Dependent people are characterized by destructive behavior. We are talking about a change in the psyche with the manifestation of strong emotions as a result of avoiding reality. A person does not see any changes in himself and believes that he lives an ordinary, normal life. In fact, the object of dependence controls him, and the person himself is helpless in front of his pernicious passion.
Dependency concept
Addiction (dependence) is translated from English as "bad habit" or "addiction". Dependence is chemical when a person gets used to alcohol, tobacco, drugs. No less difficult is getting used to the Internet, games, excessive work overload (all types of activity). A bad sign will be an addiction to food, a love of shopping, an immense waste of money. Sometimes there are people who are dependent on their partners or relatives, which also does not bode well.
Seductive attraction factors
People do not immediately get used to harmfulhabits, since each form of behavior has a certain source, from which it all began. The provoking factors that push people to addiction are:
- Mentality. In our country, people with addictions are treated with condescension, they are forgiven a lot, they consider behavior from the point of view of humor or touching indulgence.
- Lack of spirituality. It breeds permissiveness, people tend to take everything from life, and this is immoral.
- Stress, despair, hopelessness.
- Wrong building relationships in the family.
- Negative traits.
Characteristics of people with addictions
The behavior of an addicted person is fundamentally different from the behavior of a he althy person. This can be seen even in the early stages and prevent the progression of this serious illness. You need to take a closer look at your loved ones, as well as objectively analyze your habits.
Maybe it's still not so run down. Special signs look like this:
- a person is constantly attracted to the object of addiction;
- a person is in nervous excitement until he is near the object, does what he loves or does not use;
- after using harmful substances (communication with a partner, casino, computer), a person experiences satisfaction or relaxation;
- after using the object, a person after a while has a desire to repeat the process again.
Biological factors
Addiction can be triggered by biological factors. This is one of the most difficult conditions, when little depends on the person. These include:
- genetic predisposition;
- heredity, which is aggravated by narcological diseases;
- chronic severe illness;
- brain damage.
Psychological factors
The psychological characteristics of an addicted person include:
- lack of self-control;
- violation of self-regulation;
- low self-esteem;
- lack of self-esteem;
- lack of motivation;
- violation of the emotional sphere;
- inability and unwillingness to take care of themselves;
- lack of willpower;
- lack of compassion and empathy;
- aggressiveness and authoritarianism;
- inadequate response to social support;
- absence or disruption of constructive communication.
Social Factors
Many people wonder what they are, dependent people, and do not understand that a huge number of such individuals surround us in society. The difference between them is only in the form or degree of dependence. If this degree is low and cannot harm he alth, such an addiction is considered quite acceptable (for example, a person likes to watch TV or gives all his time to work). But the main serious social factors are the following:
- demographicgender and age aspects;
- unhe althy atmosphere in the family;
- insufficient control and prevention of addictions;
- deterioration of the economic situation in the country;
- decline of general spirituality;
- availability of harmful substances;
- fashion and traditions in various activities that allow addiction;
- imperfection of legislation.
Features of behavior
Very often in the process of communication, character defects of chemically dependent people are traced. These qualities can greatly aggravate the course of the disease and lead to serious consequences. Pay close attention to those at risk. These people can be recognized by their behavior:
- they turn a blind eye to obvious problems, pretending they don't exist;
- do not openly express their thoughts and feelings;
- manipulate to meet their needs;
- express their thoughts in allegories to avoid direct statements;
- make unrealistic plans and blame other people for their failure;
- everywhere they find enemies and suspect ill-wishers;
- do not remind about their problems, pretending that they are no longer there.
Chemical addiction is one of the most difficult, so it is difficult to determine in the early stages. People try to hide their vulnerability through defensive tactics such as denial, avoidance, isolation from reality, self-importance and self-sufficiency, andaggression or bravado. Denial is considered the most dangerous, because in this case a person is not aware of the presence of a problem.
Lack of stress tolerance
Low stress resistance often causes addiction. Life cannot be always calm and measured, it presents its own surprises, which are not always pleasant. People with a lack of stress resistance cannot adequately survive discomfort. Instead of taking constructive steps to improve the situation, they try to hide behind illusions of stability. They find solace in drugs, alcohol or slot machines. They do it on purpose so as not to face the truth.
To prevent this from happening, it is necessary to teach children from birth to independence and avoid excessive guardianship over them. Growing up, such a person becomes helpless. In order to prevent addiction in an adult, it is necessary to help your relatives and friends who find themselves in a difficult situation. Surrounding them with care and warmth, you can avoid further addiction on their part.
Deceitfulness
Dependent people always lie. They can never be relied upon, as they will not be able to keep their promise under any circumstances. Addicts are determined to get what they want, so their fantasy works in one direction only: deceiving the victim. They cannot be called scammers, because sometimes people feel remorse. Just the desire to get what you want is so great that a personcan't do anything about it. Priorities are shifted in favor of dependence, so a person simply does not belong to himself anymore. It is useless to call him to conscience, he will come up with a lot of excuses and present himself as a victim of circumstances.
It would be useful to say that the habit of telling the truth is laid down from childhood. If parents turn a blind eye to the fantasies (sometimes even unsafe ones) of their children, they have a huge risk of becoming an addict as a result. It will not be difficult for him to lie, and the parents will not have the opportunity to prevent negative consequences. An adult addict should never be trusted under any circumstances.
Infancy
One of the signs of a dependent personality is infantilism. These people prefer not to leave their childhood, allowing themselves all sorts of entertainment and never feeling responsible for themselves. They easily make any compromises with their conscience, and in case of danger they easily shift the blame onto other people. Infantilism is the basic condition for all kinds of addiction. Very often, this phenomenon can be observed in couples where a woman cannot take a step without her partner (it happens the other way around, but it is much less common). The second example would be adult children who are completely dependent on their parents, which sometimes goes beyond acceptable norms.
The most effective way to get rid of addiction in this case is the correct moderate upbringing of the child, when he is not spoiled excessively and is not kept in "hedgehogs". When dealing with an adult infant,addict, you need to deprive him of care without regret and help him adapt in the serious world of responsible people.
Perfectionism
The constant striving to do the best and demand the same from loved ones often leads to addiction. A person is constantly dissatisfied with everything, there is no inner harmony in him. He drives himself and others to exhaustion by trying to do the impossible. When he realizes that he cannot achieve his goal, he breaks into addictions, trying at least for a while to take a break from the constant pursuit of the ideal.
In order to prevent negative consequences, it is necessary to raise children without excessive severity. Do not demand from the child the fulfillment of all his desires. He will get used to constantly justify the trust placed in him and will not be able to forgive himself if he failed in something.
Manipulation
Dependent people can easily manipulate others. They adapt to the world around them, notice even the smallest trifles and see their benefit in everything. They are good psychologists (in their favor) and see the weaknesses of other people, which they then cleverly use. Addicts use pity, use flattery, pretend to be inept and helpless.
The recipe for treating such people is very simple: do not let them manipulate you even for the most insignificant reasons. Parents are encouraged to educate their children in independence and not allow excessive guardianship on their part.
Above, we named some character traits of dependent people. The list of negative qualities of addicts is actually very long, so it makes no sense to list them endlessly. One has only to understand that addiction is an insidious disease, which in its negative force is equal to death (and sometimes even worse), because it affects a person and everyone who is close to him. It is necessary to try never to depend on anyone or anything, because freedom and independence are the strongest desire for any self-sufficient person.
