Every day everything changes. Nothing stands still. Water flows away, trees grow, grass turns green and then turns yellow. The same is true of a person. Every day is a new image. Even if he doesn't notice it. A person never stands still, acquiring new features both in appearance and in character. The personality does not notice this, these changes occur unconsciously and, unfortunately, not always in a positive direction.
Transformation of personality as a psychological problem
In the course of life, a person faces many crisis moments. In these situations, he needs psychological support, during which they will provide assistance designed to ensure the choice of predictive models of interaction. To date, in psychological science, the question of personality transformation (in a progressive direction or vice versa) has become one of the most relevant. Many studies and dissertations are being written on this topic.
Psychological aspects of personality transformation in psychological science today are becoming very relevant. In the field of psychological knowledge, there isa large base of scientific and theoretical material on this problem (K. A. Abulkhanova-Slavskaya, L. I. Antsiferova, A. G. Asmolov, L. S. Vygotsky and others).
Psychologist help
Transformation is change. Change can be unconscious or conscious.
If a person decides to find himself, but does not know where to start, then he will need the help of a specialist. In the modern world, there is a large amount of online help from life coaches. There is a we alth of literature on the subject. And also today there is free online help from a psychologist.
The above types of help will help identify personal problems and get on the right track to solve them.
Something needs to change…
So, a person decided to transform his personality, where to start?
For a good work on oneself, knowledge of psychology is necessary. If a person who wants to change his life turns to a psychologist, then a whole course of consultations will be held with him, aimed at improving all areas of life. To do this, each psychologist will try to explain to the client the path to be taken - the method of personality transformation.
A competent specialist at the start of work will apply diagnostic methods. The content of the method will depend on the purpose for which the client came.
Psychological consultations
If a person wants changes, wants to improve his life, then he really needs a transformation of personality. How to become real, the psychologist will tell you. The process of psychological counseling isnot in order to reshape a person completely. The psychologist directs towards himself, a new way of life. At the same time, he does not aim to remake individuality, essence. A person after a course of work remains himself. But at the same time it becomes renewed, full of vitality and energy.
Psychotype of personality
If a client asks for help to find himself and his place in life, to improve his life in a particular niche, the psychologist offers him a package of diagnostic techniques. Among the techniques there are both complex and very simple ones that do not require additional explanations. The latter includes a test to determine the psychotype of personality.
The method allows you to determine who a person is:
- extrovert / introvert;
- sensor / intuitive;
- logic / ethics;
- rational / irrational.
A personality psychotype test will allow you to pave the way to another psychotype (desired) in the future.
There is the following selection of psychotypes from socionics:
| Yesenin | Dostoevsky | Huxley | Hamlet |
| Dumas | Dreiser | Napoleon | Hugo |
| Balzac | Robespierre | Don Quixote | Jack |
| Gabin | Maxim | Zhukov | Stirlitz |
Characteristics of mental processes
Mental processes are interconnected.
Characteristics of psychological processes:
- Intelligent processes. They determine the cognitive part of the human psyche.
- Emotional processes. With the help of them, a person shows his attitude towards others and himself.
- Volitional processes. All human activity is conditioned by them.
So how do all these complex mechanisms work? This problem puzzled Russian psychologists for a long time. The problem of mental processes was studied by V. G. Belinsky, A. I. Herzen, N. G. Chernyshevsky. Scientists, as expected at the end of the 19th century, approached the problem from a materialistic point of view. They considered mental processes as a side effect of the brain.
Their conclusions were confirmed and supplemented by the scientists of the 20th century - Sechenov and Pavlov.
Having discovered the second signaling system in people, I. P. Pavlov identified three main types of GNA.
These personality types are attributed only to humans.
- Artistic type (with a predominance of the first signal system). People vividly, figuratively perceive reality and feel confident in the environment.
- Thinking type (with predominance of the second signal system). People are indecisive, like to speculate, constantly doubt something.
- Medium type (with balance of the first and second signal systems).
It was these studies of Russian scientists that laid the foundation for diagnostic methods that promote personality transformation.
Some people try to change their personality through hypnosis and suggestion.
B. M. Bekhterev said that suggestion becomes possible only if it is possible to influence the subconscious of a person bypassing its critical component. Can a person change for the better without using thinking? Doubtful…
Full reboot
How to find yourself?
