Why do we need a relationship? Not a pastime like a joint jog, a lunch break or going to the movies, but real spiritual ones, like in Hollywood melodramas. For sex or a trip to the sea? Somehow it makes no sense, and in a different way it is called. For a status like “I have, it means I’m successful (on), everything is like with people”? Stupid and stereotypical.
Vedic culture, the cradle of human civilization, answers this question in an accessible, understandable and convincing manner. Ancient sacred texts explain the psychology of relationships, why people need them and in general: how to build a harmonious family.
What is a "serious" relationship?
Under this wording, people mean the desire to be together all the time (not only in the physical sense of the word): do things together, share thoughts about a book you read or impressions about a new movie, take care of each other, help in difficult periods, consult and it is possible to start a family: meet relatives, create a common home and give birth to a child.
The basis of all these points is Love. For lovemen and women strive for each other, stay together for many years, sometimes undergoing inconvenience and suffering. Because this high feeling is the first thing that the Universe created in the emotional world. The energy of love is the most powerful in terms of impact, thanks to it, actions are performed that sometimes go beyond understanding and logic.
We are responsible for those we have tamed
For those who wondered why relationships are needed, it becomes interesting: is it really so important? After all, love can be different: for work, a pet, creativity or music. Why do men and women need each other so much?
It's simple: a woman makes a man who he is and vice versa: a man creates a woman. But knowing that everything in the world has a dual essence, a woman has every chance to destroy the masculine, and the man - the feminine. They are connected at subtle levels, and very often these connections never break (even if people have not lived together for a long time), affecting the consciousness and life of a person.
To understand this interaction, let's look at each in detail.
"Weak" sex
A woman is the creative energy of the Universe, her spiritual power is six times stronger than a man's. She is a life giver, which makes her inherently superior to a man in development, and the amount of muscle and brute strength does not play any role here.
A woman is an inspirer: with her love and care she makes a man strong and resilient, forming in him the core of Spirit and will. She is the emotional component of the relationship, the guardianhearth and comforter in grief.
About men
Masculinity is power, action and logic. It is on him that a huge responsibility lies in revealing the essence of a woman and her strength.
A man is alien to the excessive sentiments inherent in women - he is consistent in his actions, stable in his judgments and reliable in life's vicissitudes.
Just do not confuse the Man and the male. This is different. Just like a Woman, it's not a difference based on gender or wearing a skirt.
Why are we important to each other?
A man is the first to take a step towards the further development of relations, but a woman prompts him to do this: with a look, a gesture, a smile. Without her love, he cannot live happily, it is important for him to feel needed, in demand, each achievement of the goal is like a victory over a dragon in the Middle Ages for the sake of a princess (after all, thousands of brave men sacrificed themselves not out of sports interest). A man feels his importance, masculine strength only next to Her.
And who is a woman without a reliable male shoulder? Boy-woman, who is "a galloping horse and into the fire"? Without male love and attention, the flower of femininity will never bloom, but will remain a wilted bud of indeterminate purpose.
It is important for a woman to feel his protection, thanks to a man she gets confidence in the future. A man teaches her the art of love and forgiveness, just as she teaches him to be strong and persistent, for his sake she strives to become more beautiful, wiser and more feminine.
First love
How aboutrelationship between a guy and a girl? Why are early marriages necessary? After all, the psyche of young people has not yet been formed, they cannot objectively evaluate the opposite sex, sometimes confusing love with lust, sports interest and just a desire to try the unknown. But it is the first love and sexual experience that will leave a strong imprint on the entire further emotional sphere. How many men and women around the world are suffering just because of the mistakes of youth!
If every representative of the same sex would think about this before entering adulthood and would not rush into action, then there would not be such a frightening number of divorces, unhappy spouses, for various reasons, continuing to live together and crippled by other people's ridicule.
Examples of contemporary relations
Now much has been reduced to the system of market relations: "you - to me, I - to you." And the first thing people pay attention to is the presence of material values, without deepening into spiritual qualities. And then, in the process of living together, it turns out that people are not very compatible in character, and no money will help here. Scandals, betrayals and divorces begin.
There is another trend: young girls prefer older men, explaining that they are bored and not interested in peers.
There are two options here:
1. The girl grows up in a spiritually developed family, in which high morality, the right priorities in life and attitude towards people are instilled from a young age. Therefore, she is not really interested in communicating witha guy who is interested in nothing but beer, parties and trendy sneakers. What's the point of a relationship if the prospects aren't good?
2. Some girls intuitively understand that it is costly and long to wait to invest spiritual power in a young man who has not yet taken place in life, therefore they prefer men after 35 who are already formed as individuals.
It’s easier with men: they need emotional nourishment and stimulation, and if a woman gives it (and her possibilities are endless), then the relationship will be valuable to him, no matter how old the woman is, whether she has a bank account and what kind her hips.
Signs of good compatibility
How to know that a person is suitable and is it worth planning a future next to him? The main points that will not let you make a mistake in your future choice:
- Respect for each other's personal space. This means that everyone has their own hobbies, meetings with friends and bouts of melancholy that will not be judged, banned or ridiculed
- There is no desire, no attempt to remake a person, everyone has flaws, and ideal people are really very boring.
- Sometimes there are disputes (not to breaking dishes, but still) - this indicates that there is no suppression of personality, and everyone has the right to their opinion and individuality
- The ability to be silent together is also a weighty argument. So there is an intuitive feeling of each other, and this is a sign of true love without conventions. No forbidden topics and secrets. Everything is discussedeasy and free, without fear of being misunderstood
- The past is in the past. Some people act very recklessly, blaming the partner's past. What matters is what is in the present.
- The ability to hear, and not just listen, is an important point, because it is from it that mutual understanding and sincerity of relationships grow, caring for each other
- And of course physical attraction to each other. 50% of marriages are based on sex alone.
Finally, it is worth noting that it is possible to get acquainted for a serious relationship anywhere, sometimes the most incidental and unexpected moments bring people together more than months of ordinary meetings - therefore, it is important to be open and easy to make friendly contact. Who knows, what if a person who stepped on his foot on a bus is fate?
