You have been fooled?! Agree, an unpleasant feeling to be deceived. Is it possible to determine whether a person is telling the truth or lying? Of course you can, you even need to! There is a whole technique for detecting lies. You do not need to be a qualified psychologist or physiognomist. Behavior, facial expressions, gestures of a liar will give you the necessary truthful information. How to fix the obvious dissonance between “falsehood and truth” in time? Learning to trust not our ears, but our eyes.
Who usually tells lies?
Telling a lie to an interlocutor, deceiving him, a liar practically does not think about what visual signals he gives.
There is a fairly common expression: catch a lie. What does it mean? It means to expose, to reveal evidence of someone's guilt, to catch someone in a lie.
Modern psychology distinguishes the main four types of people who tend to tell lies.
- If a personwants to be smarter than the rest. Usually this type of people takes an active part in debates, discussions, proving to their opponents their great life experience and more than one higher education. In order to catch such a person in a lie, you just need to ask a few clarifying questions on the topic under discussion. The liar will respond in general, general phrases. Here's your first clue.
- The second type characterizes selfish people. Usually such liars say a lot of compliments. So he tries to "lull" the vigilance of the interlocutor, seeking selfish benefits for himself. Usually such people become scammers who deceive the gullible and naive. Sergei Mavrodi is a prime example of this.
- The third type of liars is the most interesting. This type includes people who have the ability to lie from birth. For them, this is art. They usually have great acting skills, so they quickly fool anyone.
- The fourth type of people are pathological liars. They are comfortable living in their own lies. They invent a fantastic life for themselves (confidant of the President, test pilot, dad - the Chief Judge of the city, etc.) Such people believe in fairy tales of their own composition so much that they get out of any uncomfortable situation.
These liars often have low social status.
Truth is on the left
How to convict a person of a lie? Look at his left side. Usually a person is outwardly quite tense, although he tries to hide it. From the point of view of neurophysiology, a personcan control the left half less than the right.
For example, if a person is a right-handed liar, then during the conversation he will gesticulate strenuously with his left hand. If the right hand is practically not involved in the case, then be completely sure that the person is lying.
Another inconsistency: the left side of the face is more active. The person is definitely insincere with you.
Lies on the tip of the nose
Own nose betrays what they say, us with giblets. If, when communicating with you, a person twitches the tip of his nose or takes it to the side, then think about the sincerity of his words.
If a person flares their nostrils, it means they don't really believe you.
The nose is quite sensitive to lies. You will want to scratch it in the very case when you are lying. In science, this fact is known as the "Pinocchio Effect".
And the lie is scientifically proven. Lying increases blood pressure. It affects the nasal mucosa. The hormone catecholamine is produced. After that, the stimulated blood pressure of the nerve endings is connected to the process of “giving out the truth”. Itching appears. Therefore, if the interlocutor rubs his nose, eyes or just touches them, he is dishonest with you. Moreover, this fact is scientifically confirmed.
Hands… where to? Gestures
The interlocutor in communication with you is trying to hide, put his hands in his pocket or just close his palms, then with some confidence we can say that he is hiding something from you. This factor is especially pronounced inchildren.
Hide your palms or open them the other way around - these features can be used against you even in a typical market. An experienced seller immediately pays attention to your palms if you refuse to buy something from him.
If you cover your mouth with your hand, then this is an external manifestation of the desire not to let it out, not to say too much.
If the interlocutor strains the muscles of the mouth, bites his lips, it means that he has already been caught in a lie.
Gestures cannot be trusted only if they are systemic, that is, a person constantly uses them.
Phrases - "talkers": verbal signs of a liar
“Honestly”… Do you hear it often? This is the number one phrase that will help to catch a lie. After pronouncing it, it is better to listen to what information will follow next.
Usually liars say formulaic phrases:
- You have to believe me.
- I'm telling the truth, you know me.
- Can I cheat? Never!
- I'm being honest with you.
The essence of deceit lies not even in what he says, but in how. The timbre and rhythm of the voice changes - this is a display of insincerity. If the interlocutor has long pauses, hitches and difficulties in pronouncing the next sentence, beware. His tone may change due to the fact that he cannot fully control himself. If the interlocutor speaks to you calmly and in a low voice, most likely he is telling the truth.
Gesturesadd to you information that in front of you is a liar. When gestures and words are inconsistent, think about the true intentions of a person.
If a person lies to you, his emotions may “rage”. Outwardly, it will resemble a sapper who walks through a minefield.
Pauses in speech. The attention of a liar is usually out of focus. He literally picks up the words that need to be "lie". In this case, long pauses of 5-10 seconds are formed. Pay close attention to how the person speaks to you.
Repeat your question. To gain some time, the liar will immediately repeat the question after you. Yes, it's a few seconds. But it usually takes a liar to come up with an answer.
One last thing: in a conversation, a liar will always talk about his innocence. Does the innocent have anything to justify?
Poses for conversation
Even posture during a conversation can catch a lie. For example, a person is in a tense, uncomfortable position, which is not typical for him. He crawls on a chair, tries to sit more comfortably - these are signs that the topic of conversation is unpleasant for him or he does not agree with your point of view.
Liars can lean on something or cross their legs. If a person is sincere with you, then his posture is quite comfortable and relaxed.