This question is for a person who is in a crisis situation or simply decides that life needs to be changed and it is necessary to start with yourself.
The most difficult thing is working on yourself. Psychology as an applied science is designed to help a person in these difficult moments of life.
The main stages in working on yourself
So, the psychologist launched the personality transformation mechanism, where to start working on yourself?
All psychological techniques are performed step by step.
At the first stage, you need to stock up on knowledge about the transformation of personality, about what a successful and spiritually developed person should be like. Where to begin? What are the possible errors in the course of work?
The second step is to analyze life and make important decisions to develop a new way of life. This can be either the introduction of a new positive habit (jogging in the morning, yoga, reading books in the evenings, getting up early), or the elimination of an old negative habit (smoking, consuming a lot of sweets, foul language, etc.) It is important to enter no more than two three habits in three weeks
- At the third stage, it is important to recharge your motivation. To do this, you can use auto-training, reading motivational literature, as well as grouptrainings.
- At the fourth stage, the very formation of the "New Me", a new image of personality with new habits and qualities takes place.
- At the fifth stage, all previously acquired qualities are consolidated and developed.
How to change yourself?
At the very first stage of personality transformation, some rules must be observed. Otherwise, dreams will not come true.
Motivation! There must be motivation, without it a person will not get off the ground
You need to have a passionate desire to find the real you, to change something in yourself. Motivation is the key to all future changes!
If a person complains about inappropriate conditions, workload, etc., then he simply lacks motivation.
You need to have clear, understandable goals
Very often people make a plan for their own transformation. Describing desires. But all these desires sound fuzzy. A person writes that he wants to lose weight, but the brain cannot fulfill his desire without a clear indication. The brain needs to know how much to lose weight, by what number.
What do we need to do for this? Clarification is necessary: "I want to lose weight by September 1 by 10 kg. That is, by September 1, I should weigh 55 kg." The brain will perceive such an instruction and build a clear algorithm in the subconscious.
How to get out of your comfort zone?
Everyone has a comfort zone. This is the place from which not everyone dares to leave. This is a place where in the evening a tired person, comfortably sitting in an armchair in front ofTV, drinking tea with sweets instead of going to the pool or the gym or just laying out a mat at home and doing yoga.
But personality transformation will not happen without certain sacrifices. It doesn't matter what a person wants to achieve, what matters is what he does to achieve it. I want to pump my brain - you need to read books instead of browsing social networks. I want to pump up the buttocks, which means I need to throw away the sandwich and run to the gym.
Everyone needs this comfort zone. Sometimes you need to return to it to restore spent resources. But it is worth remembering that, lingering in it longer than expected, a person risks losing what he has already acquired. And starting over is even harder.
The comfort zone is always left by people with great reluctance. In order to get out of it, you need to have a charge of motivation. Without motivation, in principle, no business will be brought to an end. A complete transformation of personality is a matter of life. This is a complete restructuring of the rhythm of life, the way of thinking.
In order to proceed with the method of personality transformation, which will be carried out by a psychologist, a person himself needs to have an understanding of why he is doing this. Does he really need it, and most importantly - to understand what the result will be at the finish line.
"Me" and "others"
When a person decides to make global changes in his life, to transform his own personality, for some reason he often looks back at others.
How are they? How about me? Why do they haveSo? Why is it wrong with me?
This is a wrong human habit. This is the mistake of our whole life. You can look back at others, but you can’t compare them with yourself.
Why does a person judge his success by comparing himself to his boss? Everything comes from childhood. Once upon a time, parents, learning about the success of their son at school, first of all asked: "How did the others cope with this work? How? They have fives, and you have a four? Fu, how bad." And they did not even try to compare this unfortunate boy with his own successes. But he has tremendously improved his knowledge over the past month. Our teachers, coaches, grandmothers, etc. did the same.
That was the wrong approach. But our parents, unfortunately, in those days were not savvy in psychological techniques and brought up as best they could. Of course, they wanted only the best for their child, they wanted to see him succeed. But they forgot about human individuality.
And now this boy has become an adult uncle. Now he is deputy. boss in a large office, but constantly thinks that he is not the boss. Constantly wants to jump above his head, forgetting about everything in the world.
This is also the wrong approach.
