To look 30 at 50 is the dream of more than half of women. Not everyone succeeds in preserving beauty, youth, attracting the attention of men, being loved and desired. How to achieve inner harmony, maintain youthful enthusiasm, good spirits? After all, it is so important for a woman to keep the "girl" in herself as long as possible and not turn into a "galosh" dissatisfied with life. Many have heard the so-called "aunt" syndrome. We are talking about women who, in their third decade, manage to turn into grumpy aunts. Such women stop looking after themselves, are disappointed in life, become discouraged, lose their sexuality. If you look into their eyes, then there is no spark in them at all, only an extinct look. Such women dream of nothing.
The aunt syndrome is a state of mind
What kind of "aunts" are they? These women always manage to be indignant at everything, notice the most elementary shortcomings and flaws.surrounding. They see injustice and deceit at every turn. "Aunts" begin to annoy their children, husbands, strangers. In the future, they are unhappy even with a cold wind or too hot weather.
The "aunts" blame everyone around them for their difficulties and problems, but not themselves. Such personalities lose the best feminine qualities. They don't grow, they don't develop. They do not change like bright stylish women. All these changes over time, the husband begins to notice, which is accompanied by quarrels, scandals, tantrums.
Syndrome "aunt" often occurs gradually and imperceptibly. In no case should such a process be left to chance. After the appearance of several alarming symptoms, you should immediately get to work and start the reverse.
Exterior changes
Syndrome "aunt" from the internal state goes to external deviations. The most noticeable signs of such a reincarnation are the following:
- Women are not interested in fashion at all.
- Overweight appears.
- Loose clothing preferred: oversized T-shirts and baggy sweaters.
- Shoes are preferred with low heels.
- Total savings on yourself.
- Pretty clothes don't appear in the wardrobe.
- Free time is spent watching favorite TV shows.
- She doesn't throw away the tights she let go, but puts them under her trousers.
- The most suitable hairstyle is a short haircut.
- Does not visit salonsbeauty.
- She doesn't care how others react to her appearance.
- Stops applying makeup.
- Believes that the best clothes, hairstyles, music were only in her youth.
- Her style is a woman in a bathrobe.
- Favorite delicacies are sweets instead of fruits.
You can't find "aunt" syndrome in any medical reference book. Signs of change in a woman suggest that in life this is still a real phenomenon.
Worrying symptoms
The "aunt" syndrome sometimes starts to turn on when a woman tries to do everything herself. As a result, she gets tired, and the following manifestations are observed:
- chronic fatigue, loss of energy;
- physical fatigue, despondency;
- grouchiness, outbursts at loved ones;
- loss of sex drive;
- irritability, headaches;
- loss of easy and spontaneous decision making;
- lack of self love;
- constant dissatisfaction with the actions of others;
- categorical statements about any action;
- not accepting someone else's opinion;
- hysteria, aggressiveness;
- touchiness, acceptance of the state of the victim, calls for justice;
- low moral acts associated with envy;
- an irresistible urge to gossip.
It should be noted that stylish women also have 24 hours a day, but they do not ignore assistants, they skillfully conduct their business, a measured lifestyle. It's easier to "get it"of everything, and to maintain your body and soul in good condition, you need to work on yourself constantly.
Discord in relationships
The appearance of signs of "aunt" syndrome in a woman can lead to a cooling of relations between husband and wife. Many couples turn to family counselors about this. Sometimes spouses hide from themselves for a long time that their life has turned into a common living within four walls, no more. A woman in a dressing gown cannot attract a spouse all her life. The couple has a lot in common, they begin to give themselves to children. The property has already managed to be jointly acquired, as well as debts and problems. What's next?
Being the perfect wife isn't easy
There are couples who only spend holidays together or go to a restaurant. And for some, after the wife's feminine qualities disappear, things are even worse. This is especially true for couples living in small towns and villages. If you look closely at the female population, then there are a large number of such "aunts". Most often, even in their youth, they were not princesses, they did not shine with grace. But well-groomed and stylish women have always been valued because they know their worth.
What do married couples complain about when they come to a psychologist? Personal life and harmonious relationships simply disappear from their orbit. Often a wife complains that her husband has ceased to be perfect, has deteriorated, does not carry her in his arms, does not give flowers and gifts. And the reason may be inside the woman herself.
Sample customer complaint
Ona thirty-eight-year-old woman came to a family counselor, who was stuck in everyday life:
- Lately I've been getting irritated with everything. My husband and kids are very upset about this. My husband tries to help me with the housework, but sometimes I can yell at him for no reason.
- How does he react to this?
