There are many definitions of rudeness, but no matter what terms it is used for, everyone knows that this is an absolutely unacceptable form of communication in polite society. And if a person wants to actively interact with other individuals of a high stage of development, rudeness should be disposed of.
Reasons for rudeness
Education. A person was brought up in such a way or in such social conditions under which rudeness was the norm of behavior. Accordingly, this individual simply does not understand or does not accept another form of communication. Rudeness is natural and familiar to him
How to get rid of rudeness in this case? A person needs to be re-educated in order to live a normal life. It would be best to visit a psychologist, and the problem can also be solved by actively interacting with the new prosperous society and completely breaking ties with the former one.
Environment. There is a situation when a person received a normal upbringing, but by the will of fate he ended up in a society for which rudeness is a normal form of communication
How to get rid of rudeness? There are two options here: eithera person will learn to communicate according to the environment, or change it. Sometimes a situation arises when people around you can understand you only if you communicate in their language. This is an inevitable need. If at the same time a person retains his inner upbringing, there is nothing to worry about. Time will pass, the situation will change - and the individual will return to a normal society or learn to coexist in it. If there is no way out of the situation, it is necessary to change the situation.
Negative emotions. There are a number of negative emotions that can provoke rudeness. In this case, you should not put the cliche “rude” on a person, just at this time and in this situation, an absolutely adequate and well-mannered person can lose control of himself. Emotions that can provoke an outburst of anger are fatigue, irritability, dissatisfaction. This is a way of psychological relaxation. Sometimes rudeness is a natural response to pain
How to get rid of rudeness resulting from negative emotions? If such outbursts of rudeness are rare, they are not a big problem. Everyone discharges in their own way, perhaps this is not the worst option. If this is a frequent phenomenon that negatively affects both the individual himself and the people around him, then other ways to relieve stress should be found. For example, exercise.
When the cause of rudeness is pain, the problem requires a special solution. If possible, it is necessary to get rid of the cause of pain, to rethinksituation, practice meditation, seek professional help from a psychologist.
A way to feel like a bigger person. Often this reason for rude behavior accompanies adolescence, transitional age, but not always. Why does this occur? A person wants to be someone significant, special, deserving of genuine admiration, but there are already many applicants for this role. And if he does not shine with special talents, all this can result in rudeness. This is a kind of reaction to the negative emotions raging inside a person. At least in this he is not like everyone else, he is able to go beyond the usual social norms, while the rest are not, they are afraid. And he is bolder, he is “cooler” and, accordingly, better than many
How to get rid of rudeness yourself and help your children? It is necessary to give the individual the opportunity to realize his desire for superiority, to help, to support. Moreover, it is necessary to rely on the preference of the person himself, and not on your aspirations, which you could not realize. For a teenager, a very good choice would be a sport that tempers not only the body, but also the character, and creates a strong, strong-willed personality. A girl can also realize herself in sports, but not every girl. Find out what your child likes best and take action.
If rudeness comes from oneself, this phenomenon, oddly enough, is much more difficult to eradicate than to protect oneself from reciprocal rudeness. What can be done?
- Admit to yourself the problem, set a goal and clearlyformulate: “yes, I’m being rude, but I want to get rid of it”, also realize why this is necessary, how the problem will be solved, what result you want to see.
- Keep a diary, sort out the reasons.
- Give yourself a punishment for every rudeness and a gift for every success.
- Silva meditation gives good results.
How to respond to rudeness?
Responding to rudeness is not only possible, but, in most cases, even necessary. And it's not even that putting the rude man in his place, you will feel inner satisfaction. The main thing is to establish the right to a decent attitude in society in the early stages, as well as to exclude such incidents in the future. If you constantly endure rudeness and remain silent, the situation can only get worse. Life is not a kind fairy tale, you need to learn to put some members of society in their place from childhood, and in many situations this is justified. Only it is always worthwhile to understand when it is appropriate, and when it is worth modestly lowering your eyes and sighing sadly, with regret (for example, when your boss criticizes you on business). Always assess the situation soberly. How to deal with rudeness?
Return rudeness
As an option for an impulsive, hysterical and unintelligent personality, he has the right to life. But this is the lowest level. Reciprocal rudeness can lead to a squabble, scandal, even a fight. Is it worth it to go so low? After all, there are much more effective ways to deal with brawlers. And you can boast of your "reinforced concrete" calmness. Many itdelights.
Ignore
Ignore is a good option, but only for those people in whose soul absolute icy calm reigns, and they are able to pay attention to a rude person no more than a yapping dog. If passions rage inside you, emotions boil, and you drive them even deeper and proudly remain silent, this will not bring anything good. Moreover, scientists have proven that such unexpressed emotions eventually turn into serious diseases. Don't let this happen. It's better to speak rudely corny.
Pity
Very good way to respond to rudeness. And acceptable, and correct, and worthy. But it's true that most rude people can only cause pity. Whether the cause of rudeness is upbringing, negative emotions, or inner pain.
Laughter
There is no better response to a person who offended you than laughter. Sincere and joyful laughter. Sometimes it will help to defuse the situation, in other cases it will serve as a good punishment for the boor. And the phrase, while being said accurately and accurately, will allow you to leave the battlefield as a real winner. Therefore, we learn to respond to rudeness.
Interesting responses to rudeness and rudeness
- Looking at you, I understand what the expression "dead end branch of development" means.
- You may not be aware, but others are absolutely not interested in watching your low IQ level manifest.
- I haven't seen such a combination of dementia and ugly appearance for a long time.
- Step back, you're ruining my biofield.
- Please note - this is a plinth. And remember, this is your level.
- Just because you look so awful doesn't mean you should act the same.
- Don't show me your primitive development.
- I'm sincerely sorry for you, it's probably very hard to live with such a flawed psyche.
- Tell me, when you were born, did nature rest?
- Who are you rustling at, bag?
