Tatyana Vladimirovna Vorobyova, an Orthodox teacher and psychologist, is interesting not so much to read as to see and listen, especially her excited stories about children's problems and the right approach to solving them.
A life given to childhood
Tatiana Vorobyova is an Orthodox psychologist. Her biography remains a mystery to many fans of her methods. When asked where to get her books, she shrugs: nowhere, they are still in drafts. And this despite the fact that she herself is a real encyclopedia of invaluable pedagogical experience, enriched with a confident knowledge of psychology. And Tatyana has no time to write books.
Tatyana Vorobyova devoted her life to children and every day continues to dissolve in love for them. She provides advice on child psychology and participates in pedagogical discussions. Her video lectures teach parents careful wisdom towards their child.
Girl from orphanage
It's no coincidence that Tatyana Vorobyova is a psychologist. A biography will help to understand the motives of her own actions.and creative discovery.
Tatyana's first life impressions are connected with the orphanage. Therefore, she understands very well what is happening in the soul of a child deprived of the love of mom and dad, home comfort and family joys. How to help such children not to become embittered, not to close in their shell, but to create a happy and full-fledged family, which, by the way, she herself has?
Now Tatyana Vorobyova can confidently tell them: "Honor your father and mother! Whatever they are, honor and in no case condemn, because they are given to us by God." They teach even by their negative behavior. Children of alcoholics are saved by the patience and forgiveness of their unfortunate mothers and fathers; the father sitting in prison already says by his fate: "Son, do not do as I do." The lesson of the orphanage, which the future psychologist carried through her whole life: you were hurt, but you don’t be like that.
I have lived half my life among saints
As a professional teacher, Tatyana Vorobyova was formed thanks to classes with children in kindergarten. One of the motives for choosing a job was that she was in need, and someone's advice: "They feed in kindergarten," decided her fate. But then the woman realized what happiness it is to be among children, because until the age of five they are all pure and holy.
Their sensitivity, spontaneity, sincerity and ability to love have become a school of life for the future honored teacher of Russia.
Vorobyova andmethodical work, was also the service in the Orphanage. Summarizing her 40 years of teaching experience, she states: "Children are an endless lesson."
My husband's family gave me everything
There is nothing accidental in life, Tatyana Vorobyova is convinced. It is no coincidence that the husband's family turned out to be a school of love and family well-being for the former girl from the orphanage. She deeply respects her husband, a scientist, a theoretical physicist. Tatyana Vladimirovna has two adult sons, grandchildren appear. Almost half a century of experience in maintaining the harmony of marital relations and raising their own children is a material for psychological conclusions for a woman teacher.
And to the question of whether it is necessary to endure when you are betrayed in order to save your family, Tatyana Vorobyova, an Orthodox person, answers unequivocally: You have to endure all your life. Find a thread of love that holds the union together, and save it. In This is the life task of a woman. It is difficult to give her recommendations to modern women who are accustomed to assert themselves in society, make a career, consider family as something secondary. And the family is a cross, torment leading to salvation in eternal life. Yes, and in this life, advice is given by a woman - a professional of the highest standard, held both as a wife and as a mother.
There can't be a psychologist without faith
Tatyana Vorobyova (Orthodox psychologist) gained teaching experience while working in a kindergarten. In the Orphanage, she discovered the full extent of the teacher's responsibility for the souls of lonely children. For the rightbehavior requires not only experience and love, but also knowledge of physiology, developmental psychology, and medicine. Having studied at the university and received a diploma, Tatyana Vladimirovna does not stop there, because psychology is knowledge about the soul, which belongs to God, and its study is not limited.
In order to properly educate, you need to know why a person came into this life. Parents who bring up their children for a secular, earthly life, try to develop intellect, business qualities, and the ability to stand up for themselves. Meanwhile, worldly psychologists can give such recommendations: if your grandmother annoys you, draw it, tear it up and burn it (rehearse how you will deal with your rivals in the future).
Tatiana Vorobyova's Orthodox beliefs are that a person is born for eternity, that children are "on loan" from God to their parents and must return to Him. And the core should be the education of children's love for their parents. The latter are obliged to follow not only words and behavior, but also their inner feelings. And if they are burdened by a child in childhood, then, most likely, children will become a hateful burden for him in old age. Considering your child a hindrance in life is a spit on the Creator for his gift. In addition, by complaining about their children, parents deprive them of their vitality, creating future losers.
