Memory is our life. If it were not for it, as I. M. Sechenov said, people would remain in the stage of infancy, they would live by instincts alone. It has always been a value. Even in ancient Greece, it was considered as a gift from God, the patroness of which was the goddess Mnemosyne. Often memory interferes, frightens, does not allow moving on. Learn how to get rid of this and more.
Freudian memory
He considered it the most important component of the human psyche, which determines personality. He put forward the theory of three types of memory:
- Conscious. Characterized by awareness of reality. That is, what is happening to a person at a given moment in time. This is a tactile sensation (book in hand), visual perception (what color it is), or gurgling in the stomach, and so on. Consciousness, in this case, is determined by what is heard, seen and felt.
- Preconscious. We are talking about memories that the individual is not aware of at the moment, butwhich, if desired, you can remember and activate, for example, driving a car, dates of birthdays and anniversaries.
- And unconscious. This memory is the most significant, includes experiences and memories that are not realized by a person, which sit deep in the memory, and access to them is limited. Freud believed that the unconscious bowl is filled with those images, pictures and feelings, that is, memories of the past that a person wants to forget.
Memories and the degree of awareness of them determine the personality of a person.
What is a memory?
This is a reproduction (from English) of pictures of the past cut off in time and space from autobiographical (episodic) memory. It cannot be attributed to the whole past. This is just a sensual part of it: feelings and experiences. Experience, thoughts and evaluations are not included here.
Memories are different: joyful and sad, bright and dark, good and evil. Of course, I want to return to sweet memorable events, because you can’t live in the past. Now we have a general idea of past memories. Memories of the future will become a further topic of conversation.
It's about deja vu
A mysterious and little-studied phenomenon, at the occurrence of which the present, past and future intersect. The person gets the feeling that it has already happened to him once. For some reason, our consciousness travels in the future, remembers something there, as a result of which, before the eventthere is confidence that we know what will happen, because we remember it from the past.
Every he althy person experiences it at least once in their life. What is it - a game of our imagination, fragments of memories, fragments of dreams, a mental disorder, or evidence that we are not living the first life? Or is this a misinterpretation of the timing of the event? There are many questions, but there is no reasonable answer. What if there is no time, and we can remember the future as well as the past?
Let's continue talking about mysticism
Let's talk about memories, past lives. There are many myths regarding this topic, but reincarnation has been proven by scientists.
"Science cannot bring absolutely reliable arguments against the idea of eternal return"
Albert Einstein's quote also confirms this. Ian Stevenson, a doctor of medicine from the USA, has devoted more than a dozen years to the study of past lives. He worked with children from Asia, who told him about memories, about the past. He was checking data that confirmed their story.
In Eastern culture there is no prohibition to talk about past lives, the idea that there is only one life is not promoted there. Therefore, they talk about it calmly. Another scientist, Michael Newton, proved the past life theory through hypnosis.
Can one learn to see?
Definitely. Special techniques and trainings will help in this. Moreover, scientists argue that children under five years of age have this property, memories of past lives are not closed to them. Forwhat do we know about them, you ask. It's simple - they contain the key to the future, or rather, to understanding what is happening to you in the present. Thanks to this, it is easier and faster to understand yourself than through childhood memories and an analysis of the comparison of situations within the same current life. We only remember the accumulated experience that we received in past lives.
Because you can see your talents and happy lives. Find out what you were good at, what made you successful and famous, how you achieved your goals, by what means, what kind of emotions you experienced at the same time. It is this state of inner upsurge of vitality that ensures the achievement of success. All this is really "re-living" again.
With the help of past lives, you can get answers to all your questions, understand why something does not work out, remove obstacles to achieving your goal. It is understanding and re-awareness of the problem that helps to get rid of it.
Is there any benefit to looking at past lives?
Of course, yes. This eliminates mechanical reactions. We use only 5% of the possibilities of the brain, and 95% are beyond our control, these are programs. That is, beliefs, hidden benefits, psychological characteristics, oaths, taboos, and so on, which a person has formed or given in past lives. And you can also get rid of fears.
What are the reasons for remembering the past?
A person quite often returns to past events, thinks, plunging into them. Those inin turn absorb. Obsessed with them, the individual causes harm to psychological and physical he alth. Here are the main situations that provoke it:
- Death of a loved one.
- Treason, parting with your beloved half.
- Unfulfillment in life, in particular, lack of demand in the profession.
- Change of residence (different district, city, country).
- Everyday monotonous life.
There are many reasons, but whatever they are, you can't look back, otherwise you will be doomed to constant failures.
There are some suggestions on how to deal with this
You can get rid of the memories of past years. Give advice:
- Review the past. It is necessary to forgive, admit the mistake and let go.
- Extract the errors.
- Use meditations and positive affirmations.
It also happens that a person understands and tries to get rid of the memories of past years, but nothing comes of it. Here the individual is either dishonest with himself, or there really is a deep-seated reason in the subconscious. Then it might be better to see a professional psychologist.
Now, here are the famous people's quotes
So, quotes about memories, about the past:
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- "Memory is the only paradise from which we cannot be expelled" (J. Richter).
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- "Memories are so ridiculous. Some of them are quite vague, others are absolutely clear, others are too painful, and you try not tothink about them, and some are so painful that they can never be forgotten” (A. McPartlin).
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- "Getting rid of memories is like stealing from yourself. Sometimes memories are all we have, and they taste sweeter than any fruit” (M. Brenton).
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- "The paths parted, the memories remained" (S. Yesenin).
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- "Memories are what make us grow old. The secret of eternal youth is the ability to forget” (Erich Maria Remarque).
So many sayings of famous people, and each one definitely has its own truth, because it is not for nothing that these phrases have become catchphrases. Memories of the past, in a word - the key to the future. Of course, you can’t live with them, but you can and even need to use them as an experience in order to avoid making mistakes.
How to get rid of torment?
The main thing is to understand that the past cannot be canceled and corrected, whatever it may be. Use it as a resource or experience. For example, before important negotiations, to cope with anxiety, remember the moments when you were successful.
Use bad memories of the past as an experience. Drawing a lesson from them, remember only about it, so as not to repeat previous mistakes. It's worth living in the present. It is at this moment that you can influence something and change the course of events. It is necessary to use and appreciate the past correctly, because the future will depend on it.
What should I do to not live in the past?
Let's consider the algorithm of actions, so:
- In case of loss of a loved one orparting, a person experiences the deepest depression, pain. Of course, it will not be possible to forget everything quickly, but it is necessary to try to reduce this time. The main thing is to stop blaming yourself for this, to understand, to give assessments.
- As weird and silly as it sounds, take the time to experience. Let it be, for example, a week, two or three, a month. Throw out your emotions as you like, only without harming others, and then pull yourself together and let go of the situation in the past.
- You can commemorate this event with a tea party or a feast. The main thing is to decide for yourself that there is no more pain. You are starting a new life.
- Don't go back to the past. As soon as it starts to tighten again, switch. Let's say you come up with your own fairy-tale world, town or village, where you will feel comfortable and calm, and return there.
- Improve yourself. Engage in a hobby or hobby. Go deep into the profession, improve your skills.
- Cheer up your mood. Remember yourself in your youth, when you were full of strength and confidence. Transfer that energy to the present, start a new communication, get to know each other, enjoy life.
Focus exclusively on good memories, if not yet, focus on vivid dreams. Of course, it is very difficult to learn to let go of the situation, to forgive offenders and yourself, not to cling to the past. But you have to try. The past should only serve as an invaluable experience, and not become a source of trouble and bad mood.
