Some people consider themselves completely different from others, special and unique. Someone, on the contrary, does not see any differences from the rest and identifies himself with the "gray mass". Is every person unique? What makes a person special?
What is individuality?
In psychology, the term "individuality" is defined as a set of character traits and other features that distinguish one person from another. It manifests itself in the difference in people's temperaments, appearance, behavior, clothing style, interests and hobbies, desires, needs, physical and mental abilities.
Every person is special not only due to the presence or absence of one of the listed qualities, but also due to various combinations of them. So, for example, often people have nothing similar to each other, except for temperament, and two people with completely different interests can have the same character.
Is everyone special?
Oftenyou can hear the phrase that all men, women, and indeed all people are the same. How true is this statement? Some people think that a person can be considered special only in those cases when he has achieved some incredible success, reached unprecedented heights, or has phenomenal abilities. From this point of view, "ordinary" people should not differ from each other, and there are only a few outstanding personalities in the world.
In fact, each person is special in his own way. Even people who are very similar in character will not be completely the same. Their perception of reality, attitude to certain things, dreams and desires are always different. If a person does not seek to openly show his individuality, this does not mean that it does not exist at all. The inner world of each of us is so unique and inimitable that among the several billion inhabitants of the planet it is impossible to find two identical people.
What makes you special?
As you know, a person becomes a person only in the process of education and the influence of society. At birth, a child has an individuality only in terms of appearance, physical and biochemical properties of the organism. In the process of development, the character and temperament of a person is formed. This expands the boundaries of individuality. A person becomes more and more different from the rest, acquires features peculiar only to him.
Character and temperament are not all that make you a special person. Adults, as a rule, have formed social and moral values,take a certain public position, express their opinion on certain issues. Socio-psychological properties of personality represent the highest level of manifestation of individuality. Thus, absolutely all the qualities inherent in him, from his appearance to his opinion on each specific problem, make a person special.
Does appearance make a person special?
When a child is born into the world, his character, life principles and views are not yet formed. The only thing that at this moment distinguishes him from other people is external data. Even newborn babies look completely different.
As an adult, looks are also what makes you special. People differ in eye color, hair length, hairstyle, figure. Getting acquainted with a person, we first of all look at his appearance and evaluate it. The style of clothing and manner of behavior in society complement our appearance and bring into it their individuality. Even very similar people will never be exactly the same.
Twin identity problem
If it is not so difficult for ordinary people to realize their individuality, then children born in a pair with a brother or sister really face the problem of understanding their features. From early childhood, they are constantly confused, they are dressed the same, many parents also make an irreparable mistake, perceiving their children as a single whole.
Growing up, twins often cannot imagine their life without a brother orsisters. At the same time, it is difficult for them to single out their positive and negative qualities, to figure out whether they really differ from their twin in some way. If one of the couple achieves great success, the second becomes depressed, considers himself a failure, does not realize that he can achieve something in a completely different area.
To prevent such a situation, parents of twins should emphasize the differences between them from childhood. It would be nice if everyone had their own room. When children grow up, they should not be prevented from wanting to dress differently or have different hairstyles. In some situations, the twins need to be separated, for example, by sending them to study in different classes, or at least sitting at different desks. This is necessary so that everyone learns to exist in the world independently, can find friends for himself and realize himself as a separate person.
Fear of being special
It seems to some that a special person who tries to express all his qualities and is completely different from others is sure to get himself a lot of problems. So, for example, in a work team where nothing has changed for years, a creative newcomer who wants to show his creative abilities and embody original ideas is unlikely to deserve approval. People tend to perceive negatively those who are not like the rest, who violate their usual way of life.
For this reason, many people extinguish their individuality, try to merge with the main mass of people and "not stick out." As a rule, when a person cannotexpress himself, he feels depressed and dissatisfied with life. Perhaps you should not pretend to be someone you are not? Change jobs, change your social circle. Elsewhere, your ideas may be appreciated and you won't have to hide that you're special.
Striving to stand out from the crowd is what makes you special?
Many people don't want to be like the rest. In every possible way they try to emphasize their individuality. To do this, some people put on ridiculous clothes, get tattoos, piercings, apply defiant makeup on their faces, behave strangely in public places. Very often, such a manifestation of individuality causes bewilderment and aggression on the part of other people.
Is it really that unusual appearance that makes you a special person? Everyone gives the answer to this question for himself. Someone thinks that only those who cannot express themselves differently express their individuality in this way, but for someone it is an opportunity to present themselves and prove that they are not like others.
How to show your individuality in everyday life
People who don't dress provocatively, don't attract everyone's attention with their appearance, however, also want to feel special. How can you express yourself in everyday life?
In fact, each person is unique in some way. To appear special to othersbe sure to do shocking things. It is enough just to be yourself, not to hide or hide your distinctive features. What makes you special is sure to be noticed by others.
