The problem of male alcoholism is incredibly relevant today. Two-thirds of Russian families suffer from an abnormal love of the head of the family for a poisonous drink, suffering and sometimes experiencing entire tragedies because of this. But why do men drink? What tempts them so much in this poison and makes them use it again and again? Why do men drink alcohol as often as they eat? And due to what it becomes the norm for them - daily drinking?
Psychological factor
In fact, there are many reasons for male drunkenness. Family troubles, problems at work, roots from childhood, Russian tradition, a method of relaxation - a lot of all kinds of prerequisites serve as a kind of excuse for men to drain a mug of cold strong beer in the morning. And the most common reasonthis has a psychological connotation. Why does a man start drinking?
- He grows up in a family where his father, and sometimes his mother, often abused alcohol. Often this serves as a starting point in the mind of a man, as if dictating to him the “normality” of this process. Childhood trauma and improper upbringing leave a deep imprint on the morality and worldview of such a young person. We can say, on the one hand, it is not his fault that he grew up like that. But that's why a person is considered a personality because he forms himself, creates himself, relying only on his own opinion and not succumbing to the influence of the surrounding society.
- He gets away from problems this way. Why does the man drink? The psychology of his consciousness is arranged in such a way that if the solution to the problem is not found by itself, then it needs to be urgently dulled, drowned out, “washed down” with something urgently. When troubles and worries that have piled up fall on a man like a snowball and do not find a quick resolution to the situation, it is easier for him to cope with this by missing a few glasses of strong alcohol.
- He is emotionally unstable, and his internal experiences tearing apart require a splash out. Since childhood, representatives of the stronger half are dictated by the conditions of behavior: men do not cry, men do not hysteria, men do not tend to get emotional. But the accumulated experiences do not go away, and stress resistance is subjected to constant attacks from external influences and life's troubles.
Altered Consciousness Addiction
ButThere are those who simply like the state of alcoholic intoxication. They don't think it's alcoholism. They do not believe that this addiction should be eliminated. Why do men drink? Because they love it. I like that it lifts my spirits. I like that all the problems that so oppress them sober are forgotten at once. I like to experience euphoria from the state of altered consciousness. This stage of alcoholism is one of the most terrible, because a person does not understand that such alcohol abuse is a vice. In this position, men are unable to adequately assess their dependence on the poisonous green snake, continuing to revel in their favorite drug.
Men's tradition
Some of the men prefer to drink simply because this is how modern society works: watching a football match on TV must be accompanied by a few glasses of cold fresh beer, a Friday night cannot be spent in a pub with friends over a couple of glasses of whiskey and weekends are just for relaxing and drinking. Why do men drink? Because this is a stereotype of modernity, so to speak, "a man is not a man if he does not prefer intoxicating things." And this is actually even scary: today a young person who does not use is not called normal, as it should be, but, on the contrary, is considered somehow inadequate, an outcast, a representative of almost another world. Like, how do you live if you don't drink? Are you made of iron?
A way to relax and relieve stress
If a man drinks in the family, why is this happening? After all, he has a wife, has beloved children, for a good family man this is the most important thing. That's exactly what is for "good". Statistics show that every day the percentage of the drinking population is increasing, and mostly they are men who are married and have children. But why is this happening? Often men justify themselves with the following reasons for their binge behavior:
- alcohol as a means of getting rid of stress: quarrels at home with his wife and turmoil at work young people are used to drinking and not solving the problem in a normal way;
- alcohol as an opportunity to relax: hard work and various kinds of overwork are easier to endure for men when they drink to the bottle;
- drinking with friends as a way of life when it becomes a habit: work off a shift, go to a pub on the way home and “take your soul away” with “colleagues in the entertainment process.”
Cure for depression
Why do men drink when they feel bad? The answer is simple: this is how they cope with their experiences, suffering, unrequited feelings. If this is not alcohol, then other psychotropic and narcotic substances come to the rescue, and here you still need to think about what is worse. But in this case, the proverb “choose the best of two evils” does not fit. After all, washing down your troubles is absolutely not a way out. Often there are cases when quite decent, hardworking,an adequate man began to drink. Why? In view of what is happening such a plan of personal degradation? There is a list of the most common reasons for this:
- breaking up with the woman you love;
- depressed due to loss of financial independence and stability;
- physical incapacity due to an accident, catastrophe, injury and, as a result, disability;
- loss of a loved one due to his death.
In the case of a young person drinking due to psychological trauma, only the attention, care and help of loved ones can affect his recovery.
Symptomatics of male alcoholism
Despite drunkenness, it is not always easy for a man to be convicted of alcoholism. Many women take their husband's occasional drinking just like he does - as a means to relax after a hard day's work. But everyone should understand that this is not just the “first bell”, it’s just a ringing bell that you need to stop such a plan of “rest” and “removal of the soul”, because sooner or later it will definitely develop into even more frequent and prolonged processes of intoxication. How to recognize an alcoholic in a husband?
- The frequency of acts of drinking exceeds two or three times a month.
- A young man is less and less likely to need a reason to take forbidden liquor to his soul - he drinks on holidays and on weekdays.
- The guy pays less and less attention to his appearance and becomes more sloppy: he can goto work unshaven, in yesterday's dirty shirt, with a fetid smell of "fumes" in his mouth.
- A man begins to abuse, even despite the working day, working hours and his "drunk" state at work.
- The next morning, instead of gag reflexes in the process of withdrawal symptoms, the young man is happy to knock over 0.5 beer as a "hangover".
Consultations of psychologists
And yet, why do men drink alcohol? Psychology explains the behavioral model of a young person of this kind as a vital necessity that has developed in his mind as a stereotype. People are used to living like this, they are used to experiencing their bitterness and their joys in this way. They drink on holidays and in misfortune, because of the birth of a son and on the occasion of the death of a father, with or without reason. This is not only a physical dependence, but also a psychological one. And its significance is actually global. The worst part is that most alcoholics won't even admit that they are alcoholics because they don't really consider themselves to be.
Treatment and help from relatives
Eliminate such a vice, a malicious habit, harmful gluttony can only be a complex of medical measures in conjunction with the invaluable support of relatives and friends of a man who drinks:
- this is also treatment in a stationary sobering-up clinic;
- this is also a psychological lock;
- this and regular helpsurrounding concentration of a young man in the face of his wife, children, parents.
