Galina Belozub, as a psychologist, often receives requests from clients: "I'm already so old, but I can't get married, I don't have a family." She seems to have everything - beauty, mind, and profession. And mom sighs, and friends / acquaintances pester with the question: “Well, didn’t you get married?” The factors influencing the fact that a modern young lady is not married by the age of thirty may be different, Galina Belozub believes. However, if we summarize all these reasons, we can distinguish three main ones. The first is a negative attitude towards men. This situation arises in childhood, and it is better to solve these problems with the help of a psychologist. The second reason is low self-esteem and lack of self-love. A woman with such self-esteem does not believe that she can be loved, that she is worthy of attention. And, to avoid the pain of rejection, she refuses to communicate with men. The third reason is the increased level of claims. Escape from reality into illusion. Like every psychotherapist, Galina Belozub works with these problems in her practice.
Books written by her are of great interest to the public. The most famous of them is "The Crisis of Forty. Advice to a Modern Woman". Also in 2007, she published the book "Marriage from Dawn to Dusk" on the topic of marriage and marriage, how to meetyour other half. Her book "We choose, we are chosen" deals more with the problem of choosing a partner.
Injuries affecting personal life
Any negative emotional event that happened to a person in childhood has a strong impact on his entire future life. As a result, there are consequences of psychological trauma: low self-esteem, various fears, insecurity, isolation. And until a person heals his psychological childhood trauma, people and circumstances will continue to be attracted to him, which will aggravate it. The topic of healing emotional trauma is very painful and relevant. Canadian psychologist Liz Burbo gave a very precise classification of injuries and their causes:
- outcast trauma;
- injury of the abandoned;
- trauma of the humiliated;
- devotee injury;
- trauma of injustice.
At receptions, clients somehow return to their childhood and the events that continue to influence them. With these injuries, it is necessary to work with a specialist, Galina Belozub believes. The biography of this psychologist suggests that she is published a lot in popular publications, for example, in the magazine "My Family".
How can I reduce the impact of trauma on my personal life?
We remember the emotions and feelings that we experienced, we accept them by saying certain words: "I accept, I admit …". Galina Belozub believes that we so rarely turn to ourselves, to our consciousness, that in theserare moments our body, our self just releases traumatic situations as a token of gratitude. It is necessary to treat these injuries, psychologist Galina Belozub is convinced. The family, of course, is where all problems are born.
Association
Association is a connection, a mental process, when 2 emotional states or concepts are interconnected, are in a spike. For example, love and suffering. For some, these concepts are the same in meaning. Why? Because around (or in films) a person sees only the suffering of lovers. Or for someone "family" is associated with the word "happiness", and for someone - with the words "grief and pain". These associations also make it difficult to form he althy relationships with the opposite sex and build a full-fledged family later in life.
Loy alty
Generic loy alty is strongest when our loy alty goes back to our ancestors. When devotion, for example, of our ancestors to their leader or tribe saved their lives. You are loyal to your mom. Mom is single, she has lived all her life without a husband, she is unhappy. You will not allow yourself to be happy in solidarity with your mother! How?! I?! Will I have a family!? Mom can't take it! Or, as a sign of solidarity with her son, the mother does not marry a second time. That is, energetically a woman is already married: to a son, a child, a mother, a father! There is loy alty to the profession when a person devotes himself to his work, for example, to the stage. In this case, loy alty to the cause, apparently, also helped the ancestors to survive,she subconsciously sits in the modern generation. There is loy alty to the environment - all friends are lonely, and we have been close all our lives, how can I betray them? How to "remove" loy alty? There are certain techniques, practices that are used by a psychologist in personal consultations. They are based on acceptance and are very powerful. Galina Belozub herself has a strong marriage for over twenty years, raised two children. She often brings the experience of her family to work with those who need her advice and help.
