Probably, everyone at least once in their life had an emotional emptiness, when everything falls out of hand and negative thoughts arise. The publication will tell you what to do if life is tired, what recommendations psychologists give in such cases, and why such a condition occurs at all.
Symptoms of depression
The following signs indicate that life is tired:
- Negative emotions prevail (irritability, longing, fear) or complete indifference to everything.
- Lost sense in any actions.
- Constant boredom.
- The world is seen in shades of gray.
- Difficulty concentrating, focusing and thinking about something.
- Do not please your favorite activities and hobbies.
- No desire to communicate with people.
- Lack of interest in intimacy.
- Physical weakness and discomfort in the body.
- Easy fatigue, drowsiness, insomnia or poor sleep with nightmares.
- Reluctance to get out of bed in the morning.
- The emergence of suicidal thoughts.
If there are several points, then we can talk about a state of apathy. If most of the points are present, and they have been observed for more than two weeks, then this is a real depression that can develop into a protracted one.
What threatens ignoring life fatigue?
If nothing is done, then in advanced cases, the usual state, when problems and life are tired, can develop into a neurotic disorder or a disease associated with psychosomatics. If you are in a depressed state for a very long time, then depression begins, which in some cases leads to suicide. This does not mean that any emotionally devastated soul is doomed to death. At best, there will simply be suicidal tendencies that do not lead to a desire to die. An apathetic state brings a lot of inconvenience and spoils a good life. Because of him, you can’t work normally, communicate, do your usual things, your favorite hobbies and just be happy. To bring pleasure back to life, it is necessary to fight a depressed state. First you need to understand why life is boring. Only by establishing the cause can the problem be solved.
Causes of an apathetic state and recommendations of psychologists
As a rule, one of four reasons leads to fatigue from life. In rare cases - all together. They are as follows:
Stress. Is the most common source of this negative feeling. When faced with a stressful situation, a person usually feelsdepression and helplessness, as if it is being stretched in different directions. In such cases, psychologists advise to try to get rid of the source of experiences and add variety to life
"Black stripe". Sometimes in life there are such moments when one misfortune comes after another. Then it begins to seem that no methods are already working, no matter how hard you try. This may contribute to the loss of hope for improvement. Because of this, there is a feeling of fatigue from being. As experts say, such moments just need to be experienced, endured. If possible, you should try to solve the problems that arise and please yourself with something
Unfulfilled hopes and expectations. Probably everyone wants to become someone, do something or get something. Over time, the understanding comes that it is impossible to achieve your goal and everything does not go as in dreams. For example, you can’t start your own business, you don’t like your current job, you are tired of family life. If something does not suit you, psychologists recommend starting to change it or adjust your view of these things
Depression. This condition, as a rule, arises from an excessively strong experience. For example, a divorce, an unexpected loss of a job, the death of a loved one, domestic violence, a serious illness. Usually, depression cannot be de alt with on its own, so at the first sign of it, you should immediately contact a competent specialist
When the cause is established, you need to start by eliminating it. This can help the recommendations of psychologists and life advice of simpleof people. This will be discussed further.
Relieve stressors
Work, fulfillment, relationships with family, friends and partners are areas that most often lead to stress. These sources of negative emotions are best eliminated immediately. It is clear that it is unlikely that it will be possible to completely say goodbye to them, but you can reduce the negative.
It's not easy to make the decision to change, but it's a must. They form character, temper and develop. "Tired of life! What to do?" - clients ask psychologists. Experts recommend taking matters into your own hands and starting to change it.
If you don't like the job, you need to find another one. Let it bring less money, but the nerves will remain intact. Husband beats? So it is better to leave him than to endure such an attitude. No courage to move from your parents? But if this is done, it will not be necessary to constantly endure humiliation from them and comparisons with older children. The situations may be different. The main thing is to start doing something and change your life.
Change of scenery
Almost all people get bored with the monotonous life. Everything is already familiar and known, so it begins to seem that nothing new will happen. There will be no prospects, and the future will not get better. This is where personal dissatisfaction with life comes from. In such cases, psychologists recommend a change of scenery in order to relax, get new impressions and recharge with positive emotions. This is very sound advice. By following it, you can noticeably improve your mood.
If you can take a break from work, you can go on a trip. But time should not be spent within the walls of the hotel. It would be a great idea to visit natural beauties (deserts, mountains, steppes, jungles), castles, palaces or unique national holidays (Venice Carnival, German Oktoberfest, Hindu Holi - the festival of colors) with an experienced guide.
