Relationships between people are considered the most complex and unpredictable. This is not mathematics, where everything is done according to formulas. This is not a story where all facts and events happened in the past.
With the right approach, men, women and children become the basis of a new unit of society - the family. But it is much more difficult to maintain a favorable environment within these relationships.
In this article you will get acquainted with the main situations that develop between people today. Possible problems, various situations and ways to solve them are quite typical, but, unfortunately, they are not suitable for everyone.
What does ideal family happiness look like?
Two young people met, a boy and a girl. Feelings flare up between them, love is born. They decided to register this strong relationship officially, that is, to marry.
Family life, domestic issues, over time, there is a need for procreation. And after sometime a baby appears. After that, more and more. Some stop at one, others create a large family. And everyone lives in peace and harmony. Just a fairy tale.
But what happens in many families really? How far have modern men, women and children moved away from this stereotype?
And these are completely different stories, which will be discussed below.
Problems associated with pregnancy
In fact, these are quite stressful periods that significantly complicate the lives of both family members. And everyone should make an effort to maintain a strong relationship and a calm atmosphere.
It's not just women who suffer during pregnancy. Of course, toxicosis, hormones and everything that follows from this. Men, in turn, spend no less nerves during this period. They try to create the most comfortable conditions for the course of pregnancy and the full bearing of the unborn child. After all, it is at this time that the physical and psychological components of the baby are laid. After all, a he althy woman is a he althy child.
Against the background of women's reduced stress resistance, men's nerves either get stronger or fail. Therefore, conflict situations are becoming more frequent, up to the complete separation of the family.
In this case, you can advise the following: men, hold on, be patient. Your beloved women are not naughty on purpose. There is a restructuring of the body, which causes such behavior. Often women then do not understand why they wanted to yell or cry. So thatpatience, patience and more patience.
It's time for the hospital
The closer the long-awaited day X, the more women experience and worry. After all, for the first time, no matter how much others tell, you don’t know how and what will pass. In the meantime, women in the maternity hospital are experiencing new sensations, men are mentally preparing for the upcoming discharge of their wives with their new or new family members.
These few days become a turning point in the lives of two people. During this period, the most important thing is the moral support of the woman in labor. She can inadvertently take out all her fears and worries on the closest - on her spouse.
Therefore, at this stage, it is quite difficult for men both morally and physically: to prepare housing for the return of the family, to fix something, to clean somewhere. It takes a lot of patience and tolerance to keep a relationship strong.
Postpartum depression
The most interesting thing is that this symptom is equally likely to occur in both women and men. But this is not a reason to panic and give up. If you see a critical condition in your soulmate, try to provide the necessary assistance in a timely manner.
Postpartum depression is normal in women. After the transferred psychological fatigue sets in. After all, the body has experienced significant stress. Men should put in a little effort and help their wives in their new role as mothers. Although women and children are now an inseparable whole, you are also their family, and they need your support no lessdegree.
When such an opportunity happens to a representative of the stronger sex, then women should remember some psychological aspects of the male psyche. It will begin to seem to men that they have been forgotten, that they do not devote time, that they have become unnecessary. So you should try to make time among the huge mountains of diapers, diapers and constant feeding. Find an opportunity for solitude, creating a romantic evening. So that your man understands that he is still loved and important.
When a family breaks up
It's not the end of the world. In such a complex organism as a family, a lot happens. Sometimes there is an unpleasant disintegration of the cell of society.
And here there can be two developments of the event. Most often, the child remains in the care of the mother. In the second option, which happens much less frequently, the father is in charge of the upbringing.
Both one and the second case are unpleasant, but do not despair. After all, family happiness can always be adjusted and rebuilt even with a new person.
Can a woman with a child be happy?
What do you think yourself? The correct answer is yes. A woman not only can, but will become happy if she wants to.
Clearly, the breakup of relationships, the breakup of a family is a complex matter, accompanied by many problems. For example, registration of alimony, arrangements for meetings and visits of the second parent. But now the task of the mother is to raise a full-fledged, secure and happy child.
Even in a situation like this, look for the positives. One will be difficult, on the one hand. On the other hand, you do not depend on anyone, independently allocate time for all household chores, upbringing and leisure activities.
Once all technical issues are settled, you can make time for your personal life.
