How to enjoy life: advice from a psychologist

2024 Author: Miguel Ramacey | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 06:11

You are wearily wandering through the gloomy autumn park, scolding yourself for having the wrong conversation with the customer, not signing the contract and now you will not see the award. At home, the problems of family members who always need something will fall upon you. The new neighbor turned out to be a very unpleasant and conflicting type, on top of everything - problems with he alth, weight, sleep, etc. You look enviously at the carefree laughing couple on the bench and do not understand how to enjoy life in your situation. Trust me, it's not that bad! And the fact that you are reading this material already speaks of your readiness for change.

Optimism is a must

The most important organ in a person is his brain. The ability to think, to give a correct assessment of events allows people to radically change their lives. Believe me, in order to catch moments of happiness more often, you don’t need special conditions and a lot of money. A billionaire on a luxury yacht may feel less satisfied than a poor shoemaker who has just seenhis newborn son. Happiness and satisfaction are momentary states, but it is from such moments that our life consists. Direct your thoughts along this path. Put the negativity away. Remember Scarlett O'Hara's catchphrase: "I'll think about it tomorrow!"

Look at your situation and always say the word “but” to yourself: a gloomy cold day, but the exhausting heat is over, you can dress warmly and take a walk, breathing fresh and humid air. Family problems? But you have a family and children, and someone has been dreaming about it all his life. Didn't work out with the contract? This is a chance to consider new strategies and perspectives. Live and enjoy this particular day, this moment, this weather and yourself! Literally from tomorrow, start living as if all your dreams have already begun to come true! See what's coming soon.

You are the one and only

And this is the real truth! A bunch of complexes and a belief in their own insolvency are formed differently for everyone: someone is inspired by their parents, someone reaches out for a respected friend and blames himself for failure, someone feels like a gray mouse against the backdrop of a bright beautiful girlfriend. Why love me? If you ask yourself this question sincerely, think: who will appreciate you if you yourself do not know your own merits? And how to enjoy life without self-respect? If a person has too developed self-criticism, self-flagellation and underestimation, it is difficult for him to be happy. There are no people in the world whom nature would not have endowed with something that would distinguish them from others. And don't be afraidsometimes reward yourself, your loved one, with an unscheduled vacation or a delicious dessert. Looking in the mirror every day, smile at yourself and say: “Life is great! And this day is for me!”

Tell me who your friend is

Sometimes to live happily now and here a person is hindered by his environment. This does not mean at all that you need to leave your family or stop helping a sick friend. The bottom line is different: soberly assess your circle of friends. If you spend a lot of time in the company of whiners, for whom all conversations are reduced to criticism, gossip and abuse of an imperfect world, it is unlikely that your perception will be different. Take for yourself a model of a person with whom everything is arguable, who is always cheerful and pleased with himself. Watch him, talk, find out his attitude to life, ask about the ability to overcome troubles. Moreover, the age of such a friend is completely unimportant - sometimes a wise old man becomes a measure of life values, and sometimes a very young, cheerful person.

You should always try to communicate with people who are equal to you in terms of moral values, degree of education, range of interests. Watch TV shows selectively, exclude the negative completely. The whole industry makes money on this - and you have nothing to do with it.

It is not customary for us to run for advice to a personal psychologist, like the Americans. Whether this is good or bad is a separate issue, but the fact that you need to learn to feel comfortable in the world around you is a fact. Learn to be cheerful from people who call themselves happy.

Can money buy happiness?

Howenjoy life in poverty? Is happiness possible without money? Or happiness is not in money, but in their quantity? This question is discussed by everyone and everywhere. Everyone agrees that money is an opportunity to satisfy your needs. The difference is that everyone's needs are different. Some want to be rich in order to ensure their importance, gain power, others need freedom of action and movement. And here lies the answer: money by itself, in any form, means nothing, pleasure comes from what you spend it on.

Envy is the enemy of happiness

To be able to enjoy your life without comparing it with others and without envying anyone is not given to everyone. Envy kills friendship, love. This feeling destroys family ties, becomes the cause of hostility and crime. For oneself, envy is a bad mood, dissatisfaction and diseases of the nerves. You can completely get rid of this nasty feeling if you learn:

a) love yourself;

b) love people;

c) find a balance between your needs and opportunities.