If there are no extra finances, it is not necessary to go on an expensive trip. You can visit local history, art museums, souvenir antique shops, national gardens, parks within the city. Yes, elementary - go to the beach, to the cinema, swimming pool, bowling and other entertainment venues. The main thing is to visit a new place.
Change the daily routine
If everything is tired, it is simply necessary to change your life. The vicious circle "work - home" does not bode well. Even if you really like the profession, and everything is fine in the family, it is still advisable to periodically change your activities. You can try to use the day differently. First you need to start a diary. In it every day you need to write down all your actions and the time when they begin and end. Psychologists recommend keeping a diary for at least a week. So you can more effectively analyze how much time and what it takes. After that, you need to ask yourself some important questions. What changes would you like to make to your day? What actions are effective and what are not? What takes up too much time, and what can be completely abandoned? Depending on theanswers need to change your routine.
For example, you can change your sleep patterns to accommodate jet lag, determine the most convenient time for eating, plan ahead for shopping, watch less TV and surf the Internet so that you have time to do something else. The day will become more varied if you set aside hours or a few minutes for regular walks, visits to circles, museums or entertainment venues. It is useful to allocate half an hour every day, which will be spent exclusively on yourself. It may be advisable to rethink the way you travel and get to work not by car or bus, but by bike or on foot. This is useful and in some cases much faster.
That is, in order to avoid the thought that you are tired of the gray life, you need to get rid of the routine, reduce the negative and add more effective rest to the routine. If several points are incompatible with working hours, a compromise is quite possible to find. If it is not possible to organize even half of the planned changes, then this is a serious reason to think about changing jobs. Do we work to live, or do we live to work?
Get off the internet and mobile phone
Sometimes, even for a day, it is enough not to use these achievements of civilization to come to your senses and forget that everything is tired. How to bring yourself back to life? Psychologists give an elementary recommendation: turn off the phone and do not go online (in various social networks, do not read e-mail, and so on). This is especially useful if friends andrelatives constantly pester with their negativity or begin to communicate if they want to boast of some kind of joy and demonstrate how well their life is going. In order not to upset yourself once again, it is enough to avoid such unpleasant dialogues.
This is especially true for social networks, in which you start looking at photos of happy and successful people and comparing them with your seemingly worthless life. If such a pastime is frustrating, then it is better to refuse it altogether.
Do volunteer work
Starting to help others is a great idea when you need to find some meaning if life is boring. You can become a volunteer in a boarding school for the elderly, an orphanage, an animal shelter, and so on. Some recommend helping their relatives and friends in some matters. People will be grateful and remember responsiveness, not social status. When you do such good deeds, you immediately want to live. You understand that everything is not in vain, and you feel your importance.
Find your favorite thing
If life is tired, then there is no adorable work, because of which one would like to live. Therefore, you need to find your purpose, your favorite thing. Those who have it do not have negative thoughts, psychological and physical problems. If you have an entrepreneurial vein, then you need to try and experiment. Then there will be not only money, but also success, happiness, the meaning of life and the opportunity to give others happiness.
Find hobbies and passions
Need urgentlymake a difference if life is boring. What to do to avoid negative thoughts? To do this, you need to do something so that there is no time left for stupidity. It can be any hobby. If you don’t have a favorite hobby yet, then this is a great opportunity to try yourself in various industries. Drawing, embroidery, clay modeling, wood carving, hunting, fishing - anything, as long as it is interesting and enjoyable. Statistics show that people with hobbies are the least depressed.
Get a pet
Who, if not the smaller brothers, are able to cheer up a person and constantly please him? Pets really prolong life and fill it with meaning, so it will never get bored. It is more pleasant to return home when you know that you are expected there. But it is worth taking a responsible approach to such an important decision and the choice of an animal. Some pets will definitely please, while others will only cause trouble. Therefore, it is important to study in detail all the information about the breed before starting it.
Pets can be birds, fish, turtles and other animals that can calm the nervous system. But practice shows that the happiest people are those who took a dog or cat into the house. And some give birth to both of them for complete harmony. These fluffy animals charge a person with energy, he alth, make him more active, confident, sociable, responsible, independent and optimistic.
It is important to think a hundred times before getting a pet. This is a very important decision! FROMbuying an animal can bring not only positive emotions, but also a lot of trouble.
Contact a psychologist
If nothing has been working out for a long time, and absolutely everything in life is tired, then this is a reason to go for a consultation with a psychologist. It will help you look at things differently and find ways out of the current situation. Especially do not hesitate if there are all signs of depression. If it is prolonged, it is much more difficult to get out of it. Left unattended, depression can lead to suicide.
Results
If life is tired, then this is not a reason to despair. There are many ways to cheer up and put your nerves in order. The main thing is to be active and start changing lives today!