Need to be understood
To have the right to be called a psychologist and to provide assistance in difficult situations related to the development of the soul, it is not enough to know the theory. Tatyana Vorobyova - psychologist of the highestqualification category, and she became it thanks to her pedagogical experience, harmoniously combined with theoretical calculations. Her advice is to the point and to the point, even if it's not taken into account at first.
So it happened once with a girl from an orphanage. The child was going to be adopted by American parents. After watching the five-year-old girl, Tatyana Vorobyova came to the conclusion: it is impossible to send her abroad. This child has too little vocabulary in his native language to adequately express the needs of his soul. In the orphanage, she was understood, but abroad, in a foreign language environment, a Russian girl, even knowing foreign words, will not be able to use them correctly to describe her spiritual life. The psychologist's prediction came true five years later, when the girl, having matured, literally ran away from the American family. “I don’t need their food and clothes, I need to be understood,” was the explanation for the riot.
Pro tips
The advice of psychologist Tatyana Vorobyeva is relevant now that one should not get involved in the early study of foreign languages. Neither kindergarten nor elementary school is suitable for in-depth study of a foreign language environment. The phonetic and lexical base of the native language should be formed. The child must learn to speak Russian clearly and correctly. It is best to master someone else's speech at the age of 9-12.
She has not been a supporter of schooling since the age of six either. And it's not about intellectual readiness. The volitional qualities of the psyche are formed mainly by the age of seven. At six years oldit is difficult for the child to force himself to obey the requirements of the teacher and school discipline. Not all children at this age have such a powerful motivation for learning as curiosity. School lessons can be torture for a six year old. They will simply take away a whole year of childhood from him. But the soul develops not from intellect, but from the feelings that the child has time or does not have time to experience at an early age.
Age psychology of infancy
Tatyana Vorobyeva (teacher, psychologist) devoted most of her speech at the XXIII Christmas Readings on January 22, 2015 to the problems of age crises and the correct behavior of parents during these periods of development.
The first such crisis - three years. The baby is self-determined by gender. At this age, the upbringing of the qualities of a boy, a future man, and a girl, who will soon become a woman, begins. For a guy, the main quality should be a sense of responsibility: boys were born to serve the family, loved ones, and the Fatherland. In girls, the fundamental quality of a woman should be laid - patience. The age of three is a deep emotional comprehension of the world. To achieve obedience from the baby during this period, it is necessary to tune in to the tone of his mood.
The next revolutionary stage of development is 5 years. At this age, the formation of volitional qualities begins, which ensures readiness for schooling by the age of seven. A child can be required to do what is right, as it is said.
At the age of seven, emotional-volitional control is formed, and the child haswith sufficient mental strength to restrain and direct emotions and will in the right direction (it's time to start learning activities).
Three things that need a belt
Punishment is a necessary and very subtle thing. Tatyana Vorobyova never tires of repeating that upbringing is an intimate process, and it concerns only two. Therefore, when dad punishes, mom has no right to interfere, and vice versa. Three offenses that the psychologist calls soul-destructive allow for the use of physical punishment.
- A child raises his hand to his parents. He should receive immediate reprimand, the tone of which leaves no doubt that such a situation is unacceptable.
- Son or daughter mocking food in annoyance. Daily bread given by God is bullied by an irritated child. This must also be stopped quickly.
- In anger, a child breaks and destroys things earned by the labor of parents. To stop the development of anger, permissiveness and emotional licentiousness, and apply the "capital punishment" belt. The psychologist warns that there is a big gap between punishment and torture of a child - parental motivation. You can beat a child, loving him, for his own admonition, or in irritation, in order to take out anger on someone. The latter is invalid.
Let your computer break
Computer is trouble with three exclamation points. His virtual reality, like a smoky cloud, obscures the living world, taking away joy from children.being. He carries miserable speech, which boils down to computer slang, devastates the soul, impairs memory, extinguishes interest in everything that is not related to computer games.
Computer addiction is equated to drug addiction and is treated with medication, because children by the 4th grade already become psychoneurotic, falling into hysterics if they are deprived of this idol. The surrogate of the computer world is destroying sons and daughters. Teacher Tatyana Vorobyeva is deeply concerned about the future of Russia's children and is doing everything in her power to keep it bright.
