What is the lack of communication in psychology? This is, first of all, its disadvantage, no matter in terms of qualitative or quantitative indicators, which is caused by the personal characteristics of a person, persistent difficulties in the process of establishing and maintaining relationships with other people. This also includes unwillingness or inability to show emotions, alienation, excessive shyness and lack of communication, inability to competently get out of critical situations. Lack of communication cannot just happen, it usually has several causes.
Why might there be a lack of communication?
If there is a lack of communication in adults, what to do? Identifying a problem, especially from the outside, is not so easy. Usually they are accompanied by internal tension, some personal problems. For example, it can be aggression, the result of psychological trauma,stress and suffering, low or, conversely, excessively high self-esteem. All these problems and many more cause a lack of communication and attention. A banal inability to build a dialogue and relationships with people can also become a problem. Often these problems can lie in the depths of childhood, and also be the result of improper upbringing. In the modern world, solving such a problem has become even more difficult. Now a person's attention can be completely directed to computer technology, where people have the opportunity to live their lives not in the real, but in the virtual world. Often there are situations when a person on social networks creates an image of who he would like to be, but in the real world he encounters difficulties. The reason for the lack of communication may be the psychological trauma suffered after betrayal or deceit. A person simply ceases to trust others, breaks all contacts and locks himself at home. Also, the fault of the lack of communication can be specific character traits that may be unpleasant to other people. This is envy, deceit, selfishness and so on. Hence there are constant quarrels, the inability to seek compromises. Here there are difficulties in establishing contacts, there is awkwardness, fear, negativity towards others, and so on - these are the consequences of a lack of communication.
Socialization
From early childhood, the level of ability to communicate with other people is influenced by the socialization of a person. From birth, the child is immersed in society and learn to adapt to society. The process of socialization begins withcommunication with parents, with grandparents, then uncles and aunts, peers, other adults, kindergarten, school, university, and so on are added. Each period of life is a stage of socialization, and the lack of communication with children adversely affects the further development of the child. If for some reason the child does not go to kindergarten, he must be in the company of other children, and parents should not avoid this. Only strangers help the child adapt to the real world, and not to the one created by his parents. The lack of communication with adults in children just begins because of parents who in every possible way protect their child from contacts from the outside. He althy relationships can only be learned through practice. We form our social circle from those people who, as it seems to us, fit into our world. We hang labels right and left, not at all thinking that each person can be worthy of our attention and it does not matter at all what he looks like and what he does.
What prevents us from avoiding a lack of communication?
Everyone has experienced some common misconceptions about people at some point in their lives. If you try to step over your principles, you can qualitatively diversify your life with interesting communication.
Appearance
Every person at least once in his life said the phrase: “appearance is not the main thing”, and friends nodded thoughtfully and agreed in response. No matter what anyone says, the first impression of a person is always based on appearance, it is only important not tofocus on it and get to know the person further. It is not uncommon to meet a person impeccably dressed, but with emptiness inside, and vice versa. A tastelessly dressed or unkempt person may just as well turn out to be a local alcoholic or a famous musician who simply does not care what and how he is wearing. Thousands of options and you'll never know the truth if you pass by.
Weird people
We all have cockroaches in our heads. What may seem familiar and normal to some may be completely unacceptable to others. We all grew up in different conditions, communicated with different people, learned our principles and rules of life. Why not learn to break stereotypes and stop counting everyone who has an opinion that does not coincide with yours, crazy madmen? In any case, in the modern world, the concept of "normal" is very vague. Many great people had their own cockroaches in their heads and troubles, but this does not prevent us from considering them great? Did you know that Churchill changed his sheets every night before he went to bed? Einstein refused to wear socks, and Beethoven did not recognize shaving, believing that it brings him inspiration. Steve Jobs also liked to walk barefoot, and in general everyone around him considered him strange and abnormal. And what happened? You can continue endlessly, but the fact remains: the oddities do not mean anything.
Bad habits
We often a priori treat people with bad habits badly. Smokers are uncouth chumps for most people, and amateursdrink at parties - unrestrained alcoholics. But does the fact that a person is addicted to a cigarette mean that he is bad or stupid? For example, the famous writer Edgar Alan Poe was a severe alcoholic who even died from alcohol, but he also wrote books that virtually every inhabitant of the planet knows about. Hemingway couldn't imagine his day without whiskey or wine, but that doesn't mean you wouldn't want to hang out with him if that were possible, does it? It makes no sense to list all the actors, musicians, politicians behind whom the sin associated with the use of drugs is hidden. But society recognizes them as normal!
Try to see the world like children
Kids are always honest and sincere in their actions and words, they do not look at social status, appearance and so on. Try and you get rid of the habit of hanging labels, driving people into frames, despite his manner of speech or some oddities. Why plunge yourself into a state of scarcity because of imposed stereotypes?
What are the types of communication deficits
The fact remains: every person needs the simplest human communication, and its lack entails the emergence of various forms of mental disorders. In total, five types of communication deficit are known in psychology, which E. Berne called "hunger".
First type - hunger for stimulation
This type is characterized by a complete lack of communication in a person's life. Psychologists have found that after a couple of days, a person’s consciousness begins tochange in a negative direction. Especially deplorable is such a complete lack of communication for children. All this affects the growing body and the baby, when he grows up, it will be difficult to fit into the society of "normal".
The second type is the hunger for recognition
This category is characterized by what a person experiences when he finds himself in an unusual environment. Even in a crowd of people, a person can feel completely alone and still feel the need for communication. This state is especially familiar to a person when he finds himself alone in an unfamiliar country. It's not far from depression.
The third kind is the hunger to satisfy the needs for quality communication
Here we are not talking about a complete lack of communication, here we mean the quality of this communication. For example, if a person contacts people only at work, limited to formal communication. This kind of deficiency is especially characteristic of those who have a rich inner world, a subtle spiritual nature, but do not have the opportunity to express all this. First of all, these are creative people who find it hard to come to terms with the fact that life takes place at such a primitive level
The fourth type is hunger for events
If a person is surrounded by interesting people, and he is constantly in the process of communication, this does not mean at all that he will not feel the need for anything. Such people do not have enough other people, they need something to constantly happen in life. Often this has a negative connotation, as a need is satisfied.various rumors and gossip.
The fifth kind is the hunger for recognition
All people crave fame and recognition to one degree or another. People strive to achieve high results in their professional field and they do this not only for their own peace of mind, but also in order to gain recognition from other people. The hunger for recognition can negatively affect those people who once had a crowd of fans, but in the future lost their former glory.
People who have a lack of communication often do not themselves realize what is the reason for their constant discontent, chronic depression and depression. The need for any type of deficiency is experienced by each of us at some point in our lives.
Consequences
The consequences of lack of communication can be very different. This can go unnoticed for a person and affect only his mood. In more severe cases, everything can end in depression or psychosis. For children, a lack of communication can turn into problems in the future, it will be difficult for them to contact people, the child may grow up withdrawn and unsociable.
