Probably, each of us has heard the word "decency" many times. But hardly anyone seriously thought about its meaning. Let's talk about who a decent person is, what qualities he should have.
Who is this?
Psychologists say that a decent person is one who lives according to the laws of conscience, as well as according to the principles established in society. He is honest, true to his word, which is why he always keeps his promises, reliable, sincere and tolerant of people. He is appreciated by friends and colleagues, as he will never betray them. It should be noted that a decent person will always act nobly and in relation to other people, even completely unknown to him. He just can't help it.
If such an individual has to lie or commit an ugly act, he is tormented by remorse. This person is always guided by this principle: "Do to others as you want to be treated to you." He also sincerely hopes that other people live by this rule, and when he sees that his expectations do not match reality, he becomes very upset and disappointed in those around him. Howevercontinues to act like a human being.
A decent person is one who does good
We continue to consider this concept in other aspects. What does a decent person mean according to the norms of religion, in particular, according to Orthodoxy? This one who believes in God lives according to God's commandments and never violates them. However, this raises the interesting question of whether an unbeliever can be decent. Certainly yes. A person can be an atheist, but always and in everything do as his own conscience tells him, which for him is the highest judge.
A little about the fair sex
There is such a thing as a decent girl. What is usually meant by it? For a long time, she was considered a person who honors the moral principles of society, she has a young man to whom she is faithful, and such a girl begins to have sex after marriage. She is kind to everyone, merciful and soft-hearted. Needless to say, times are changing. The twenty-first century has made significant adjustments to various concepts and, of course, expanded the definition of decency. If we talk about a modern girl, then, first of all, she must be self-sufficient. Only she must choose with whom to build relationships, what they will be. In all situations, a girl who considers herself decent must maintain her self-esteem. No one canceled excellent manners, intelligence and honesty.
Origins
How is decency formed?Is this an innate quality or do we acquire it throughout life? A decent person is one who is taught from childhood to act in accordance with moral standards. He is told what is good and what is bad. His upbringing is carefully taken care of. A little later, his ideals are formed by books, as well as worthy friends. However, the above factors will not play a role if there are no sprouts of kindness in the little man from the very beginning. Unfortunately, everyone knows cases when beautiful parents who put their whole soul into raising kids grew up hard-hearted and cruel children. Therefore, unambiguous conclusions cannot be drawn, as in any life issue.
Wolf in sheep's clothing
It also happens that a person seems to be not bad, always says the right words, tries to be on good terms with everyone, cute, smiling, one gets the impression of being decent, but as soon as you start with him a common cause or ask for something, he begins to reveal his true face. That is why you should not judge people by their words, it is necessary to judge them by their actions. A decent person is one who will act with dignity in any situation.
Distinguishing Features
How to recognize a decent person? It's actually pretty hard, but you can try:
- If he promised to do something, he will try his best to do it, and if he knows he cannot, he will not even promise.
- Such a person never flatters, he is straightforward and sincere incommunication.
- He always carries himself with dignity, but he judges himself and others adequately.
- You can never accuse him of lying as he tries not to lie.
- At work, he performs his duties conscientiously, never betrays colleagues to superiors and tries to help them in any difficult situation.
- He honors older people and always takes care of children, even strangers.
Perfect portrait, right? But what if such a person stumbled and committed some impartial act? Anything can happen in life, no one is immune from falls, because sometimes everything depends not only on ourselves. That is why it is necessary to learn to understand the motives of people's actions and forgive their little mistakes.
Oh times, oh mores…
You can often hear the opinion that times have changed now, and decency is not at all in fashion. The world is ruled by money, and everyone should live exclusively for themselves. Unfortunately, many do just that. They only care about "green papers", expensive cars, luxurious things, parties … But can material things replace decency, kindness, spirituality, sympathy, empathy, love, friendship? There are still people who are incredibly close to these concepts, and there are many of them, believe me. It is very important to understand that we are all just guests in this world, and therefore it is important to take care of the moral and spiritual side, and not the material side.
Let only decent and worthy people meet on your way!