- At first he tried to calm me down, joking. Then he began to silently leave, and once he simply shouted and insulted me in response. And I'm very touchy."
Patient husbands try their best to avoid conflict situations in such cases. The same thing happened to this lady. But all patience comes to an end, after long nit-picking, it simply burst with him. This can lead to the fact that partners cool off towards each other and move away. Then the husband, in search of affection and warmth, can switch to someone else. And there will definitely be those who want to share their concern.
This woman feels like her husband won't do this to her. Still, you don’t need to turn into an ordinary average woman who sometimes shows bitchiness. Many behave in this way. If nothing is changed, then it is possible to remain in this multibillion-dollar battalion of "aunts". Nobody wants to fill these ranks.
Psychologists in such cases advise women to try to get rid of the "aunt" syndrome. It is necessary to show the husband that in front of him is not a grouchy wife, but a happy beautiful woman. First you need to learn how to express your wishes in a polite manner, listen to his opinion. Any dissatisfaction can be transferred to a requestor wish.
After such consultations, women understand that they do not want to see themselves in the ranks of "aunts". Psychologist's advice becomes an excellent motivator for restructuring the model of their reactions.
Delicious food is the beginning
At the initial stages, "aunts" are greedy and gluttonous. They like any food, they are always hungry. They look with envy at their slender girlfriends, not wanting to understand that with their addiction to delicious food it is impossible to have a decent female form. Such ladies explain their fullness with anything - bad ecology, metabolic failure, sedentary lifestyle, lack of time, but not overeating.
Fried potatoes with a cutlet, pancakes with condensed milk, pasta and meat goulash, buttercream cakes always take precedence over such women. They want to look good, but they can't stop eating. External transformation into a "aunt" eventually results in negative emotions, an atmosphere of hostility.
Mini weapon secrets
The fight against the "aunt" syndrome should consist of the following activities:
- Exclude from your habits such format of showdown as correspondence and talking on the phone. An interlocutor who is far from you will never be able to share your feelings. Such disassemblies cause reluctance to return home. It will be better if a person has time to miss you in a day and comes in a good mood.
- You need to fill your every day with interestingpositive events. All your activities should not consist only of home and work, it would be nice to devote more time to your hobbies, sign up for a pool or fitness class, go to a concert of your favorite artist, take a walk around the city in the evening. New hobbies and interests will help you cope with negative manifestations in your behavior.
- You need to do a spring cleaning in your head. You need to start with self-care. It does not hurt to go to a beauty salon, visit several fashion boutiques. If you have the opportunity to contact a psychologist, then this is only welcome. He will help defeat the "aunt" syndrome. The psychology of a woman requires constant ordering of herself inside.
Correctly meet the morning and evening
Everything starts in the morning. It depends only on the woman what opinion the man will have about her for the whole day. It is very important to properly recharge in the morning in order to be in a good mood. You should not greet a spouse who is frowning, sleepy and angry. You can cheer up with a cup of aromatic coffee, and prepare a quick delicious breakfast for your husband. Do not forget about tenderness in relationships. It's a good habit to kiss your loved ones before leaving the house.
Evening time is a time for family communication. You can discuss with your husband the problems that have accumulated during the day, but you should not move on to heated debates. A light dinner, a contrast shower will help relieve the negative charge of the day.
Basic ways to fight
Before becoming, each lady goes through three stages:girl, girl, woman. The latter refers to mother and grandmother. In order not to kill the feminine in yourself at each of these stages, you should follow the following commandments:
- Every business should be treated lightly and with love, because a lady is characterized by what she appreciates and loves.
- Women's beauty is a laborious process, so you should not deny yourself simple pleasures. For some, this is their favorite perfume, for others - earrings with a diamond or a ring, others prefer fashionable thongs with rhinestones.
- It is important to experience a sense of freedom. No woman should burden herself with a sense of duty, because it embitters.
- Public opinion should not be a woman's priority. Happy ladies listen only to themselves and their loved ones.
- Sexy outfit and high heels will help attract admiring glances from men.
- Female nature needs regular sex.
- Clothes should be selected not for a female audience, but for a male one.
- Any failure should not be made public and discussed.
Being an "aunt" is a personal choice
A woman should glow with kindness, love, tenderness. Everyone has a choice: to be a boring "aunt" or a mischievous, perky lady. Each representative of the fair sex is unique, like this world. So why not find joy in this life? Little pranks will only benefit. On the day off, you can ride a bike or, even more wonderfully, rollerblading. Everyone doesn't want to get old. Delay this moment as much as possiblefurther - in the hands of the people themselves. To keep a bright, touching, youthful face in old age, you need to make the right choice and become a happy woman.
