Each of us quite often worries, thinking about something, thinking about any of our problems. We may even not notice our inner feelings - it's quite difficult to pay attention to the fact that inside you are worried about something, although you are trying not to show it.
In this article, you will learn why people worry so often, how they should deal with such emotions, and also why you should not waste time on this. So, we wish you a pleasant reading of this article!
Why do people worry?
Experience is something that has been instilled in us since childhood, even at that stage of our development, when we learned the norms of social behavior and tried to copy our parents and other adults around us in almost everything. And they, in turn, adopted this behavior from their parents.
From childhood, the idea arises in the child’s head that experience isa normal reaction to everything that one way or another excites a person. And already from this age, he begins to put this emotion into practice.
Experience is the same as the excitement that we experience while retelling a verse to Santa Claus at a children's matinee or at the moment when the teacher is thinking who to call to the blackboard. People begin to experience actively from childhood, because in their minds this is a normal reaction to what is happening around. Thus, this emotion accompanies us all our lives. Emotional experiences are what adults experience when applying for a job, going to the doctor and more.
Anxiety as an illusion of action
It is very convenient not to solve the problem itself, but only to worry about it. After all, along with this, an illusion of some kind of action is created. That is, we do not sit idly by. We ask someone for something. We constantly check what time it is. Clarifying something, trying to find information that, in fact, cannot help us at all.
Why are we doing this? Most likely, we are internally afraid to start the process of solving the problem. Or we are not going to solve the problem at all, because we think we are already working on it. But in fact, our actions are aimed not so much at a solution as at clarifying the details. It takes too much time and does not bring any benefit at all…
Why should you avoid experiencing?
Our experiences are feelings,which require a lot of energy. Over time, after serious long-term anxiety, a person may even face emotional exhaustion, which is a serious psychological problem and will lead to many other deteriorations. From this it turns out that by worrying about something, he not only cannot solve the problem, but also generates many others.
Besides this, man's experience is the killer of his own time. If you have not forgotten, then for our twenty-first century, time is the most precious thing that can be, because due to the huge movement around us, time passes quickly and there is very little of it left. It is worth generalizing that during experiences we spend precious minutes of our lives and our own vital energy, and in return we receive absolutely nothing. For this reason, it is worth drawing a logical conclusion that one should not worry about anything in vain. It is necessary to act. How to act? You will learn about this in the following subparagraphs of this article.
Find the source of your anxiety
To solve a problem, you need to understand what caused it. At first glance, it would seem that everything is so easy and simple. But not always. There are situations when a person feels his inner anxiety, but he cannot do anything about it, because he simply cannot understand why he is in such a state. Sit in a quiet and peaceful place, concentrating on your emotions and feelings. And start thinking about exactly what worries you so much. Ask yourself specificquestions, then listen to the sensations inside yourself and answer your question. But you should only answer the truth.
For example, let's take the following chain of thoughts of a girl who has an important performance in front of a large number of people. "I'm afraid to perform? No, this is not the first time I've done this, and I'm confident in my skills and preparation. Am I afraid of the big hall and the audience? No, I've been doing this for quite some time and, on the contrary, I like to see the audience in front of me, although every time I'm worried, like the first time. I'm worried about the new place where I have to perform?Actually, no, it's been a long time since I don't care where I perform, I don't pay attention to it at all. I'm scared because I've reached a new level? Not really. Of course, I'm worried about this, but this is more likely to please me than to worry. I'm worried that I will not have close people with me on this day? I don't need a whole group support, but … nevertheless, this thought touches me. I am offended that my young man will not be able to support me on such a day. Of course, he, as always, has good reasons for this. But for the umpteenth time he does not come to my performances. It seems to me that he is not at all interested in what I do. He probably does not i'm interesting. I think he has grown cold towards me. I think he got another woman. That's why I'm worried."
Create a clear action plan
After you understand what is causing your experience, pick up a piece of paper and a pen andwrite down anything you think would help you eliminate your anxiety. We continue to analyze the example of a girl who is going to perform and who thinks that her boyfriend is cheating on her. Let's say she wrote on her piece of paper that in order to stop thinking that her man is cheating on her, you need to check his contact list on your phone, look at the latest correspondence on social networks. networks, order a detective who will follow the man and tell her how he behaves with other women while she is not around, be alone with him for a while and observe how he will behave. To understand what he thinks about their joint future and whether he thinks about it at all. And in extreme cases, directly tell him about your suspicions.
Plan cleaning
Before you act according to your plan, you should carefully edit it. The girl should really look at the situation. She does not have the opportunity to hire a detective, because for this she does not have enough money. If you ask about a joint future, then, most likely, he will simply lie to her that he sees them together in ten years in a big house with two beautiful kids, a cat and a dog, sitting next to a warm fireplace. Most likely, he will say what she wants to hear. Therefore, these two paragraphs should be deleted. But the rest is quite feasible.
Go to action
Perform the items of your plan in order. Here the girl was convinced that there were no new contacts and strange correspondence in hisphone is not. I watched the guy's attitude towards myself - it has not changed, he remained all the same gentle and caring. But the matter did not come to a direct conversation, because the beloved reported the good news that he would be able to watch her performance. After that, all the experiences of the girl disappeared.
And that, perhaps, is all. Now you know what these emotions are - experiences, what to do and what not to do when you start to feel anxiety. Act according to these recommendations and do not worry about anything!
