Understanding psychology originated at the end of the 19th century. The explanation of the mental life of a person has become the main task of the psychological study of this branch of science. This development was proposed by the German philosopher Dilthey, he argued that we can explain nature, but we must understand mental life.
How to understand a man
The psychology of men is very different from that of women. This is understandable. From birth, boys and girls are brought up according to different programs. Girls are future wives and mothers, keepers of the hearth. Boys are future men, family earners. So when girls play with dolls and make clothes for them, boys help their dad with car repairs, play football or go fishing.
After a while, the opposite sex begins to pull towards each other, and it turns out that she does not like fishing and football, and he hates shopping. As a result, more and more girls are asking the question: how to understand a guy? Psychology can give a lot of advice, but girls just have to use them correctly.
Many charmers try to take the guy's place, try to think like him. You can immediately say:this is not true. A girl can never think like a man because she is a girl. And it is unlikely that a guy will be pleased to see a beautiful half with boyish habits next to him.
Studying men on the first date
So, the study of male essence can be started already on the first date. Unfortunately, they don't take hints at all. And if you lick your lips during a conversation, he will hope to continue the conversation. If during communication he holds out his hand with his palm up, then this means his sympathy and desire for communication. Well, if during a conversation a man's legs are crossed, his hands are in his pockets - this means that he is not in the mood for further communication. A large number of compliments should alert you, most likely, he is not serious about you. Also, the intention of the guy can be read in the eyes. For example, if a young man stares into your eyes or often raises his eyebrows up, this will mean that he likes you. Well, a constantly frowning man means a reduced interest in your person. If a guy squints and smiles at you, he's probably just flirting. This look invites you to an easy relationship without a continuation.
Why don't men like to talk?
If the first date was successful, and on it the girl managed to understand the intentions of the guy, other problems appear. For example, many ladies complain that men do not tell them how their day went and do not ask their loved ones about it. Women are wrong when they think that men don't care. They're just used to getting squeezedinformation about the problem and look for a solution. A man is unlikely to be interested in hearing what color your colleague's bag is or how high her heels are. For such topics, it is better to find free ears of a friend.
Another reason for controversy is the misunderstanding of women's hints. Yes, men need to speak directly. They don't take hints!
If you don't understand why a man should go fishing or go to a bar with friends, then think about whether you can sit at work and not discuss your boss's new hairstyle or haircut with your colleagues? Men talk about other topics, and they need these conversations just like you do. Therefore, there is no need to arrange tantrums and jealousy scenes, because then the guy will leave out of spite and will do so often. It is better to wish him good luck before fishing and give warm clothes so that he does not freeze at night. He will appreciate your trust. In the meantime, make good use of this evening. Go to the spa, visit a friend or read a book.
A huge responsibility lies on women's shoulders for creating comfort in the house, good relations, love, and a calm life. Unfortunately, not everyone can cope with this, but you must remember that from time immemorial, it was the woman who was considered the keeper of the hearth.
How to understand yourself
Psychology has long asked this question. Many psychologists have written scientific treatises on this topic. But no works and advice will help if the person himself does not want it. So if you decide to understandyourself, you need to start small. Try to give yourself 5 minutes every day. After all, it is quite a bit. It's probably best to meditate before bed. Every day ask yourself questions: why was I born, what do I love, what do I dream about, what will I leave behind? These questions will help you understand your essence, and you will take one step towards your knowledge.
The next step is knowing if you enjoy what you do. If you don't like the job, you need to change it. You may have to change 10 jobs, but in the end you will find what is right for you! Work should bring pleasure, not a bunch of negative emotions!
It's not scary to make a mistake - it's scary not to draw conclusions from it
Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Many people, having taken a wrong step, “hide themselves in a corner”, close themselves in. They believe that it is better to sit quietly, and then there will be no mistakes. There is a well-known expression: if you want to avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing and be nothing. From this phrase you can understand that you need to fight. It is necessary to go all the way and learn from your mistakes!
Many methods in psychology teach us to know ourselves. One of those is trying new things in your life. Have you ever skydived? Jump! You don't know how to play billiards? Learn!
And remember, thoughts are things! Until now, few people believe in this, although scientists have long proven the correctness of this statement. Become the writer of your book of life. Describe your dreams and your vision of lifeevery day, and believe me, you yourself will not notice when the book becomes a reality.
Communicating with people: how to understand their intentions
Another question that psychology studies: how to understand a person by gestures and facial expressions. Mimicry is the movement of the facial muscles, with which you can determine the mood of a person.
Anger is manifested by tightly clenched teeth and lips, wrinkles on the forehead and downcast eyes.
Fear can be identified by raised and reduced to the bridge of the nose.
When disgusted, a person's nose is wrinkled, the lower lip is pushed out and the eyebrows are lowered.
During sadness, the corners of the lips go down, the person does not raise his eyes from the floor, and the pupils move very slowly, the eyebrows are shifted at the bridge of the nose.
Joy is manifested by a smile and slightly narrowed eyes. If a person does not squint while smiling, it means that it is fake.
Body position when communicating: what to look for?
Understanding psychology allows you to understand the intentions of a person by looking at the position of his head. So, a raised head speaks of self-confidence and openness to others. And if it is tilted to the side, this means that the person is ready to compromise. A head down indicates a weak and weak-willed person.
Hands can say a lot
In addition to the head, great importance is attached to the hands. After all, their movements are practically not regulated by our subconscious. So, hands raised palms up aregood sign. The person wants to communicate with you. If a person walks with his hands behind his back, this is a sign of shyness and timidity. The man who hides his hands in his pockets is trying to hide his insecurities. Rubbing hands means contentment and the presence of positive emotions. Well, if during a conversation a person touches his face with his hands, he is trying to hide the truth from you. In other words, he's just lying.
Understanding psychology is a huge science that deals with man. With the help of it, people can know themselves, understand their interlocutors and loved ones. Understanding psychology will help anyone find the strength in themselves to create their own happiness at work and at home, among colleagues and relatives. Don't be afraid to make mistakes! Be afraid to be nobody!