Starting the transformation of a personality, it is necessary to make sure that what the person aspires to will be for the benefit of his spiritual world. Does the person really want it? Will a person in a new image be in harmony with himself? If yes, then the path is correct. We need to move in this direction and not look back at someone else's path.
Otherwise, a person risks losing all hismotivation on the way to the goal. He will actually lose his target. Why move towards it if it contradicts our worldview? And it will be fair.
Positive thinking
Many people don't even know why they have so many problems in life. And the answer is on the surface. Most of our problems are our own. Seriously, it is.
You need to try to think positively, and the problems will go away by themselves. At least they won't look like problems, they will turn into little misunderstandings.
Most really successful people think positively. They are like a magnet for happiness. People who think negatively push everything good away from them.
There is a lot of talk these days about visualization. This concept is already firmly rooted in Western countries and is now smoothly merging into the Russian mentality.
Even without going into the essence of the programming of our consciousness, you can try to smile all the time and set yourself goals for success. Moreover, it is desirable to pronounce these goals in the affirmative, without a doubt. For example: "In four months, my income from copywriting will be 50,000 rubles a month. And in a year, my family and I will move into our own four-room house with a garden in the yard."
Everything! The brain is set for success. Now he will look for all kinds of loopholes to fulfill his plan.
But it is also worth remembering that water does not flow under a lying stone.
Stress management
We learned to think positively, now it's time to learn effective methods of dealing with stress.
Positive and also successfulA person is supposed to be able to keep their emotions in check. Yes, this transformation of personality is so difficult.
"How to become real and at the same time not release your own emotions?" - you ask. Why release them? In most cases, emotional outbursts interfere with our lives. For example, your boss scolded you for a mistake, and instead of remaining silent, you begin to make excuses, waving your arms wide and blushing. Is this behavior acceptable to management? Of course not. The boss would have liked it if you, after apologizing, did everything the way he wanted from the beginning. There is already talk about career growth and salary increases. And as you remember, the brain is frantically looking for all the options in order to reach the desired figure in rubles by the specified date.
Search for the right qualities in yourself
To really achieve success in personality transformation, a person needs to understand his character, temperament and identify qualities that will help in further spiritual and material growth.
For example:
- sociability;
- curiosity;
- smile;
- leading skills;
- love to be alone;
- hard work;
- creativity;
- good memory and others.
Having written a list of similar qualities that are inherent in you personally, try to write next to each of them how a specific personality characteristic can help you build a new image, achieve new goals.
Can the character be changed?
Modern psychologists have long been talking aboutthat the character of a person as a whole cannot be changed. The main personality traits are already manifested in childhood. But there are some personality traits that can and should be changed. It is not easy, but it is possible if you wish.
In positive psychology, there are some qualities that can be developed. These are qualities such as kindness and optimism. These features determine the attitude to the world, allow you to see the maximum number of positive moments in all situations, which means to act, work, and not whine. These qualities determine a person's behavior in ambiguous situations.
In the long run, developing a new character trait will help a person become the person they want to be. And in the short term, the very attempt to change yourself will be useful for spiritual development and willpower training.
Development
Transformation of personality in psychology is the development of all personal aspects. The occupation is not easy, and therefore the help of a psychologist may really be needed here. In some cases, a free consultation will not be enough and you will have to conduct a whole course with a coach. If some side does not develop, then the complete transformation will not happen.
Thus, for the full development of personality, a person will need to engage in the development of its individual components.
1st block is a person's beliefs (faith). It will be necessary to work out and remove negative beliefs from your life, and strengthen and strengthen positive ones.
2nd block isdevelopment of self-esteem. To work with this block, most likely, you will need the help of a paid life coach or the free help of a psychologist available to everyone. A specialist will help remove baseless pride and self-doubt, develop he althy self-esteem.
3rd block. Set the main goals in life, develop them.
4th block. The development of certain personal qualities, such as willpower, sincerity, optimism, responsibility, spiritual kindness and self-control. Delete cowardice, irresponsibility, weak will from your consciousness. These qualities are not suitable for a strong personality.
The 5th block is work on behavior, manner of speech, presentation of oneself (freely, effectively and with dignity). It is necessary to eliminate complexes and tightness.
Each block is worked out until the negative qualities are completely eliminated and the positive qualities are mastered.
Transformation of personality is a long, painstaking and difficult journey. You should remember what it was started for, maintain internal motivation and hold on to the end.
