The role of a woman in a man's life has long been an object of attention in psychology. And not in vain. The roles of the sexes have been distributed over millions of years - in the process of evolution. And the basis for the classification was not patriarchy or non-recognition of potential, but physical capabilities, body reserves and body features. But in today's world, things have changed a long time ago. But still psychology has a place in considering this issue.
Mom
So, you should start with the main one. Many girls, especially wives, involuntarily roll their eyes at the phrase “Mom is the most important woman in a man’s life”. They can be understood! After all, a man, having tied the knot, forms a new family, his own. And, accordingly, he should pay most of his attention to his wife. But he himself must understand this, and his mother, if she is a smart woman. And the question is not in dominance. It is unreasonable to prioritize between the woman who gave birth and raised and the beloved. After all, they have different functions.
Woman-mother is raising. She introduces her son to the outside world, forms an attitude towards the beautiful half of humanity, instills certain values and skills that will be useful to him in life.
There is one theory. Although it can be called, rather, philosophy. It's called "Three Women in a Man's Life". And mom is first. There are many discussions on this topic. From the first, the boy becomes courageous. He stays with her forever - with his thoughts, feelings and an elusive connection that you can not see, but it is palpable. The first is always in the soul, in life and in the mind. It's different for every man. But whatever mother is, she is the First.
In adult life
While the son is small, the woman-mother is engaged in turning him into a full-fledged member of society. But he grows up, and another appears in life - a beloved, a soulmate, to whom his mother often begins to treat badly in advance, even without being familiar. Why? This is where the sense of ownership kicks in. A woman believes that her son is her man, completely and completely. She raised him and he belongs to her. Certainly not. He is an individual, a person. And when a son marries, this does not mean that he is “taken away” from his mother. He's just starting his family.
In the worst case, the mother-in-law will spoil the life of the newlyweds, in every possible way trying to take part in their marriage, believing that she knows best how to do it. In this case, the cares are placed on the shoulders of the man. If he can gently dot the i's, fine. Not? Then he will not be able to be in the familyindependent and responsible man. He will always try to please his mother and justify himself to his beloved. And this is a direct path to the war between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law.
A smart mother will not break into the apartment of her son and his wife, clean it, cook borscht and give advice about personal relationships. The thought that her son was "taken away" would never even cross her mind. On the contrary, she will do everything to ensure that his relationship develops happily.
Soulmate
The most important role of a woman in a man's life is assigned to his beloved, who gives him special energy, is a muse and inspiration for him. When such a woman appears in a man's life, he begins to understand that he is capable of such actions, the accomplishment of which previously seemed impossible for him.
And it is very important that she be just like that. Not a housekeeper to do laundry and clean. Not a "second mother" - always caring about his safety and preparing borscht. That person, in which a man says with a breath: “This is my beloved woman!”, Should support the fire of love, constantly throwing a kind of “brushwood” into it. Show life from its beautiful side, call for adventures and vivid emotions, look for joint entertainment that brings joy. Every little thing like that is a small piece of a big puzzle called “happy relationships.”
Reference to social needs
Psychology is an interesting science. One of the objects of her study is interpersonal relationships. Need,which determines the social essence of man. In this case, men.
"My beloved woman" is the person who will satisfy his social and some physical needs to the fullest. And it's not just about intimacy. Social needs are much broader. This is love, understanding, support, manifestation of unanimity, respect, fidelity, devotion, affection. And all of the above should come from the heart, the soul, and not because “it’s necessary.”
This role of a woman in a man's life is not one-sided. He also needs to do all of the above. If something is missing in a couple, perhaps the relationship is not perfect? However, this is not the point now.
Matrimony
The role of a woman in a man's life was described only briefly. In fact, there are many more nuances in this topic.
A wife is a more solid status than a beloved. And there are countless books and reflections on how difficult it is to be a spouse. Many people really think so. But people tend to complicate things and then complain.
Just need to understand something. The value of a woman in the life of a man who has chosen her as his companion is very important. Recall at least the oath in the registry office. She doesn't just come along like that. To be together in poverty, and in we alth, and in he alth, and in illness - are these just words? No. This is what defines the role of a woman as a companion, assistant and ally of a man. The same goes for him. The essence of marriage is that each of the partners is ready in anya moment to come to the rescue and support - in any case, no matter what happens. It is a pity that many people forget about it.
Daughter
Another role that matters. And no matter how strange it may sound, but now we will talk about the fact that every woman for her husband is a daughter-wife. Surprisingly, many people call it another of her roles.
The daughter-wife is the one next to whom the husband becomes a real man, overthrowing mountains to satisfy her whims. A woman who knows how to show weakness at the right moment and ask for care evokes special feelings in him. Next to such a defenseless and fragile creature, he is able to feel like a superman. This is necessary not only for her, but also for him - in order to cherish pride. It is only important for a woman to remember at such moments: the “daughter” not only asks for help, but also obeys.
Friends
No matter what anyone says, but a husband and wife should be able to be friends. Such relationships are based on common hobbies and interests, as well as on trust and sincerity. After all, who is a friend? Those who are able to feel all the joys and sorrows of their fellow comrade the way he feels them. There is one good phrase: "Friends are a family that each of us chooses for himself." The husband is already a native person. And when he's also a friend, it's twice as good.
Role of mistress
She is often underestimated. Women who vehemently insist that sex is not the main thing in a relationship are either sad husbands or cheating. Sex - if not the main component of marriage, thenone of the main ones. This is not only a social need, but also a biological one. But from the last point of view, this topic cannot be approached. Since this is also an opportunity to develop your sensuality, become closer to your partner and bring more vivid impressions to life. If a wife copes with the roles of "daughter", "spouse", "adviser" and "lover" (which is not so difficult) - you can see that her husband literally blossoms and reciprocates.
