Agree, everything happens in life. At some point, the days begin to seem gloomier and gloomier, and the usual things from which you have always enjoyed cease to please. In the end, problems that used to seem mere trifles become an unbearable burden. Complete despair sets in: fate continues to throw up troubles that are extremely difficult to cope with psychologically. Probably, many of us at such moments are visited by thoughts: “I can’t do anything in this situation, this is a dead end!”
The constant feeling that the black stripe can not cope, just unsettling! Familiar? Despair is sadness, depression, apathy, lack of strength to move on. In such an emotional state, it is impossible to work, enjoy life, and what a sin to hide - sometimes you don’t want to live.
Grievous sin
It is often said that despair is a sin. Why was such a belief formed? Firstly, according to the Christian religion, despair is disbelief in God, because at the same time a person feels sorry for himself and ceases to rely on higher powers. Secondly, such a condition can lead to many problems, and in the most difficult cases, lead a person to suicide. And this, according toChristianity is the most powerful sin that can be committed, since there is no way to ask for forgiveness for your deed from the Lord during life.
It is also believed that such a state rejects the omnipotence of God and shows that the human soul is not ready for humility. Despair is the pride of the heart, disbelief in the possibility of striving for the Lord and believing in him with renewed vigor.
If you feel the need, go to church, clear your mind and meditate on the greatness of God - it will be easier. Remember, "Diligent prayer is the death of despondency." If a person is overtaken by complete despair, there is no need to complain, it is better to turn to the Lord. Indeed, prayer is what your soul is asking for now.
Go see a psychologist
Firstly, despite the fact that in times of crisis you want to be alone, you should think about visiting a psychologist. Many people needlessly fear a visit to a specialist, believing that they are able to cope with any misfortune without outside help. Remember, despair is a sure way to depression, and this is already a serious mental disorder that takes a lot of vital energy.
Do not forget that any problem is best seen from the outside. Moreover, an experienced psychologist will definitely conduct several interesting tests that will help you understand yourself and cope with the misfortune.
Share your experiences
If going to a specialist is impossible for some reason, another good way to overcome despair is tofind a person who can listen to you and give good advice. Visit an old friend, call a good friend - a pleasant conversation will act on you like a magic pill. It is very important not to hold back emotions and share thoughts - the more you accumulate in yourself, the more your state of mind will worsen.
It will be equally useful to keep a diary, describe your experiences on paper, and later analyze them and try to gradually understand why you are in despair. What does it mean? The diary should describe not only lived events, but also the thoughts that visit you during the day, try to answer the questions: “What do I think about this situation?”, “Why does this bother me so much?”, “Does it have such a strong impact on my life?”, “Are these events worth so many experiences?”
Be honest with yourself
Waving off your feelings, being afraid to see your weakness is a thankless task. You should admit your defeat, stop and look at life from the outside: obviously, something really went wrong. Be as honest as possible with yourself and try to impartially assess the situations that have been happening to you lately. No need to justify yourself and amuse yourself with the thought that everything is not so bad. It is important to really understand the essence of the problems in order to find solutions.
Move
Despite the fact that in moments of despair you want to do nothing, try not to sit at home: take a light jog, go to the cinema, theater or exhibition - youyou just need to direct your attention to something beautiful from time to time. The power of nature will have an amazing effect: if time permits, you can go hiking or just take a walk outside the city in the forest - you are guaranteed a surge of vitality!
Smile
Yes, no matter what! Perhaps you are one of those people for whom the previous method is completely unsuitable: thinking about a bad state only aggravates your situation, and despair envelops you with renewed vigor. In this case, you just need to be distracted and fill your life with bright colors: watch a comedy, dance to cheerful music, play with a cat or a dog - a smile on your face will immediately signal to the body: “But everything is fine!” And life will really get better!
But perhaps the most effective way to combat discouragement is to do something new, unusual and crazy - something that will allow you to instantly get out of a crisis situation. Wanted to make a crazy purchase? Jump with a parachute? Or maybe just eat a whole box of chocolates by yourself and watch a stupid movie? Now is the best time!
Philosophy of existentialism
Despair is not just a word that can describe discouragement. It is also associated with one of the terms of modern philosophy - the quietism of despair. It is necessary to understand and analyze the connection. In general, in the Middle Ages, a Catholic religious movement was called Quietism, which adhered to a contemplative, detached view of the world. In a figurative and more ordinary sense, this is the passive behavior of a person and hisresignation to fate.
Much later, in the 20th century, the term “quietism of despair” appeared in the philosophy of existentialism. For the first time, the philosopher J. P. Sartre used it in his work “Existentialism is humanism”. What he meant was that the quietism of despair is the position that if a problem cannot be solved, then it does not exist. This deep philosophical meaning can be interpreted as the most powerful practice of acceptance and transfer it to your life: maybe, indeed, if you understand that your difficulties cannot be solved, this is not a problem, and it is not worth despairing that there is no solution?
Thinking about any situation, you need to try to evaluate it from different angles. Perhaps this will help to find an unexpected way out and realize that all problems are trifles. As long as a person is alive, all difficulties can be overcome. Only before death comes complete impotence, and it is impossible to reverse this process. Therefore, it is worth appreciating every moment and not wasting time on negative emotions and experiences.
