What is love for the motherland, parents, children, man and woman? Each of these manifestations are individual. The main thing is to express your feelings correctly and soberly. The best advice from psychologists is: "Learn to listen and hear your partner." This is the key to building relationships. Of course, on the part of men and women, the manifestation of love feelings is presented in different ways. But having a common denominator in life and understanding a companion is a very important thing in any relationship.
Signs of love
According to psychologists, there are a number of signs that determine the feeling of love. Consider the most striking, not requiring deep mental proceedings characteristic features:
- No doubt. A sense of confidence in the correctness of the choice, despite the conversations and advice of others.
- Love just like that. When you love and can not answer the question: "For what?". In the case of real feelings, it is impossible to determine for what parameters and properties you manifest and feel it.
- Bilateral development. If one will try, the other will not, then the question of the authenticity of feelings will arise.
- A look into oneside. Love is not when two people look at each other, but when they look in the same direction. It's simple.
- Silence is golden. To be able to just be silent with a person is not given to everyone. And only a loving heart is capable of understanding, accepting another and being silent in silence, without unnecessary words and emotions.
- Love as proof. For everyone it has its own meaning. But in any situation, in any problem, a person has a choice - to stay with his companion or leave. All of us make this choice. And sometimes daily.
How to recognize feelings?
Surely every person in his life experiences this wonderful feeling of love. But there are many cases where it is difficult to recognize them. To understand what you feel for a person, you can simply answer a few questions. Just be honest and frank. Questions to help recognize love:
- What do you like about a partner? Love is everything. And sometimes it’s even impossible to say why you love him. It's not looks or charisma. These feelings are deeper. The object of love is fully accepted with all pluses and minuses.
- Do you accept all the qualities of a partner? There are no specific characteristics for which you love. Everything is accepted in real feelings. No questions asked, no rules.
- Did this feeling flare up or grow out of friendship? More often love outgrows from good or friendly relations. It doesn't look like passion. She is calm and confident. Love grows, not ignites like a flame.
- Do you consider the opinions of others? Opinionfriends and family are always taken into account. Let it not always be taken into account. But hearing and listening to others is possible in the case of true love.
- Does jealousy show up in relationships? If you have real feelings for a partner, then there is no envy. You rejoice in all his beginnings and victories. Do you want to help achieve your cherished dream? And just to be there in these happy moments for him.
- Feelings are constant or have some basis? Love has no reason. She is unchanging no matter what. Even in moments of quarrel and contention. True love feelings remain forever.
- How do feelings affect your personality? Genuine emotions awaken in a person the desire for the best. All positive qualities are only gaining strength. Love fills with happiness and confidence. There is no feeling of fear and anxiety in her.
Parents' love
How often do adults, in pursuit of their ambitions, for the opinions of others, forget to ask their children what they need? In the modern world, parents are trying to provide their children financially, to give them a better education, to sign up for more sections, circles … And then time passes, the child grows up and suddenly shows dissatisfaction that he did not receive that same parental love. The points of contact with the child are lost. He grew up and became, as it were, a stranger with his own interests…
What is it?
First of all, you need to know how parental love manifests itself and what it consists of. Accepting that the child is a separate person and not yourscontinuation, he should not have those talents and skills that his parents attribute to him. The child is a separate person. A separate, unique flower. And parental love and duty is to study this little creature given to us by God, to support and develop what the baby has by nature and in which he shows interest. Parents should accept the child for who he is and not try to grow an orange from an apple tree.
Next, what is parental love. In self-giving. Somewhere even in the service of the child. It does not say that it is necessary to fulfill all the whims and say goodbye to your parents with your life. No. But life will have to change. It is necessary to be a mentor to a child, an example. An example of an ideal person. After all, where else can a child look for an example, except in the family. This is what self-giving is. Listen at the right moment, even if there is no time. Talk heart to heart. Do not punish, but instruct on the right path. Punishment, by the way, is also love. The parent, as an experienced person, sets limits for the child - what is possible and what is not. It gives freedom, but not impunity and self-will, thereby protecting the child from evil, from himself, from rash acts, instructs the child how to live right, showing by example.
How to recognize the love of parents?
Parental love is where heart-to-heart talk, communication and joint walks. Parents love their children without asking for anything in return. This is given to us by nature. Through self-sacrifice, through care, through acceptance, parents give their love to their children. Relationship between parent and childinitially very strong, mom and dad are idols for the baby, the whole world. It's so hard to break that very bond. You need to love the child, accept him as he is and go along with him through life, helping him. It is important to always communicate heart to heart with the child, to take care without demanding return, selflessly. At the same time, you should understand each of your actions, why what is being done, what is brought up by this act.
Protecting the child primarily from himself, but also from the outside world, you will never break this connection with the little man. And she will always be like an invisible thread between the child and the parents.
