Each of us has come across a person who, in a conversation of 100 words, devotes 99 to himself. It seems that this behavior is just a joke that will end soon. But no! He makes you empathize with yourself in all possible and impossible ways. Most likely, you have encountered a person with a demonstrative personality type.
The psychological literature says they have an anomalous capacity for repression.
What is "crowding out"?
Repression is a mechanism that avoids internal or external conflict. The subconscious does not want to accept situations that provoke anxiety or threaten. This psychological remedy has a minimal effect, because a person still feels discomfort, even if he replaces traumatic factors with more pleasant memories.
A person with such a "talent"easily ignores and forgets reasons that may upset her. Instead of solving the problem, she puts it on a "shelf" in her head and "closes it with a curtain." The reason becomes invisible, but still affects the life and dreams of a person, remaining in the subconscious. In a state of hypnosis, a veiled situation can be described in detail.
Repression is characteristic of an immature and infantile personality.
How is repression manifested?
In people with a demonstrative personality type, repression is so developed that they can wishful thinking, often resorting to lies, but they themselves do not realize it. That is, if you put them on a detector, it will confirm the veracity of the words.
Some representatives of the hysterical type can displace even physical pain and suppress the unconditioned reflex.
But in any case, all forgotten unpleasant moments must have gone through the process of awareness.
What are character accentuations?
Accentuation is still considered the norm, but it already borders on a deviation, it is characterized by the intensification of some particular character trait. It can be so pointed and strongly pronounced that it provokes disharmonic development of the personality.
There are several classifications of character accentuations. For example, Lichko distinguishes overt and covert accentuations, the latter appearing only in emergency situations.
These personality traits can be passed down from parent to child or nurtured by upbringing.
Typesaccentuations
K. Leonhard distinguishes 10 types: demonstrative (Lichko calls him hysterical), emotive, hyperthymic, dysthymic, labile, anxious, ex alted, pedantic, stuck and excitable.
Main characteristics of the demonstrative type
People with a hysteroid-demonstrative personality type do their best to draw attention to their person. If this cannot be achieved by generally accepted moral methods, they will use any, even inhumane methods.
There is an opinion that this accentuation is characterized by a manic need for approval, in fact this is not entirely true. The main desire is to be in the spotlight.
You can not call the hysteroid-demonstrative personality type negative. He combines both good qualities and bad ones.
If a person is valued, respected, he achieves even better results with all his might, directing all resources to self-improvement. The main thing is to get approval, praise from time to time and be confident in your superiority over the rest.
Such people achieve great success, drive the world's progress. They demonstrate perfectionism in their work.
If a person of a demonstrative personality type fails to make a good impression on others, he will shock until he gets the right emotions. And getting at least some attention is not so difficult, for example, starting to stand out in a bright inappropriate way, behaving antisocially, screaming loudly, getting nakedin public places, go into detail about your private life, etc.
How do hysteroids interact with others?
A conflicting personality of a demonstrative type is characterized by its extremes: if you praise and approve of her actions, then you can become one of your closest friends, but if you cross the road, try to compete or demonstrate your dislike, you risk getting into the "black list".
Further development of events will depend on the upbringing of a person and his desire to suppress negative qualities in himself.
Yes, there are people whose willpower is stronger than diseases or accentuations, but this is very rare.
If you notice traits of a demonstrative type in your interlocutor, it is better to warn yourself and future relationships.
Egocentrism is the main feature of the demonstrator
What do hysteroids most often talk about? About myself, about my life, about achievements, preferences. Other people are remembered in passing or by comparing with themselves (“Her voice is as slow as mine”, “Her dress is very similar to mine, only short, blue, with patterns …”, etc. - in fact, this thing can be completely different).
They do not miss the opportunity to advertise themselves or provoke the interlocutor to praise. You may not like a person at all, but at some point you catch yourself thinking that you are showering him with compliments. If you are not a conflict person, then such a reaction is absolutely natural.
If you are not used to hiding yourdissatisfaction, then the interlocutor of a demonstrative type will perceive this as a threat, and the repression mechanism will immediately work.
