Naive - is it an insult or tenderness?

2024 Author: Miguel Ramacey | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 06:11

If you asked yourself this question, it means that you have a “suspect” in mind or someone labeled you “naive”. It happens to almost everyone at some point in life. So you are not alone. Another question: how to treat such a statement? Maybe you should be offended? Or be glad that someone admires you?

Of course, a lot depends on the context and intonation of the speaker. If the word “naive” is accompanied by offensive nouns and a defiant tone, then there is no doubt: they wanted to offend you. How to proceed in this case? In no case do not be offended! First, it turns out that the goal of the enemy is achieved. Secondly, we still need to figure out what “naive” means.

Another situation arises when neither intonation nor tone of the speaker can determine what meaning he puts into the epithet "naive". Whether it was a regret about the irretrievable loss of one's own positive outlook on life or one's spontaneity is hard to say. Perhaps, for him, “naive” is stupid. Then he is no longer interested in you as a person.

And even though all these situations are different, they are united by the fact that the "namers" have invested a certain, albeitopposite, meaning in the concept of "naive". It turns out that they have no doubts about the meaning of the word. Therefore, you should not strive to change their point of view if you do not like it. So you save your nerves and time. But you need to define your own view, and urgently. This will help you act appropriately in any such situation.

If you call yourself naive, it turns out that life gave you a not very pleasant (and frankly, quite bad) surprise that opened your eyes to the truth. And here you are in confusion: how to treat your own gullibility - as idiocy or holiness?

First of all, calm down. Since you are thinking about the meaning of what is happening, it means that you are not a stupid person, but quite sane. What's the catch? Naive - what does it mean: good or bad? Neither one nor the other. It means normal, natural.

Naivety is like a mosaic inclusion of childhood into the complex pattern of adult life. Too bad if they don't exist. It turns out that the person is old at heart and has little reason for optimism. Because such a person looks at everything through the prism of distrust, and there are few good people on her way. One can only feel sorry for the offender.

If you yourself passed the verdict of naivety, well, most likely, you will not step on this rake. You will not be fooled in this way, and you will treat people with more caution. Definitely, there is a positive side to this. Just don't get mad andconsider the whole world hostile. Leave room for trust, but sincere people.

If there is a person next to you who is being deceived, and you consider him naive, but you can’t open your eyes, you will have to be patient. Indeed, it hurts to look at a friend in love who does not want to notice the changes. However, by and large - this is the business of those two. Not yours. You will have the right to give advice when she asks about it herself. Then about everything that you think, be honest. The choice: accept the situation or hide your head in the sand - will remain with her.