Looking for a new dad, or Don't be afraid to approach to get acquainted
You are used to seeing women and children walking on the street. And often your imagination paints a picture of their full-fledged family. But is it really so? Is everything as rosy and cloudless as in your head?
Men do not even consider such options as dating objects. Thus, depriving young mothers of the potential to arrange their personal lives. But how many women on maternity leave are left alone. Therefore, men should not dismiss such options. No one knows, maybe this single woman with a child will become his happiest family.
When the children are already old enough, it is easier for the mother to devote time to new relationships. But, on the other hand, it will be more difficult for men to find a common language with teenagers. After all, a child is already a fairly formed personality with its own character and perception of the world.
A woman with two children would love to chat
It doesn't matter what gender or age the children are. It is important that there are two of them, and this is twice the difficulty in finding a common language with the younger generation.
On the other hand, having found a common language with one child, it is already easier to find an approach to the second one.
Anyway, everyonethe case is unique and requires individual consideration.
So does it matter how many children your new darling has from a previous marriage? It all depends on your attitude to the situation. If you easily get along with the younger generation, become a friend and comrade, communication brings you pleasure, then you will not care how many children a woman has. You will become an older brother for the children and the keeper of secrets from your mother. Just do not go too far so that the woman herself does not become jealous of her own children. Although this is said for the sake of humor, everything is possible.
When communicating with a child causes you irritation, nervousness and loss of appetite, it is worth considering whether you made the right choice. After all, having created a family with a woman and children from her previous marriage, you will all see each other in the same territory. All the negativity from communication will accumulate, which over time will turn into a significant problem. Weigh your priorities and only then decide in favor of what and whom to make your choice.
First find out the reasons
It's nice when lonely people meet and lost feelings of affection, sympathy and love arise. That's what life is for, so that everything is not so easy and simple. Every new relationship of adults has its own nuances and individual moments.
The next case to consider is when the woman you like has left the child to be raised by her previous spouse.
Some men will not want to go into details and will act like they should. Others will wantfind out what prompted their new lover to commit such an act. Her unwillingness to raise children? Or maybe her difficult financial situation?
Does the woman want to be reunited with her child in your new family? The most important thing is to discuss the situation honestly and without reservations. Such a step will only strengthen your relationship, given the confidential and open conversation.
If you met a categorical "no", then you should think about it. Here you create a family, decide to have children. Will you be in the same position as your previous spouse? After all, such a woman belongs to the category of people who reach a certain point in a relationship. After that, it is easier for them to leave everything and leave in English. Do you need it?
Did you have to give birth?
Women without children are capable of causing an absolutely contradictory attitude towards themselves from others. Well, if these are neutral or indifferent feelings. But in our society there are individuals who can almost openly condemn. In their opinion, the female sex is obliged to engage in procreation. And when a woman has no children at the age of 30, she becomes an outcast. She, especially older people, is beginning to be considered an irresponsible, immoral person who does not want to burden herself with the responsibilities of raising children.
Before happily assenting to such a position, try to understand the reasons that prompted a woman to abandon the role of a mother.
First, a simple physiological problem. The human body is extremely complexsystem that can fail. Notice how many family planning and fertility centers have been set up. This means that not everyone can be parents.
Secondly, the elementary lack of desire to become a mother and all the accompanying difficulties. After all, someone goes headlong into a career. Others realize that they will not be able to properly care for and raise children. And this is an absolutely normal situation. Some do not have children, while others live in large families.
So even without children, women lead a full life and are open to new acquaintances and relationships with men.
Radically turn the situation around
Now imagine the exact opposite. You are a woman who has met a man you like on your way. The same, in turn, has children from other women. What was your first reaction?
Most often in this case, people wonder if they need such difficulties. After all, you have to look for a common language, engage in education. In most cases, you will meet resistance from the younger generation, especially teenagers.
Now look at it from the other side: a single man also wants to start a new relationship, create a new full-fledged family for his children. Doesn't he have a right in his position?
If you really like a person, pleasant, then having children should not change the relationship.
Summing up for men
The relationship between a woman and a man is laid down by nature. And they appear moreon a subconscious level. Therefore, it does not matter whether a woman has children and how many of them, or she is single.
If a man finds an interesting person with whom he feels comfortable, then the rest of the nuances are not significant.
The key to a successful relationship does not depend on the people around you, everything is created by you.
