Did you decide to learn how to defend your point of view and influence other people in ordinary dialogues? To do this, you first need to familiarize yourself with the basic theoretical information on this issue. In our article, 8 effective tips will be presented that will allow you to learn how to stick to your position even for the most insecure person. There is also a short video at the end with some more helpful tips.
Don't impose your opinion on other people
Thought about whether you need to defend your point of view? Discussions on this subject can be found on various thematic forums, however, if you have come to us, then you are not interested in empty talk, but in effective methods that will allow you to persuade the interlocutor even in the most disadvantageous situations. In this and the following sections, you will find some tips for this.
So, first you have towell aware that you should in no case impose your opinion on others. Any person should be able to competently express their point of view and argue it with strong arguments, regardless of whether others share it. However, what often happens is that people simply try to impose their thoughts or worldview on others, because they believe that their views are the most correct. Understand that no one wants to hear that their life has been going wrong all this time. Even if you know 100% that you are right, learn to defend your point of view as unobtrusively as possible. To do this, you can use the following turns: "Think as you like, but it seems to me …" or "I respect your point of view, but here you are wrong, because …" In this case, people will listen to you with interest and sooner or later change their minds.
Learn to say "no" in bad situations
How often it happens that we agree to some dubious enterprise, although it is initially unprofitable for us. A colleague invited you to his friend's anniversary, and you could not refuse him, even though you had plans to work more that day. A familiar situation, isn't it? As a result, you have to go to a hopeless event to your own detriment only because you can’t say a firm “no”. It should be understood that a person has every right to agree or refuse a certain proposal. Before giving a positive answer to any adventure, analyze in detail thatthe fact that it will bring you more benefit than loss.
You're probably wondering now, "What does this have to do with me wanting to learn how to stand my ground?" Everything is extremely simple. If people from your environment see that you are able to give a negative answer in situations where there is no benefit for you, then they will subconsciously respect you, which means that the opinion that you have about a certain topic will be perceived seriously. Even if a person hears from you a completely opposite point of view, he will at least think about what you told him. After all, only truly strong-willed individuals can say "no".
Don't get hung up on other people's opinions
The ability to defend one's point of view is also inextricably linked with whether a person knows how to ignore other people's words. Do you think people will trust the person who is very easy to convince in the opposite direction? That's it! Learn not to dwell on the words that other people tell you. This does not mean that you should not respect someone else's point of view at all. However, if you know that your worldview is correct, you must fundamentally defend it or at least not change it in situations where they try to convince you. If you do not learn how to do this, then you will be quite easy to manipulate, so you should not dwell on other people's thoughts, even if these thoughtscome from a very authoritative person.
Learn to formulate your words succinctly
In order to have time for constructive criticism after the dialogue, you need to learn not only to defend your point of view, but also to succinctly formulate the thoughts that are born in your head. To do this, try to discard unnecessary turns and concentrate on the main thing - those words that will make your interlocutor change his point of view. The easiest way is to write out the main and unconditional arguments of your position and start any dispute from them. If you manage to confuse your opponent from the very first words, then winning the argument will not be difficult. The most important thing is to formulate your speech competently, succinctly and clearly. Then it will seem to other people that your arguments in other matters will be no less convincing.
Upgrade your communication skills
Now you understand how important it is to be able to defend your point of view? If you do not learn how to convince other people in important matters, then sooner or later someone will convince you. To prevent this from happening, try to improve your communication skills properly. Simply put, learn how to communicate with other people. This process is quite complex and requires several years of training. However, if other people see that you can communicate on various topics, then they will subconsciously begin to trust you.
If you decide to start an argument with someone elseperson, you should remain as calm as possible. Respect the opinion of your opponent, but in no case take his side in cases where you think he is wrong. It is not necessary to conduct a dialogue in raised tones, let alone become personal - this is the lot of weak and insecure people who do not deserve the trust of others. Try to keep your cool and an adequate view of things even if there are not one, but several rivals against you in a dispute.
Study the psychology of influencing people
If you want to learn how to defend your own point of view, then it's time to start studying the psychology of influencing other people. You can manipulate your interlocutor with the help of various psychological techniques. Each person has special unconscious points that can be pressed to make you do whatever you want. If you are at least a little familiar with these methods, then you understand what we are talking about. A change in point of view is only a small part of what can be achieved with the help of such manipulation. Try to study more psychological literature on this subject and constantly look for the values in other people that they cherish.
Argument your words correctly
It's pretty simple here. In order to properly defend your point of view, you must first learn how to correctly argue your words. Your arguments must be clear and logical so that the opponent is 100% sure that you cantrust. For example, in psychology there is one rather entertaining method of persuasion. During the argument, try to ask the person more questions, the answer to which will sound short and simple: "Yes." If there are really a lot of such questions, then the person will begin to subconsciously doubt his own rightness and will take your side. However, only ask questions that are directly or indirectly related to the subject of the dispute.
Know when to speak up
Unfortunately, many people do not even think about whether it is necessary to defend their point of view at the moment, because sometimes situations may arise when disputes are inappropriate and it would be best to remain silent. A fool will speak his mind everywhere and always, and a wise man will wait for the right moment when words will bring maximum effectiveness. For example, instead of proving your colleague wrong about your lunch break methods, you should wait for the general meeting and bring up this important topic at it. If you manage to convince the majority of those present, then the opponent simply cannot disagree under their influence.
Conclusion
We hope now you understand better how and why you need to defend your point of view. The ability to convince other people is a quality that is inherent only in strong-willed individuals who are able to manage tens or even thousands of people. To develop this quality in yourself, you should read more psychological literature and watch educational videos. One ofwe leave such videos for you to watch.
The author of the video really knows how to convey his thoughts simply and clearly, as evidenced by the name of his channel and the size of the audience. Happy viewing!
