The wedding night is a quivering time full of secrets, worries and expectations. How to properly prepare yourself for the magical sacrament?
The first wedding night in Islam is a special time. A girl who has just left her parents' house meets a man for the first time. She is humble and innocent. That is why the husband should be especially gentle and careful with her. The Prophet said that women are like flowers: they are beautiful, but their petals are delicate and fragile. A man should treat his wife on the first night like a delicate, vulnerable flower. What does Islam say about sacrament? The first wedding night should begin with prayer. Beautifully dressed, anointed newlyweds, left alone, can treat each other with juice and sweets, and then separately perform two rak'ahs of prayer, asking Allah to fill their lives with happiness, love and abundance. Namaz, which has a powerful psychological impact, will help the newlyweds to calm down and tune in the right way. Wedding Night (Islamprohibits close relationships at this time, but does not insist on them) should take place in an atmosphere of tenderness. Naturally, if the night falls on the time of a woman's physiological days, then intimacy should be moved to another time.
Patience and delicacy
Husband should not undress his wife: this can greatly embarrass an innocent girl. It is better to take off your clothes behind a screen, and you can get rid of your underwear in bed, under the covers. The first wedding night in Islam should take place in the dark: so the newlywed will be less embarrassed, she will not be able to be frightened by the sight of a man whom she sees naked for the first time. A man should not rush, he should not act rudely. Tactlessness can lead to the fact that the bride will forever have an aversion to the sacrament of marriage. The first wedding night in Islam is an opportunity for a spouse to show affection, tenderness and tolerance, characteristic of a real man. In order to receive much later, on the first night, a man must give more. When the young people go to bed, the husband should lay his hand on the forehead of his wife and ask Allah to bless the marriage and its sacrament, send many children and give the spouses mutual love and understanding. After that, the young can begin mutual caresses and love games. If a man is skillful and delicate, then the girl will gradually begin to relax, she will stop being embarrassed, and will begin to bestow tenderness and affection on her husband. Do not rush to defloration: a rough act can cause vaginismus in a girl. This disease, which is expressed in painful spasms of the female organs, canpermanently spoil the intimate side of the couple's life.
Teaching relatives
In some families, it is customary to wait for the end of the wedding night at the door of the young, in order to make sure: the young is a virgin. Such an attitude can cause a deep spiritual wound to the young, especially the bride. This cannot be done. Islam prescribes not to spy, not to spy on others. Waiting at the door and then displaying the sheets is nothing but a violation of the injunctions of the Qur'an, leading to haram. The first wedding night in Islam must forever remain a sacrament, the details of which are known only to two.
