I'm lonely… Almost every third person on our planet can say or think so. Loneliness is such a state or a certain moment in life when an individual is left alone either physically or mentally.
It's normal to feel like this for a while. It is worth saying that often creative individuals seek to be alone with themselves. And this pastime becomes very fruitful. However, loneliness as a way of life is a very unfavorable condition for a person. It is especially problematic for men. Pain, loneliness and hopelessness are often experienced by older people.
This feeling is, as a rule, a problem of megacities and the youth living in them. Perhaps one of the reasons is the desire to draw attention to yourself and at the same time feel sorry for yourself. In any case, this is much easier to do than to acquire communication skills.
Hidden issue
The representatives of the stronger sex rarely complain of loneliness. However, the effect of this condition on men is most detrimental. The one who prefers to live without a reasonable environment is likely to sink and acquire bad habits.in the form of nightlife, slovenliness, gambling and alcohol.
"I'm lonely" - so say those men who do not have permanent friends or a beloved woman. This is a big problem. The reasons for the loneliness of men can be divided into two large groups. It is because of them that the representatives of the stronger sex over the age of thirty do not want to have a close environment.
The first group includes pathological causes. Among them are the following:
- infantilism;
- psychopathology;
- social phobia;
- underdeveloped communication skills with people;- inadequate self-esteem.
All of these reasons may overlap. So, there are infantile personalities with inadequate self-esteem and poor communication skills. When forming relationships, it is important to be able to determine what sources the psychology of a single man has. If it is based on personal underdevelopment, then communication will have a positive impact on the chosen one. Sometimes the reasons lie in psychopathology. Then the manifestation of attention can have negative and uncontrollable consequences.
There are also reasons for loneliness that are classified as existential. They can be the norm and enrich the inner world of a person. Among them, one can single out loneliness, which is an element of spiritual growth; serving as part of the profession; as an indicator of self-sufficiency of the individual; being part of a culture acceptable to a person.
The problem of older people
"I'm lonely" - somany of those who have reached old age can say. The lack of a close environment for the elderly is currently a big social problem. Often, lonely old people complain about the feeling of abandonment and lack of demand, misunderstanding and alienation that comes from young people. At the same time, they do not feel support and care from the state.
It is in old age that the problem of human loneliness lies in the absence of children, relatives, grandchildren. It also consists in the fact that the old man lives separately from the young members of his family. Sadness and loneliness cover in old age after the death of one of the spouses. Sometimes old people isolate themselves from other people because of their financial infirmity.
The solution of a sufficiently large social problem of society should be undertaken by the state, because the vulnerability and insecurity of the elderly do not allow them to independently find a way out of any difficult situation that has arisen in their life.
Loneliness and he alth
The lack of a close environment largely negatively affects a person's condition. This also applies to his he alth. It is worth saying that the harm from loneliness is much greater than from the common ailment of our time - obesity. American scientists published data from medical observations that allowed them to draw certain conclusions. Compared to obesity, which is detrimental to the he alth of the human body, loneliness is detrimental to the psyche. In order to prolong the years of his life, a person must communicate withpeople close to him, travel more and try to find a mate.
An interesting fact is that until the age of fifty you can be happy, even being lonely at the same time. Having crossed a half-century threshold, a person realizes that he needs a soulmate or grandchildren.
Female loneliness
The fair sex complains about the absence of loved ones much more often than men. There is a certain paradox in this. The phrase: "I'm lonely" is said more often by those who are most surrounded by people.
A woman often experiences the absence of a close man as her inferiority. At the same time, the loneliness that the fair sex suffers from is more a feeling than a reality. This is often just a game of longing for those ladies who do not make contact, but are waiting for their prince. For women, feeling sorry for themselves and complaining about life is more familiar and easier than directing efforts to find a partner. Talking about the absence of decent men is undoubtedly easier than having a positive soul and watching your figure.
Mythological type
Women's loneliness at a certain moment is characterized by the absence of a man with whom a lady could live together or at least meet. For example, a single mother can be included in this category. Such a woman has a hard time in life. She works hard and is forced to independently solve all the problems that arise on her way. Such a woman, as a rule, has her own house, and she can do whatever she likes in it. For example, spend the whole day on the couch forreading a book, knowing about the mountain of unwashed dishes in the kitchen.
The psychology of a single woman is that there is no need to provide an account for her actions. She is overwhelmed with self-esteem, as she provides for herself and has the right to vote, which she can use everywhere. If the fair sex does not have a close environment, then she can devote all her free time to a hobby, devoting most of her life to it. In addition, it is much easier for a single woman to invite someone she wants to visit to visit her. This lady won't need to come up with incredible stories after a night of chatting with her best friend.
A single woman is psychologically independent. She is not in a state of love, but at the same time she is comfortable and good. However, she is sometimes incredibly sad in the evenings that she spends with her child or with a cat. She has the opportunity to meet her only love, but she is in no hurry to meet her.
Prince Charming
A single woman does not have a life partner, so she is in constant search. At the same time, she has a clear idea of \u200b\u200bhow her loved one should be:
- handsome;
- tall;
- rich;
- educated;
- smart;
- caring; - responsible;
- honest;
- no children;
- accomplished;
- single.
In addition, it must be mysterious and charming. The only lover must be strong andcheerful, while being monogamous. But most importantly, it should not have any flaws. However, real life does not often pit us against princes.
Myths
The psychology of a woman's loneliness pushes her to continue suffering. This is supported by various myths. So, the assertion that a chicken is not a bird, and a woman is not a person, pushes the lady to the opposite reasoning. They concern men. A certain stereotype is formed in the mind, which, of course, suggests that all men are unreliable, stupid and insensitive. Another characteristic myth is the assertion that a woman is able to stop a galloping horse and enter a burning hut. This forms a false idea of the ability to solve all life's problems without the participation of a man.
Causes to suffer
The mostly lonely woman is burdened by her freedom. She has to deal with the hardships of life on her own. However, no one helps her. The woman is burdened by the holidays that she meets in the company of the same lonely girlfriends.
Sometimes such a lady wants to talk heart to heart with someone, find sympathy and complain. In addition, she has no one to turn to for help. At the same time, society can also condemn by labeling a woman as an old maid.
Real loneliness
Sometimes a woman has a large circle of relatives and close friends. They fully support it and bear a certain responsibility. At the same time, a single lady does not always work. She can be given money by her parents orex-husband, we althy relatives or adult children. In this regard, it cannot be completely left to itself. Sometimes obligations to relatives are much harder than family relationships. At the same time, it is difficult for a single woman to be an independent person. This is done for her by children, relatives or friends.
There are times when a lady purposefully strives for loneliness. This allows her to heal her wounds and regain her peace of mind.
But be that as it may, it is worth remembering that loneliness for a woman is her personal choice. This state does not mean that she is second rate or that she has done wrong things. This is an independent choice of the individual.
Benefits
Female loneliness has its positive aspects. They lie in the freedom to dispose of their time. At the same time, an independent lady can afford what a woman would not dare to be married. She does not need to look for approaches to her husband and adapt to his mood. She can make a career for herself, get an education and enjoy any hobby with pleasure. A woman not bound by family ties is her own mistress. She not only earns money, but also distributes it as she sees fit.
