Man often lives in the illusion that the mind is able to control everything and everyone. This is not true. Our actions are largely controlled by the subconscious, and we are not always aware of what is happening. The body gives alarm signals quite often, while it is difficult for a person to find a logical explanation for this. Such a phenomenon is called an incomprehensible situation from which a way out is required. The article offers various ideas for solving the problem, as well as feedback from people who have chosen one or another option.
Stereotypical reactions
Man often resembles animals, acting in certain circumstances according to established patterns. His reactions are a little more complicated and less predictable, but brought to automatism. Why is this happening?
In conditions of limited time, a person, as it were, frees the brain, which is able to concentrate on tasks of paramount importance. When a certain signal is received that does not affect vital interests, a stereotype is triggered, and the brain immediately responds. Consider examplessome well-established patterns described by R. Cialdini in the monograph "Psychology of Influence":
- More expensive is definitely better.
- Any service should be answered with a return service.
- We must always give in to those who are ready to give in to us.
Stereotypes so permeate our lives that we are not always able to be aware of our actions, perceiving what is happening as an incomprehensible situation. This is often used by manipulators who have studied human psychology well.
Manipulation example
A rather recognizable situation when in a store, along with an expensive purchase, we are offered related products. Surprisingly, this works quite often. And in addition to the purchased foreign car, we additionally buy floor mats or a stereo system.
The principle of contrast works: the cost of a car and rugs, for example. The latter, against the backdrop of an astronomical price for a car, seem simply free. And only at home we realize that we spent in vain on the product that we do not need at the moment.
Did our body signal that we were in a difficult, incomprehensible situation? Definitely. Surely during the dialogue with the seller there was a feeling of slight anxiety and discomfort. This is the main indicator that a person becomes an object of manipulation. Sincere, trusting relationships are not built with him - he is used. In fact, only one task is solved - to sell the goods.
Any stereotypical situation can be used by other people. For example,Hare Krishnas give a passerby a flower, and then ask them to donate to the temple. And he quite often responds, because he is used to the fact that any service requires a response. He returns much more than he received, because it is psychologically difficult for him to be indebted to anyone.
What to do in an incomprehensible situation
If a person finds himself in a situation of discomfort and inexplicable anxiety, the main rule is to buy time. It is required in order to react meaningfully, analyze what is happening and make an informed decision.
This is what folk wisdom says. Everyone knows the proverb:
Morning is wiser than evening.
For the Jews, it sounds like this:
In any incomprehensible situation, go to bed.
On youth forums, you can find this advice that has a lot of positive feedback: "If you don't know what to do, take out your phone and scroll through the menu. Keep doing number two until the answer comes."
Solution Ideas
How to analyze the situation in order to make a decision as carefully as possible? It is very important to understand your true interests and needs, separating them from the desire to follow a certain image in the eyes of others.
Sometimes a person chooses the sequence of behavior that objectively harms him. For example, he continues to maintain the image of a proud and principled person, sacrificing relationships with loved ones.
To avoid this mistake, it is necessary to develop intuition, trusting first of all your feelings and emotions. Then a way out of an incomprehensible situation will be found as soon as possible:
- If you are worried about a quarrel and the negative emotions associated with it, make peace. Ask for forgiveness and you will immediately feel at ease.
- If you can't make a decision for a long time, being in a state of frustration, do it. Respect your choice and accept it as the only right one.
- If you are tormented by fear of an adult or boss for what you have done, admit it. It is not the punishment that is terrible, but its expectation.
- Follow the rule: in any incomprehensible situation, take risks, improvise. Strive to discard previous experience and perceive the problem as if seeing it for the first time. If you have not trusted men before, break this tradition by entering into a new relationship.
Tips from psychologists to relieve stress
The decision must be made on a bright head, relieving stress. How to work with anxiety to make the most of the resource in a traumatic situation?
To do this, you need to understand what signs our body gives, signaling a problem. As a rule, a person's condition resembles the condition of a pinched hose:
- The body gives out multidirectional signals: somewhere there is numbness, somewhere - excessive excitement.
- There is a feeling - neither inhale nor exhale.
- Stiffness and stiffness appear in the body.
Each may have its own characteristics: one, for example, aches in the solarplexuses, another gets headaches.
The main advice of psychologists: in any incomprehensible situation, make active movements. You can not suppress the signals of the body, indicating anxiety, because this can lead to psychosomatics. A hot or contrast shower, deep rather than shallow breathing, dancing, any physical activity that relieves tension will help the body.
Where a person's attention is focused, there is the energy that allows you to cope with the problem.
Reviews
Problems arising from an incomprehensible situation are best handled by methods of body therapy. Clients of psychologists and psychotherapists talk about this. They also claim that everything that helps relieve stress helps. This is a good sleep, rest, friendly support, humor, physical activity.
Most people make their own decisions. At the same time, they focus on the fact that they had to turn to outsiders for help. It is very important that the request be clear and addressed to specific people. The nature of a person is this: he often does not provide help, not because of internal callousness, but because of a lack of understanding of what is required of him and whether it is required.
