Non-verbal ways of communicating give us more information than speech. It is through body language that we express our true emotions. People who have mastered this can easily spot cheating. But some are able to take control of most of their gestures and deceive even a lie detector. Although there are very few such people.
Verbal and non-verbal communication
Modern man pronounces about 30 thousand words every day. Speech is the verbal means of communication. There are several types of speech activity: speaking, listening/perceiving, writing and reading. Types of non-verbal communication are gestures, postures, intonations, facial expressions, glances, position in space, etc.
Kinesthetics includes pantomime, facial expressions and gestures. It considers the external aspect of the manifestation of emotions and feelings. Movements of the head and hands are the most ancient way of communication. Today, sign language is quite studied, there are even books on "reading" the true meaning of a person's words, depending on his involuntary movements. Each nation uses gestures differently. So, the Finns use this type of communication about 1 time per hour, the Italians - 80 times, and the Mexicans - 180.
Mimicry, i.e., movements of the facial muscles, is the main indicator of feelings. Without this component, that is, during a conversation, when we do not see the face of the interlocutor, about 10-15% of all information is lost. All muscle movements in emotional states are coordinated. The main informative load is on the lips and eyebrows.
Eye contact is also extremely important. If you are rarely and briefly looked at, this may indicate that you are lying. But in order to correctly recognize a lie, it is important to take into account other non-verbal forms of communication. The look can be businesslike (concentration on the interlocutor's forehead), social (triangle between the mouth and eyes), intimate (at chest level).
Mimicry includes such non-verbal ways of communication as gait, posture, posture and gross motor skills. The gait varies in rhythm, dynamics and amplitude. According to this indicator, one can judge both the state of he alth and the character, mood and age of a person. A suffering gait is sluggish, a joyful gait is light, a proud one is sweeping. It has been observed that people who keep their hands on their hips strive to achieve their goals in the shortest possible time.
There are about a thousand stable postures, each of which shows how a person perceives his own status in relation to the position of others. A relaxed position is inherent in persons who are muchachieved. The posture can indicate openness or closeness.
In a word, by learning non-verbal ways of communication, you can easily understand what your interlocutor wants. You will succumb to provocations less often, learn to recognize lies and insincerity in most cases. These skills will be useful in any circumstances: both in negotiations and in personal life. We often need to make decisions about how to continue to maintain a relationship, how to carry on a conversation, etc. Knowing the basics will help you find answers to most of your questions. The main thing is to practice and apply knowledge.
