An attentive person will not disregard the sensual experiences of another. Why? Because experiences, or excitement, are behaviors that go beyond the usual. Therefore, at all times people have been interested in recognizing the signs of such sensations and their causes. Since ancient times, mankind has invented various ways to find out that a person is worried. To better understand the topic, you need to understand why we all get a wave of unpleasant feelings from time to time.
Why are we worried?
There can be many reasons for excitement. This can be a period of acute love, when one thought about the subject of love makes the heart beat faster. A person is acutely experiencing the expectation of a meeting with the object of love, and when meeting with him, the excitement, as they say, can go off scale.
Or a person can worry in anticipation of the unknown - for example, before meeting a stranger or before an event that goes beyond the ordinary. This feeling can be pleasant(for example, waiting for the moment of marriage or the wedding night) or unpleasant (for example, waiting for a flight on an airplane, if you are basically afraid of heights).
Often a person gets worried when they do wrong or tell lies. However, many people experience a sense of anxiety even when they need to defend their innocence. How to understand where one is, where is another, and in general, how do you determine that a person is very worried?
What do these signs have in common?
If we combine all these cases, we can conclude that excitement overtakes us in those moments when we are not confident in ourselves. Therefore, it has always been important for human relationships to understand the cause of this feeling, whether it be your own or a manifestation of another person's anxiety.
In that case, if someone behaves differently, how do you determine that the person is very worried?
This question has always bothered humanity
One of the reasons a person gets excited is a lie. Therefore, since the first human communities began to form, it has become extremely important to identify lies. Why? In the Bible, the enemy of God, Satan, is called the father, that is, the progenitor of lies (the word "Satan" is translated as "adversary", and the second well-known nickname of this spiritual person is "devil", "slanderer"). Therefore, it was important for the first people on earth to identify those who did not live according to the laws of God, but according to the laws of his opponent and slanderer, because such people necessarily became criminals.
That is why the first statesmen of human society were not presidents or even kings, but judges.
One way to identify a criminal is to look for signs of agitation. For example, how do you determine that a person is very worried, visually? His mouth tends to dry out, his face turns red, and his hands tremble.
In ancient times, for example, in ancient China, a person suspected of lying was given a handful of dry rice in his mouth at the time of reading the accusation. If the rice remained dry at the end of the reading, it was declared guilty. And in Africa, suspects in a crime had to pass each other (while the judge told the audience the essence of the crime) a fragile bird's egg. It was believed that the guilty, being unable to cope with his excitement, inevitably crushed the eggshell in his palms.
Then, and now, excitement was an indirect sign of a crime committed.
How to identify excitement by external signs?
This question has always been relevant. If we want to understand ourselves and our neighbor, we want to understand the reason for our own and the other person's agitation. And for this we must first determine the moment when our spirit begins to disturb something. Then we will understand why a person is worried. For an attentive interlocutor, everything is extremely transparent.
- The first obvious sign of excitement is rapid breathing and often reddening of the skin of the face. At the moment this feeling arises, a person experiences acute internal discomfort, which causesexternal manifestations: by rapid breathing, the body tries to eliminate the lack of oxygen caused by a more frequent heartbeat, and the face turns red for the same reason - due to increased blood flow. By the way, nostrils often swell due to rapid breathing.
- The person often blinks or squints their eyes. As an option - the so-called "shifting eyes". This is due to the fact that, having lost control over their emotions, a person cannot focus on something specific - a conversation, an act.
- Due to dry mouth (the ancient Chinese were right!), lips also dry. Therefore, a person often licks or bites them.
- We all know that a person can tremble with fear. Nervous trembling is a clear sign of excitement.
- Sweat often appears above the upper lip or on the forehead. Increased sweating is a reaction of some hormones to the increased activity of others.
- Trying to hide the excitement, a person is exaggeratedly focused on some insignificant work of the hands - twirls the ring on his finger, pulls the edge of the clothes, etc. Or, on the contrary, does it completely unconsciously.
How to identify excitement by voice?
Since anxiety is an internal discomfort associated with the fact that a person is temporarily out of his usual way of life, he is given out by signs that are difficult to control by will. How do you determine that a person is worried by his voice? The answer is simple: for any changes in the voice. It can be a tremor, a change in timbre, all associated with the same dry mouth. itthere may be a change in the tempo of speech. For example, a person begins to speak more slowly, because, trying to cope with excitement, he focuses on thinking over phrases. But more often he talks incessantly and speaks outright nonsense. And if you hear her, there are no other signs of how to understand that a person is worried.
Often, trying to cope with excitement and control his speech, a person speaks through his teeth.
Still keep in mind: all of the above does not always mean excitement
Firstly, insecure and shy people almost always experience symptoms of anxiety: their face turns red, their mouth dries, their hands sweat and their voice trembles. But after you determine that a person is very worried, and tell him about it, you will be very surprised. Because only then you will see what real excitement is. Insecure people are completely lost when they are told about the external manifestations of their feelings.
Secondly, anxiety as a temporary state is on a par with anxiety, and to understand where one ends and the second begins is often beyond the power of even experienced psychologists.
