Melancholy often torments the souls of many people. Homesickness, black, green longing, love, spring and a huge variety of its most diverse types torment people, sometimes relentlessly. Let's try to figure out what it is and how to get rid of it.
The meaning of the word "longing" according to V. Dahl's dictionary
The word "longing" has many meanings, and various states of the soul are associated with it: constraint of the spirit (from the word "pressure"), painful sadness, languor of the soul, spiritual anxiety, boredom, anxiety, fear, grief, sorrow, sadness and feeling when the heart just aches.
Longing is an emotion. Or a feeling?
This state sits inside every person, but not everyone attacks. Usually the victims of this are those who are experiencing a certain emotional decline, which is associated with any changes in life and dissatisfaction with the state of affairs or even with themselves.
This feeling is such an emotional state of mind when one feels bitter regret about what is happening, and in addition it is also fueled by a sense of one's own insecurity and failure. Tosca isemotion.
A feeling similar to longing is sadness. But it should be noted that she does not carry such emotional mood swings. It's just a slight sadness that peacefully coexists with the acceptance of the ongoing changes.
There is a beautiful phrase by A. S. Pushkin about this: “I feel sad and easy; my sadness is light. The great poet accurately described such an emotional state (feeling).
Melancholy and loneliness
Loneliness and melancholy are quite closely interconnected. This is due to the fact that if a person is deprived of the opportunity to communicate with his closest friend, then he willy-nilly begins to overwhelm a terrible feeling of loneliness, uselessness to anyone, bitter regret about the lost opportunity to communicate and abandonment.
The so-called green homesickness is also often mixed with feelings of loneliness. In a completely new setting and environment, people often do not find a social circle for themselves due to the difference in mentalities (especially abroad).
What are the types of longing
Simply put, sadness, bad mood, anxiety in the soul - this is melancholy. In psychology, there are different types of such a state of mind, depending on the causes. Below is a brief look at some of the varieties of this condition.
Longing for a loved one (love). More often this feeling arises because of unrequited love.
When a person knows and understands that they will never be together with a loved one, an incomparable terrible longing arises in his heart. This feeling can develop into depression or despair, whichit is difficult to heal unless the person himself wants to regain the joy of life.
Also, many people endure pain, an oppressive dreary feeling, disappointment and even despair when a loved one leaves for faraway places and for a long time.
Existential yearning. Such longing is the state of a person in the period of searching for the meaning of life. This usually happens at the moment of transition from one age category to another. After all, the old principles of life are already outdated, and new ones have not yet arisen. A person tries to analyze what he has achieved, what he managed to do in life. And if dreams diverge from the results or there is simply no feeling of satisfaction from everything done, a crisis arises, accompanied by existential longing.
Adrenal longing. What's this? If a person was actively involved in sports, social life, that is, he constantly worked on himself, and then found himself out of work, adrenaline longing arises. In this case, you definitely need to find a new occupation for yourself, but at the same time, it is possible to lower the bar of requirements.
There is another type of this kind of longing - the hangover syndrome. During this period, a person has a loss of control over emotions and a certain sense of guilt. As a rule, an alcoholic tries to get rid of longing without anyone's help with the use of another portion of alcohol. This is how binge happens.
Sickness for home, for the motherland. Often people have sadness, homesickness. This is due to the fact that there are no former friends nearby, that familiar environment. Another way of lifeother culture.
This feeling corrodes the soul. It killed many talented people who, for various reasons, emigrated from their country. Famous poets, writers, composers, artists, artists abroad lost their talent, gift and inspiration.
Longing for the past (past). This is one of the most common states of mind. It is very difficult to accept and realize that the past is irrevocable. Sadness, longing for this time is the cause of the corresponding painful experiences.
Vital anguish. This state of mind is characterized by depression, apathy, lack of interest in life for almost no reason. In addition, such longing can even be accompanied by pain in the chest and heart. Simply put, in this case, it’s like a stone in the soul. This is typical of people who are in the deepest depression.
Death longing. This is the most difficult psychological condition. He has thoughts of death or even suicide. This is a rather extreme state of apathy.
Russian melancholy. Accompanied by this feeling, which is one of the forms of depression, sad thoughts about the fate of the people and their homeland, feelings of impending bad events.
Winter melancholy. Especially in autumn, when there is little sunlight, the body lacks vitamins, it is difficult for a person to adapt to such environmental changes. As a result, sadness develops. This is another name for winter depression.
Reasons for longing
It is believed that the expression "longinggreen" arose among the landowners. One of the gentlemen all the time, going out onto his porch, saw nothing but a green landscape. As a result, he gradually began to yearn for a bright "living" life.
Here are some reasons for sadness and longing:
- decay after victories and defeats;
- a person does not know what to go forward for - the lack of meaning in life;
- getting into a certain comfort zone from which he sees no way out;
- the emergence of laziness, boredom, routine, apathy (at least one of these components is enough to provoke a terrible blues);
- restlessness of the soul (the conscience is burdened with something deeply contrary to its own internal attitudes).
All these reasons are primarily due to mental inaction or physical inaction. Worse when both are present.
Ways to get rid of boredom
- Be sure to do something (physical labor, sports, hobbies, intellectual activities).
- Strengthen the strength of the spirit (inner core).
- Determine the meaning of life. It will be better if there are several goals, because a possible failure in one direction can be compensated for by success in another.
- Do not allow stagnation in the soul. Laziness, boredom, apathy and routine should definitely be swept away.
- Find the strength to make peace with yourself. Any person can make mistakes that have the right to exist. Never regret what you did before, and try to love yourself.
Afterword
In any of the above cases, you can return a good mood and joy of life by contacting specialists. But it is important to remember that the results can be more effective if the person himself wants to return to his former normal state.
