From the very first moments of birth, a huge stream of information falls upon a tiny creature that came into this world. And the little man perceives it with all senses. After some time, a small subject learns to systematize the information received, from which the first impressions of the environment are formed. But a whole life would not be enough for the emerging consciousness to cognize the vast world alone. Therefore, soon the baby enters into communication with other people, learning to perceive the information they have accumulated, listening to their conversations and receiving advice. And only after many years, the grown-up subject begins to form his own opinion about the environment. This serves as proof that he is developing as a person.
Stages of knowledge
Who should a child listen to if not their own parents. Moreover, they, as a rule, always want only good for their beloved children. But it happens that the opinion of even the closest people is not just expressed to the growing son or daughter, butimposed. In some cases, this happens in a veiled way, but it can also take the form of frank dictatorship.
Not all parents want to understand that the child has the right to his own opinion. But even without perceiving him as a person, relatives do not want evil. They simply think they know better what to do in this or that case.
A child's worldview is a fickle thing. It most often changes over time under the influence of accumulated experience. This, in fact, reflects the stages of cognition of the surrounding world.
Learn from your own mistakes
Many young people believe that doing everything by the rules is a guarantee that nothing bad will ever happen to you. However, life destroys their stereotypes. Others, on the contrary, try to act contrary to everything, seeking the right to do as they see fit. They crush dogmas and ridicule established truths. Sometimes this contributes to progress, but often ends in tragedy.
You have to pay for mistakes and sometimes - extremely cruelly. By imposing their own opinion on children, parents want to protect them from disappointment and pain. But one thing they do not want to understand is that life experience is often formed precisely on mistakes. Otherwise, their child will never take place as a person.
Dependence on someone else's opinion
You have to listen to the opinions of others, because human life is too short, and the experience of ancestors and contemporaries is simply necessary to do something worthwhile in your lifetime. You can't judge everything by yourself. HoweverIs every opinion worth listening to, and does every piece of advice contain valuable information? If parents, sharing their opinions and wishing only good, are mistaken, then there are often people who give advice out of bad intentions.
Some listen to the opinion of only reputable, proven mentors. But there are those for whom any sideways glance, sharp remark, insulting remark is already a tragedy. Those representatives of the human race who are able to adequately and soberly respond to such things, without moral throwing and internal torment, can already consider themselves self-sufficient and independent people. Therefore, when others are slandering, there is only one piece of advice that can be given: have your own opinion.
Should you follow the crowd?
It is easier for most of the representatives of the human race to perceive what is generally accepted, verified, popular than to find their own answers to questions that arise in life. In order not to seem stupid, not to become an object of censure in society and criticism of others, people hide true feelings, do not give way to secret thoughts. They do not dare to openly express their opinions. But if you constantly shut the mouth of the inner "I", how then to bring your ideas into the world and leave a mark in this Universe?
Besides, if from birth you do not live with your own mind, then this contributes to the development of indecision and self-doubt. And all this for the "vultures" of this world serves as a signal to attack. After all, it is customary to “eat” the weaklings in the herd of “predators” first.
Continuous self-education
Forming your own opinion is not something that ends at a certain point and then miraculously freezes in place. This process, like our life, is in constant motion. Moreover, it can be called a tool of knowledge. And education serves as food for him. But learning by itself is nothing without constant self-improvement.
Personal opinion can be formed from facts once heard and read somewhere. But it is much better if all this is confirmed by one's own experience. Knowledge accumulated by others is best tested in practice. And then questions about whose advice you should listen to will disappear by themselves.
Influence others
When a person does not have his own opinion, he already gives others a reason to manipulate him. Desires, dreams and impulses remain unfulfilled. Life passes, and looking back at the path traveled, a person is able to see only the once missed opportunities. For others, such a subject remains nothing more than an empty place. No one will take such personalities seriously.
Personal opinion is simply necessary to be aware of yourself and your place in society, even just to remain human. Such people begin to do what others are actually unable to do. They follow bright personalities, equal them and try to be like them. If something unique, strictly individual does not exist in a person -own "I", then, in fact, it turns out that he has no reason to live.
