Have you come across people with whom communication seemed annoyingly boring? Congratulations, you know the common bore. It's not uncommon - they're everywhere. There are many smart people among them, which is very disappointing. After all, if such an intellect, yes, for the benefit of a person … But alas, the word "bore" has to be pronounced very often, characterizing annoying, boring people.
Why is that?
What are the reasons for this behavior? The most common reason is poor communication skills. This often appears in people whose parents solved all problems and admired remarkable intelligence. As a result, people learned to talk in detail and in detail, but there was no need for others - therefore, there was no need to communicate. And it was not necessary to take into account other people's needs. So, parents of smart kids, beware! And try to create situations where your child cannot cope without someone else's help, so that he or she is forced to resort to interaction with others. A bore is a person who does not know how to cooperate.
Math didn't go unnoticed
Another such dishonorable title is given to people who simply do not have communication skills. Funny thing is, they seem smarter than they really are. Their knowledge base is not so great, but they talk about their hobbies in such detail and … boring that they seem to be knowledgeable. Ever since the days of unsuccessful math lessons, there is a bunch in the minds of some: if it's boring, then the conversation is smart. Helping such a person is more difficult than helping a really smart bore.
Training works
If a boring person sticks to you, try to raise him like Pavlov's dog. That is, do not react to boring remarks at all. As if they hadn't heard. Over time, he or she will realize that certain topics do not suit you, and others will begin to discuss. Or, in general, they will find other “free ears” for themselves in order to “ride” them, which was required by the condition of the problem. You will not have to go into open conflict, but drive the bore away from yourself.
How to make life easier for yourself with him
A bore is always a hidden pain. After all, he is usually not stupid and sees that people feel bad for him. And few people want to be constantly fenced off from others, as if by a wall. Therefore, tediousness can be cured if such a person is dear to you and he himself wants it. You need to encourage conversations on interesting topics, slip light books to the bore, openly explain that you do not want to discuss certain issues. If the relationship is close enough, the tactic will soon work.
Understand the reasons
A smart boring person often deifies clarity. Clarity, as a terrible bore understands it, does not exclude the well-known. That is, they will tell you for the twenty-fifth time that "Volga - it still flows into the Caspian Sea." Try to understand what makes a person behave inappropriately - a real obsession with a topic or the fact that he is trying to come up with topics for conversation, but it does not work out. Maybe you can plant an alternative for him.
Nerd is almost a lifelong diagnosis. Or maybe it's not worth torturing a person? What you are not interested in, another may be quite necessary. And the bore for you can satisfy your need to be understood by others.
