We come into the world against our will and we are not destined to choose parents, brothers and sisters, teachers, classmates, relatives. Perhaps this is the end of the circle of communication, which is sent from above. Further, human life in many ways begins to depend on him, on the choice he makes.
The right social circle
Formation, upbringing of personality depends primarily on parents, grandparents, and only then on everyone else. No wonder they say that the right social circle is the key to a successful life.
The concept of a successful life does not necessarily include material we alth. A successful person can be called a person who, summing up his life, receives some satisfaction from what he has lived. The moral component is of great importance here.
In the first years of life, it is the people around who help to perceive the world, influence the worldview of the child. There is a famous saying: "Tell me who your friend is - and I will tell you who you are." In a sense, a person is a reflection of all those people with whom heconstantly collides. And if the usual social circle in which he moves or lives is mistaken in something, then the person will be partially or completely mistaken, even having a bright personality.
How to expand the circle of friends, if necessary? There are many answers to this question. To become more sociable, you do not need to be afraid of people, you need to be open, but not too trusting. To be sincerely interested in the life of the interlocutor, to help at least with advice or deed - all this will help to make friends and acquaintances.
Energy vampires
In addition to worldview, we are also affected by the psychological atmosphere at home, at work, at school. If others are prone to pessimism, see everyone in a bad light, suspicious and irritable, or vice versa - overly sociable, optimistic about life, then their influence shapes the character for better or worse. Psychologists advise like fire to avoid eternal whiners and "losers" in life. Such people were designated as energy vampires, sucking the life juices from loved ones, not allowing others to realize themselves as a person.
Consequently, sticking with successful, energetic people is much more beneficial for spiritual development.
A person becomes he althy both physically and mentally. No matter what your social circle is at the moment, if you want to move forward for the better, then surround yourself with those who live a similar life, adopt their habits, lifestyle, of course, taking into account your own individuality.
Modern subcultures
It is easy to fall under the influence of both good and bad company when you are young. For example, many subcultures have now developed, the appearance of whose representatives already speaks for itself. There are so-called metalheads who wear long hair, leather, metal rivets and so on, rappers are characterized by wide slip-on trousers, sneakers, huge shapeless jackets, goths wear black clothes, “mow down” like vampires. There are many communities, for example, business people, office workers are required to come to work in formal suits with ties, women are required to wear elegant shoes with heels and so on.
And every society has its own morality, and from the point of view of the participants in this society, their morality is the most correct, others do not live as they should. The social circle of some people professing the Christian faith may differ from another Christian society like heaven and earth.
Many sects, spread all over the world, carry out their policy, lure people to them in different ways, promising them material benefits and the "kingdom of heaven". Many fall for the bait, become members of a sect, from which it is then much more difficult to leave than to enter it.
How to understand if this is your social circle or not?
Not so long ago, in communist times, the Soviet people lived and glorified their leaders, the party, believing that the rest of the world is dissolute, unjust, corrupt and so on. And from the point of view of the West, we were limited and zombifiedpeople.
When joining one society, you need to take a closer look at who is in the social circle, what kind of morality is preached. At the first stage, a person is attracted by new interests, perspectives, he enters an unusual circle with caution. Then, having become accustomed, a person's alertness and restraint disappear and give way to adaptation. He becomes an active member of society, carries out all sorts of assignments, and himself, making progress, grows in a "career" sense.
But inevitably comes the third stage - disappointment. Maybe from the outside, some parties, especially “star” ones, seem attractive, alluring, but becoming a member of such societies, seeing that there is simply no real development and progress in them, but there are the same conversations, a circle of thoughts, one and the same paraphernalia, a person starts to get bored, he becomes uninteresting.
The understanding comes that you need to change not only the circle of interests, but also your life at the root.
The Time of Epiphany
It is human nature to change, to strive for the better, so when a breakdown of the worldview occurs, this is the most difficult moment in the life of each of us. There is severe psychological stress. It seems that the unshakable world is collapsing, everything that was previously clear to you had a price, now it has depreciated, it does not make sense. But this is also a fertile time - a time of insight, the discovery of a new level of knowledge. Everyone should carefully look into the present and remember that past circle of friends that drags you into the swamp of everyday life.
The past will make itself known for a long timeknow, each member is reluctant to let go, especially in sects. Members of the sect begin to convince the departing that he has not yet fully realized the righteousness of the chosen path, he must stay and continue "his own path" and so on.
If nevertheless the decision is ripe - you need to leave, for your own implementation. In general, a person should not limit himself to just one social circle, whether it be school, workplace or the Internet. Seeking and finding is a valuable and interesting process in life, because a person is created in the image and likeness of God, creativity is inherent in each of us.
Person of my social circle
This concept includes people united by common interests. Each of us is given talents from above that need to be realized during life, and not buried in the ground. The tendency to one or another area is manifested in childhood. Attentive parents can easily notice the child's talent. Some like to sing, others like to draw, some are sociable, easily become leaders, others, on the contrary, are shy, have poor contact with children and adults.
All positive qualities need to be developed, and negative ones should be gently reduced to nothing. So, an uncommunicative child should not be thrown into kindergarten “with his head”, it is better to gradually bring him together with other kids, while being present at the same time.
An overactive child must be able to hold in his hands, without limiting his freedom. The social circle of children is more cruel than that of an adult. Children are happy to make fun of the shortcomings of others, without thinking about the consequences, so ifa kindergarten kid or a schoolboy will receive a humiliating nickname and will not be able to independently defend his own position, then this nickname will live with him for a long time, maybe until the end of his days.
Conclusion
The role of the teacher, class teacher and, of course, parents, in many ways becomes a guiding star for a fragile soul. If a child gets the right, good parents and teachers, we can assume that he was lucky in life in many ways.
Being an adult, in difficult days for himself, he will remember the instructions of his elders and life will not seem so cruel and unfair.
