Each of us from childhood has certain ideas about the world, about people's behavior in certain situations, about what is good and what is bad. Unfortunately, expectations are not always realized. People are forced to adapt to society in order not to be rejected by it.
What is waiting?
Expectation is the feeling of a possible realization of ideas in the future. Most often, a person is not ready to put up with the fact that his expectations could not be met, since he had already thought out in advance how everything should be, and believed that this is exactly how everything would happen. For people, expectation is something bright, correct, indestructible. Especially when it comes to such important aspects as family, friends, work. Unjustified expectations are always accompanied by disappointment and rejection. Waiting is also a difficult and exhausting process that can lead to depression.
How to deal with disappointment?
The most effective way is to destroy the cause of disappointment, that is, you should simply stop setting yourself up for a specific outcome. But how to do that? Forthis:
- Try to be easy on any situation. For example, a friend refused to go to your birthday party. Find out the reason and try to understand it. Try to put yourself in his place and think about how you would act in such a situation. Ask yourself: “Will this be important to me in 5 years?”. If not, don't dwell on it.
- Accept people for who they are.
- Try to be tolerant of imperfections, because everyone has them. Do not get angry at excessive straightforwardness, talkativeness, stiffness and other character traits of a person.
- Don't exhaust yourself thinking about what you want. This will make it harder for you to come to terms with the opposite reality.
- Don't rush things. Sometimes, to get what you want, you need to wait a bit and get distracted.
What can I do to meet my expectations?
Sometimes just sitting back and waiting for things to happen isn't enough. There is always an opportunity to influence certain events, since human expectations are an adjustable mechanism.
- If you are waiting for a promotion, try to work better, do not be afraid to take on an extra task, as it will provide you with invaluable experience, talk to your superiors.
- If you can't wait for a marriage proposal, gently hint about it, be patient, show your feelings so that your young man understands that he is dear to you and decides to start a family with you.
- If your relationship has become monotonous, try to revive it yourself. Buy theater tickets ormovie, arrange a surprise or go on vacation together.
- If there are disagreements in the family, try to calmly discuss the problem with relatives, listen to them, express your point of view, explain the advantages of your arguments, try to find a compromise.
How to meet the expectations of others?
In an effort to change everything around people often do not notice their own imperfections. They rarely think about what they themselves could change in themselves for the better. Therefore, expectation is conformity to one's own requirements. Tips to help you always stay on top:
- Show interest in the topic of conversation.
- If you don't like something, say it right away.
- Be yourself.
- Highlight your weaknesses and try to reduce them.
- If you don't understand something, ask.
- Try not to start a conversation about something you don't understand or have doubts about.
- Learn to listen.
- Be polite.
Tips to improve relationships with loved ones:
- Don't forget to take care of your loved ones.
- Help them even if they don't ask for help.
- Wish them happy holidays.
- Keep in touch.
- Share your problems with them.
Expectations are tricky, before you accuse someone of not meeting your expectations, consider whether your requirements are not too high, whetherspecific person to fulfill them. Even if you were not understood, do not be offended, all people tend to make mistakes, none of us is perfect. Try to share your dreams and goals with loved ones, and then it will be much easier to achieve what you want.