Eyes
A liar will never look you in the eye. Direct eye contact is his enemy, and yours is the salvation that will help to catch the interlocutor in a lie.
Most of his talkthe gaze will be directed to the surroundings, raised up and down, as if looking at something.
Facial expression
Liars with experience are not easily caught lying. Sometimes they "reprogram" their body language. For example, openly expressing boredom, yawning, using an open posture when speaking, and speaking slowly.
Liars usually have a fake smile. Thus, the liar will try to outwardly reduce distrust on your part. How to distinguish a sincere smile from a fake one? If a person smiles at you sincerely, then he will form small folds at the corners of his eyes - “crow's feet”. In the case of a fake smile, the liar uses only his mouth.
The liar will blink frequently. This is a manifestation of his excitement. Of course, if he has no problems with his eyes.
Facted surprise. When a sincere person is surprised, his eyebrows rise. If a person only creates the appearance of the joy of meeting you, then his intonation in his voice will only change.
How to bring a liar to clean water? Rules-const: don't fool me
Catch a lie as an interlocutor? Use effective methods:
- Take simple steps in conversation. Get into the same rhythm with him. Be on his wave. It will be harder for him to lie to you. At the same time, blaming the interlocutor for lying is not worth it. Better pretend you didn't hear this information. Let him repeat it for you. Usually, the information presented earlier and later does not match.
- Askdirect and leading questions. Connect your expressive facial expressions and gestures. It is they who will force the liars to react quickly. At the same time, questions must be asked in such a way that the liar has a feeling that he is caught in a lie, and you have already possessed all the information for a long time.
- When talking with a liar interlocutor, ask him for advice for a friend who is in an awkward situation: he is being lied to in the face. If you have a sincere person in front of you, he will help with advice on recognizing lies by changing gestures and facial expressions. He will tell what he knows. If the interlocutor has motives to deceive you, he will start to laugh it off and get nervous.
- Look at the liar's expression. His speech can start incoherently and end abruptly.
- There is little time between what is said and the emotion. Usually, in a sincere person, emotional coloring passes simultaneously with the spoken words.
- If the liar's facial expression doesn't match what he said, be sure he's lying.
- A slight grin or only facial muscles are involved in the expression of emotions, then he is definitely hiding something from you.
- Telling a lie, a person physically manifests it. Shrinks in a chair, trying to take up as little space as possible on the chair, clutching his arms and adopting an uncomfortable sitting position.
- A liar will always avoid your eyes (although this is not the case for pathological liars).
- The liar will constantly turn his body away from you, while tilting his head. Be aware - this is a sign of an unpleasant flow of conversation between you.
- In a conversation with you, a liar will betkind of "protection". For example, a napkin, a vase, a chair. So, he sets up his "defense".
- Ask for a story or information in reverse chronological order. Coming up with a story is half the trouble, but turning it upside down is difficult, it will turn out to be porridge. Try it yourself!
- In the questions we will find out as many details as possible. Usually liars don't pay attention to details. Therefore, find out as much as possible: what was the color, the object, the person, what they talked about - whatever.
- Be silent and show outward distrust. Drive the liar into a lot of stress. Literally tell him you don't believe him. At the same time, look closely into his eyes. Of course, the situation is unplanned for a liar. And it is at this moment that important details will be revealed.
To master the skill of recognizing a lie, you need to learn how to compare all the factors into one picture. The result is a cluster of tell-tale signs.
How to catch a man in a lie?
Lies are the beginning of problems in every couple's relationship. The main thing is that trust in a partner is lost. And it doesn't matter who first launched the mechanism of lies.
How to convict a husband of a lie? Frequently asked questions by women. Usually the spouse feels the deception intuitively, on a subconscious level. Typical Signs of a Liar Husband:
- does not make eye contact;
- actively touches parts of the face;
- if the conversation takes place in a crowded institution, for example, in a restaurant, then the man will create an invisible “defense” between himself and the interlocutor: a glass of wine, a dish of food, etc.;
- crosses his arms in front of him - a manifestation of unwillingness to let into personal space.
It is almost impossible to deceive a woman's intuition. Therefore, in order to justify suspicions, arrange an interrogation with predilections. Remember, the details are everything.
How did I catch my wife lying?
Men are still spies. The first "symptoms" of a lying wife:
- stops digging, jealous, bitchy and capricious;
- compliance will soon be replaced by anger - a sign of remorse;
- a man will be accused of treason - this is a kind of "protective" move forward;
- new friends will appear (as in that joke: Olenka means Kolya);
- frequent business trips;
- external manifestations: sparkle in the eyes (which happens only in a state of love), blush, new dresses;
- with an uncomfortable question, he will start to “swarm” in his purse or frantically look for something;
- very constrained in movements;
- nervousness - change of support from one foot to another;
- fixes clothes, shakes them up.
Eyes are the mirror of the soul and… truth. Look your wife closely in the eyes. If her eyes run around, she does not look at your face, then these are clear signs of a lie. Of course, some external manifestations are not enough, the fact of being caught in a lie is much stronger. Force her to tell the truth: Ask lots of clarifying questions.
Usually outgoing people lie - more extroverts than introverts. And gender has nothing to do with it. Women use lies to relax the interlocutor, and men - toassert itself. Lying is not an innate ability, but an acquired one. And a person begins to lie by the age of 3-4. Do you often lie?
