How do you see a modern person? Reliable, honest, fair? All these qualities are certainly important. But one of the main characteristics for every modern person can be called self-confidence.
Recently, our life is so fast-paced and technologically advanced that a person's confidence gives him a chance for a bright, happy future. Lacking confidence, he runs the risk of being on the sidelines of this very life.
What is confidence?
Confidence is a fairly broad concept. Each person under confidence raises certain aspects for himself. Without delving into the philosophical justification of confidence, but considering it only as a generalized psychological factor, we can say that a person’s state is taken as confidence when he considers any data to be true. Confidence, from a psychological point of view, is tantamount to faith and belief.
But if we consider the main popular definition, we get the following statement. Confidence is a person's positive perception of their own skills, abilities and achievements, which, in turn, bring satisfaction and positive emotions.when achieving the set goals. That is, it is nothing but self-confidence.
It is on self-confidence that I would like to dwell. After all, it is this quality that allows people to achieve life goals and actively coexist and communicate with each other in modern society.
When does a person develop self-confidence?
Every parent wants to see their child successful, sociable, witty. For the team to accept and for the child to feel comfortable in society.
To do this, you need to nurture the confidence of a child from an early age.
It has been proven that already at the age of elementary school, children have adequate self-esteem, corresponding to an adult.
What is the best way to raise your baby so that he grows up as a confident person?
How to build confidence in a child
- No comparison! Every child is unique. One draws beautifully, the second has a mathematical mindset, and the third is a born athlete. It is not necessary to set an example of each of them to each other. Such an approach will only humiliate the little man.
- Praise. It is necessary strictly dosed. If a child always easily copes with complex tasks, this is the norm and one should not sing praises to him. And if he suddenly received “excellent” in the Russian language, which was not previously given to him, this is just an opportunity to rejoice and praise his child from the bottom of his heart. Naturally, the examples given are conditional and one should act according to the situation.
- Adequate condemnation. If athe child made a mistake, messed up, offended someone, only his actions and deeds need to be condemned. In no case should you tell the child “you are bad”, “you are naughty”. It’s more correct to say “this is the wrong thing to do”, “you shouldn’t have done that”. After all, confidence is a very shaky state in childhood. And to nurture or ruin her is all in the hands of adults.
How to Gain Confidence as an Adult
If it happened that from an early age a person's confidence in himself, in others, and in life in general is not instilled. If a person grew up and matured in doubts and with unstable self-esteem - do not think that everything is lost.
Confidence is a very elastic concept. And it can change throughout life more than once.
It is quite possible for an adult to instill self-confidence and raise his self-esteem. To do this, you need to follow a few points:
- Clear for yourself that you really need to work on yourself. A person must himself strive to increase self-esteem, without his participation this undertaking is useless
- Surround yourself with fellowship. Start communicating with people with whom communication seemed unusual and unusual before. Do not refuse friendly meetings and gatherings. Open up in conversations. Without active, adequate, diverse communication, it is quite difficult to gain self-confidence.
- Eye to eye! When meeting and communicating, you should try not to look away. After all, direct eye contact is one of the main signs of a confident person.
- Fear out! Having overcome your basic fears, you can automatically be considered a self-confident person, courageous and strong both morally and physically. If you are afraid to ride the elevator, sit down and ride up and down. If you are afraid of cockroaches, visit exotic insect exhibitions.
Getting self-confidence, each person becomes real. Only with confidence can he accept and understand the world around him exactly as it really is. But this is precisely what is important for a full and high-quality life.
