What is greed? Is it worth it for a person to give away accumulated values with a generous hand? It is believed that greed is bad, stinginess is a vice. And if we call greed the ability to protect one's savings, not to squander material and spiritual values?
It's one thing when a person in his greed seeks to gather more material we alth around him, never helps his relatives, thinks about his savings. Another thing is when he increases his fortune with the master's hand, rationally treats spending, not allowing unnecessary things.
What is greed?
Greed is the desire to get as much as possible by giving as little as possible. A greedy person is not interested in anything but his savings. He does not care about the he alth of loved ones, their problems. He is not happy with travel, recreation and entertainment. Such people are deaf to the suffering and problems of others. Because they only care about themselves, their savings.
There is another kind of greed - this is rational frugality, when a person clearly defines the boundary of necessary and unnecessary things, knows for sure how much he can spend on himself, his family, how muchshould be postponed for rest or treatment. Such a person knows how to earn and spend without allowing himself too much. As a rule, he is responsive to the urgent problems of relatives and friends.
Manifestations of greed
The problem of greed arose in ancient times, when primitive man did not have enough food, tools. The presence of these resources in others caused envy, a desire to have them. Much later, when money and precious metals appeared, man's greed concentrated on them.
Greed and avarice gradually fill the mind. A pathologically greedy person saves on everything to the detriment of he alth and comfort. Accumulation of old, unnecessary things prevails in the house.
The root of greed lies in the lack of something. A person begins to search for harmony, happiness through the acquisition of material values. It can be gems or works of art, money or food. A person fills the feeling of deprivation, lack by hoarding.
The nature of the emergence of greed
Fear and insecurity. The lack of power and money in adult life, as well as the lack of love and attention in childhood, can gradually lead to a desire to fill the deficit of one or another resource. Thus begins the problem of greed fueled by envy.
Replacement of attention. Little children are born with a need for love. The death of parents or lack of attention on their part can lead to greed. First, love is replaced by toys and sweets, then it is compensatedmaterial goods.
Misconceptions about life. The lack of warmth and attention leads to the realization that there are certain limitations. Not enough toys or love, food or friendship. Therefore, it is necessary to have time to take first what others may not get. So there is a desire to purchase a large amount of something at the expense of quality.
Childish Greed
Education is a very delicate thing. Most of the problems are rooted in childhood. The lack of warmth, love in childhood can lead to the greed of an adult. Oddly enough, being over-generous has the same end result.
Children's greed is the inability and unwillingness to share. The child sees toys as part of himself, so he protects his property, personal belongings. This psychological feature begins to manifest itself from 2 years. After some time (from six months to a year), the child ceases to identify himself with his toys. The problem of overcoming childish greed is solved by following simple rules:
- teach a child to share or swap toys with other children;
- do not take away his trinkets by force, do not force, do not use physical punishment;
- praise the baby for the slightest desire to share;
- explain that his toy will be returned later;
- don't scold the child if he refuses to share. This can lead to aggression towards other children.
Male greed
Male greed is the desire to keep everything under control. budget allocation,housekeeping is a necessary care for the family. It is important to feel the edge when frugality becomes true greed.
Men's greed is the unwillingness to spend money on education, recreation, he alth, quality food, hygiene products. It's a petty tally of every token saved.
A miserly man is engaged in ordinary hoarding, an egoist will spend the saved money on himself, his pleasures. The reason for greed may lie in the woman. If a man is not confident in her, in their relationship, he may decide not to spend his money on her.
Women's greed
The greed of a woman in most cases is the result of complexes. This is a lack of confidence in one's attractiveness due to lack of money for clothes, cosmetics, jewelry, lack of love and attention, when human relationships are replaced by material values and comfort.
At the same time, a woman strives for family well-being. The main thing is to stop in time and understand that the power is in love. Material goods are designed to make life calm and comfortable. They are not an end in themselves, but a means.
How to overcome greed
First, you need to realize your problem, get rid of old, unnecessary things.
Secondly, indulge in small pleasures, such as spending money on a chocolate bar or a theater, flowers or a book.
Third, learn to help others - give alms, make an unscheduled gift to a friend, buygroceries for elderly parents.
Fourthly, constantly control yourself and not let greed dominate manifestations of human kindness and understanding.