Love baby
A child's love is considered the purest and most sincere. He loves not for something, but simply because he loves. Children's love for parents manifests itself in different ways, but always has a disinterested basis. Until the age of three, a child learns to show love. Unconsciously copying his parents, he tries to show his feelings the way they do.
A child's love is shown in those moments when he hugs and kisses his parents. This behavior is typical for children under three years of age. Further, they form an idea of love against the background of the relationship of their parents. The girl is trying to be like her mother, and the boy is copying the behavior of his father.
Love for parents in a child is never depleted. Even, for example, children who were taken away from their parents run away from shelters to dissuade them and call for treatment. Such incorruptibility is astonishing. After all, growing up a child realizes the whole essence of the situation and, perhaps, will showcondemnation. But in the soul of the baby, a verdict of not guilty is always ready.
Of course, a mother's love is said to be the strongest. But in comparison with children's feelings, even she is imperfect. The love of a child is free and pure. In all manifestations, she is filled with tenderness and kindness.
A mother's love
A mother's love is perhaps the strongest love in the life of every person. This is a selfless, inexhaustible, tender feeling for your child, which is able to overcome any obstacles. Such a feeling is especially thrilling, because only a mother is capable of such emotional experiences for her child, dedication and sincere care.
Self-sacrifice
To the question “How is maternal love manifested?”, one can answer that for the most part it manifests itself in self-sacrifice. Only a mother is able to fully understand, forgive and support her children, despite life's circumstances. She is ready to give the last to help her child, ready to give her life for him. Such boundless love is not uncommon; for a mother, first of all, the life and well-being of her children is important. She puts all her strength to educate and raise worthy citizens of her Fatherland, worthy of her children. Child and mother are interconnected:
- family ties;
- heart;
- soul.
For a child, the mother personifies all the kindness and affection of the world, and the mother is attached to the child and feels him at a distance. Separation is hard for her, and the long absence of news about the childdooms the mother to suffering and longing.
There is another motherly love that is excessive and unacceptable. Due to immoderate care and guardianship, a child can grow up spoiled, lazy and dependent. But, first of all, education should be aimed at adapting a person to society.
How does a man show his love for a woman?
Many of the fair sex are looking for the answer to the question. But many do not even think that by showing a little attention, the answer will come by itself. Consider some behavioral acts and manifestations of a loving man:
- A man is constant in sexual attraction. Tenderness and care come later. If a man shows constant sexual interest in a woman, this indicates deep feelings.
- A man allows a woman to enter his life. He allows her to make some changes in his usual bachelor lifestyle, gives her the opportunity to manage some situations that do not require important decisions. A man gradually reveals all aspects of his life to his companion.
- Care and attention. If unexpectedly a woman receives a gift or small amenities, then this indicates serious feelings on the part of a man. This means that he is attentive to the desires of his chosen one and wants to give her joy.
- Emotional attraction. In this manifestation, a man makes it clear that he wants to know everything about a woman. He wants to talk to her more often, call, write, meet her from work, discuss the purchase and just be silent over a cup of tea. With such a manifestation of love, one should not even doubt her sincerity.
A woman's love for a man
Considering the characteristic features of the manifestation of a woman's love for a man, one should not forget that there are frequent cases of mistaking a feeling of passion for love. It is here that the parameters of a woman's true love for a man will help. A woman's love is shown as follows:
- Filled with inspiration and seems to fly like a butterfly. She does not have pink glasses, she sees everything and clearly understands. The mind is clear and consciousness perceives reality.
- Ready to give and give. Such behavior is characteristic only for love. A woman is ready to give a man all of herself, entirely and without a trace. Dissolve in him, in his life and everyday life. Ready to give joy every day.
- Never compares her man to anyone else. It becomes the center of strength and courage. For her, everyone else is just ordinary people, but he is an object of stamina, confidence and protection.
- Woman worries and worries. In a relationship with a man, a loving woman tries to know and understand him more and more. Shows concern and worries in case of a bad premonition.
- Full trust. The woman completely gives the reins of power to the man. She trusts and does not allow the thought of doubt. True love is manifested in a trusting relationship on both sides.
- A woman does not lose her head and looks at life soberly. She does not lose her self-esteem, even in moments of total devotion to her beloved.
Tipspsychologists
Where does love show up? What does it consist of? To understand the opposite sex, you just need to observe a little of his behavior, words, actions. From this we draw conclusions about upcoming plans, dreams and a general vision of family happiness. Comparing them with your own, it will become clear what and how to move. Even if at the beginning of a relationship it seems that the paths diverge, there are a few more tips worth trying in practice. Learn to respect the opinions and desires of your future or current spouse.
This behavior will give impetus to the development of trust and understanding. There is no person who does not care that they do not listen and do not try to take a personal opinion. Respect is the foundation of any relationship. Even when a married couple is 60 years old and they have deep respect for each other, this creates a reliable and strong rear. True love does not require, it tries to give, give.
Not everyone can learn to love like that. But applying the advice of psychologists can achieve this.
