating with the opposite sex.” These are real problems coming to the person from the outside world.
Internal are connected with emotional experiences. "I'm afraid to communicate with girls", "I'm afraid of dogs", "I can't stand being alone with the boss, I feel with himuncomfortable". This kind of problem is more subjective, it is based on feelings, intuition, perception of the world.
Next, we will tell you how to solve a problem if it has arisen on your life path, since any problem is solvable, even if it seems to you the opposite when you meet it.
Step one - take it easy
A man does not fall to his fate more than he can bear. Remember the darkest days of your life, when it seemed that you simply would not survive this. So what? Time has passed, and you remember the situation, if not with a smile, then in any case, you just survived the problem and continue to live. Knowing that you can survive anything and even feel completely happy in the future, take it for granted that you should not immediately treat the problem as the end of the world.
A problem to be solved is one that you start out with simply, not one that is easy to solve. Do not wind yourself up, do not sprinkle ashes on your head and do not cry over what has already happened. Accept what happened, mentally move to the future, where everything is already good, and then the situation will not seem catastrophic to you.
Don't hold back
Probably hardly anyone is delighted with the fact that it is used as a vest. But for this, after all, close and dear people are needed, right? If you are in trouble, then it is not at all ashamed to approach a friend or relative and say: "Help solve the problem!". This is just the case when two heads quickly figure out how to act in a difficult situation faster than one. In addition, telling a third partyto a person about your problem, you streamline the situation for yourself and look at it more soberly.
Don't bring work home and personal life to work
If you want to be a successful person, organize your life competently, it makes sense to distinguish between work and family life. So, if you have quarrels in the family, a break with a loved one is approaching, or you learn about a betrayal, it is very difficult to remain calm and be balanced at work. Meanwhile, you will have to, if you do not want to gain fame as a hysterical person.
The reverse is also true. Conflicts with colleagues, relationship problems with the boss, or work not going well? This is all very unpleasant, but it is wrong to take out your anger and fear on loved ones. Remember that the problem is worth sharing - calmly explain the situation to dear people. Perhaps from the outside your circumstance will not seem difficult or insoluble, and you will not only ease the burden, but also receive good advice. Remember that a fixable problem is whatever it is related to, but it can only be solved if you try to do it.
Not all at once
Some people manage to organize their lives very easily, and it seems that such people do not have problems at all, and if they do, they somehow quickly disappear. In fact, the opinion is erroneous that everything is fine with others, and only I am unlucky. Difficulties arise for everyone, and sometimes they come one after another. But there is one caveat. If you have a black streak of bad luck (and thissometimes you can’t get away from it), do not try to resolve all circumstances at once, in one fell swoop.
People who solve problems quickly and easily do so gradually. It is impossible to cope with an array of complexities at once, just as it is impossible to perform several diverse tasks at the same time. The result of trying to cover everything at once will be that you will not solve a single problem. Decide for yourself what is more serious and urgent, and what can wait, and proceed as planned.
Don't let stress get the better of you
Problems can not leave indifferent even the most seasoned person, and as a result, you may encounter stress. As a result - a violation of sleep and appetite, apathy, unwillingness to do anything at all, loss of interest in life. Stress is a serious nervous disorder that affects not only the psycho-emotional state, but also the physiology of the body. This is fraught with illness and the feeling that you are already feeling bad at the level of the body.
To keep stress from getting the better of you, unwind. It is very difficult to relax when you have a problem or even several, but if you do not unload, you can become seriously ill. It is best to spend time in the company of close people with whom you should not talk about your difficulties. On the contrary, take a break and imagine that nothing burdens your life. If you feel uncomfortable in the company, you can go to a concert or an exhibition, visit a movie premiere, rent a hotel room and spend time in a new comfortable place.
What's next
All the above steps are a ready and working system that solves the problem. Only in this way - by first distancing and reducing the importance, looking at the situation from a different angle of decision - you can find a way out of the most difficult situation. Remember that withdrawing into yourself in the most difficult moments in life is not an option. Surround yourself with people who are dear and close to you, with whom you can share and be distracted. Active rest, getting pleasure from works of art, communication will also be a good relief from painful thoughts.
This too shall pass
If you all can't get the problem out of your head, remember King Solomon's ring. Imagine how many complex and confusing situations a king can have! Meanwhile, he was known among the people as a wise and balanced ruler. Perhaps his ring helped him look at life correctly. On the inside of it was engraved "This too shall pass". This is what happens in life - a philosophical view of the frailty and fragility of everything that exists solves many problems.