Good qualities
People with a demonstrative type of character, perfectly manifest themselves in the professions of the "man-man" sphere. This is due to their ability to play a role. They know how to masterfully adapt to those on whom their future fate will depend: to bosses, to important clients, to spectators. Hysteroids perfectly master acting professions, they show themselves well as attendants.
Representatives of this accentuation are able to adapt to any client: with a choleric they behave with restraint, with a phlegmatic - actively. They need approval, but they also know it won't be easy.
The demonstrative personality type shows itself perfectly in family relationships, because it knows how to adapt to a partner, suppress and resolve conflicts.
Hysteroids in childhood
A striking example of a demonstrative personality type can be considered "exemplary" students. At an early age, hysteroids are often favorites of teachers, because pranks are done on the sly, and if actions come out, then teachers do not attach much importance to them - they don’t happen to anyone. They responsibly carry out all the instructions of adults, because their status and further fate depend on their approval or censure. But the "exemplary" student does not miss the opportunity to substitute his peers. He only mentions ethical standards in public.
In adolescenceage hysteroids strive for leadership. If for some reason they cannot influence children, then they join the "stars" of the class or school and quickly gain a sense of sympathy and trust. Further, they seek to subdue the students in order to have power over them and "feed off" with praise.
If the owners of this accentuation lack the necessary leadership qualities, they compensate for this with a diplomatic approach: they choose influential personalities and talk to each one individually, often filling the conversation with subtle slander. After a simple procedure, the normal psychological climate collapses, the members of the young team develop distrust of each other, but trust in the demonstrator remains. While they rethink the recently heard "truth" and look askance at each other, the hysteric takes power into his own hands and remains the only link. This method is used by him in adulthood.
Recommendations
All negative character traits can be corrected, but the sooner it is identified and noticed, the easier it is to correct them.
Often, people, having learned that they have a demonstrative personality type, begin to be proud and explain many misconducts by this. Girls are more often subject to this accentuation. They can be easily distinguished: graceful manners that are shown only in the presence of the audience, strong intonation, acting in front of an audience.
There are some useful tips from a psychologist for a demonstrative personality type:
- It's worth playing modestylearn to be more reserved in public.
- Try to do a good deed and not tell anyone about it. Hysteroids perceive this trick as another game, but it has a colossal effect.
- In the company, demonstrators always try to attract attention, let them try to sit quietly aside once.
- If they cope with the second task, then let them try to pass off their smart idea as someone else's.
- Hysteroids have a hard time accepting a situation when all attention is not on them, but on someone else. Let them learn to rejoice for friends or comrades.
How to interact with an hysteroid?
If you are not included in the circle of reference personalities of the hysteroid, you are not his boss, then you can immediately classify yourself as one of his enemies. He sees ill-wishers, rivals and competitors everywhere. It is a special pleasure to create conflict situations and heat up passions, as, indeed, the process of confrontation itself.
There are two answers to the question of how to interact with a demonstrative type at the time of conflict:
- ignore, abstract as much as possible, demonstrate steadfastness, complete calm;
- be more aggressive.
To protect yourself from future conflicts, you need to know a little secret of how to communicate with a demonstrative personality type: flatter! If you can’t praise from the bottom of your heart, then find in the representative of this accentuation several positive qualities that you would like to develop in yourself, and imitate them. In this casesincerity will not be feigned - this is the time. You will learn something new - that's two. Making your fellow hysteroid feel significant and important, which will prevent conflict is three.
Communication with the owner of a demonstrative personality type requires mental stability and emotional maturity from the interlocutor, the ability to abstract in stressful situations.
Examples
Many figures of modern show business and actors are prominent representatives of the hysterical personality type, especially those who do not hesitate to shock the audience. More can be said: a demonstrative type of accentuation should be present in the character of public people.
Among the characters of children's Soviet cartoons are the parrot Kesha ("Return of the Prodigal Parrot") and Carlson.
In the comedy "The Government Inspector" N. V. Gogol also describes the classic representative of the demonstrative type - Khlestakov.