There are people who don't like to flaunt their failures. Behind every successful career, happy family is a long and painstaking work, and sometimes big losses that no one wants to wish for themselves. Realize this and try to understand what qualities helped another to achieve what you would like to achieve. Do not waste energy on envy, tell yourself: "Just live and enjoy life." And remember: at this moment, thousands of people are dreaming about what you have! For example, at least the ability to see andread online.

What does it mean to love people?

It means accepting them as they are. The eternally dissatisfied and grouchy neighbor, perhaps, became so from loneliness, or maybe her childhood did not work out. Not everyone in the world is kind and fluffy. The world is generally imperfect. Loving life and not trying to educate everyone in your own way does not mean pleasing everyone. Some individuals are not subject to education in adulthood, and neither your kindness nor pity will re-educate them. Build your existence so that with those who are unpleasant to you, the paths intersect as little as possible. Live he althy! Don't waste time arguing! The best way to win a conflict is to get rid of it.

Expectations and reality

Do not expect too much from life, then there will be fewer disappointments, and each achievement will please more. This does not mean that you do not need to plan anything and set goals. The goals just need to be realistic. Psychologists advise using this tactic. First, learn to live now in harmony with yourself and determine one stage in your development (career, relationships) that you can practically accomplish. Then raise the bar higher and higher. Never rest on your laurels and praise yourself for every success.

Magic words of gratitude

Make it a rule mentally and out loud to thank the Universe for every day of your life, for everything that you have. Thank you for nothing? Not true! You have life, a roof over your head, water, food,vision. So every day be grateful for this to God (the Universe, fate, in whom you believe). How it works? Our thought is material. That's for sure! Evil attracts evil, curses return like a boomerang, gratitude is perceived by the Universe and returns with an addition. Sincerely thank the people who helped you.

Do good

No matter how bad you feel at the moment, always remember that there is someone who is even worse. Help someone else to enjoy every day. You do not need to have a lot of money for this, just a desire is enough. Sometimes a person in trouble needs a simple friendly participation. Just do not demand praise and brag about your good deeds on every occasion. Sincere goodness should be quiet, and your life without embellishment will be filled with inner light and joy.

This hateful job

What does it mean to enjoy life? Enjoy every day of your life! Wake up with the expectation of a new and fall asleep in the satisfaction of past events. And here is the hitch: when a person is engaged in a job he hates, he does not want to wake up in the morning, and restless thoughts do not let him sleep at night. Good for those who have the opportunity to earn with pleasure. And if a well-paid position leads to frenzy and neurosis? There is always a way out.

1. Change your job, profession, leave your position.

2. Analyze what is more important for you at the moment: a he althy nervous system or, nevertheless, the income that gives youopportunity to support a family? In that case, be thankful that you have such a job.

3. Try to turn your favorite hobby into an income item - this has worked for many people. And there is earnings, and everyday pleasure.

Be persistent

Very often the stereotypes imposed on us by family, society, environment penetrate our consciousness so deeply and take root there that we are afraid to be happy, if for this we need to retreat from them. Which university to enter, with whom to start a family, how to communicate with friends, how to spend a day off - it's up to you. And if you like baking pies, then don't try to convince yourself that you need a career as a doctor of some kind of science there in the name of continuing the family tradition. As a result, both you and those around you will be happy, because it is a pleasure to communicate with a person who knows how to enjoy life. Don't be afraid of drastic changes. If such a thought has ripened, act.

A he althy mind in a he althy body

Among people who maintain a he althy lifestyle and a he althy diet, there are very few gloomy pessimists. Sports, yoga, dancing increase the level of satisfaction. In addition, group classes allow you to find friends among like-minded people. Spend more time in nature. For starters, try just walking at least part of the way home from work, preferably through a square or park. A person always finds time for what he really wants. Sometimes yourselfloved one, you just need to pick it up and push it into the light.

A person with he alth problems cannot enjoy life. Constant dissatisfaction with one's place in society leads to problems with this important component. This is such a vicious circle. Only a personal desire to be he althy and happy can break it.

The same applies to the power system. Not a single debilitating diet brought joy to anyone. Constantly hungry eyes cannot look happy. Food brings joy when it is tasty, beautiful and he althy. In everything, individual needs and a sense of proportion are important.

Life is beautiful! Love her, yourself and your loved ones! And be happy!